K.,
I just prayed for you. It takes courage to end a marriage and move on. I just did myself and I have a 6 yr old. My divorce is almost final. I understand the feeling of powerlessness and frustration when the ex wants to try and control the life of the one who is no longer there ( or "his"). We are women with dignity and grace; mothers with the "hardest job in the world", but also the most rewarding. Men who have lost so much can prey upon the need to have power over others. I pray that you have the courage and strength to hold your head high and follow God's will for you. Pray for your ex-husband that he find God's will and the power to carry it out. It's hard to pray for our "enemies", but I find it to be cathartic and very effective. Prayer is powerful and it works both ways :-)
God bless
A.