A Gift?

Sorry-yes you owe a gift yet. I agree with Lea below-a $50 gift card or something reasonable off her registry.

Maybe you could talk to the other brides maids and see if you all could chip in on something?

You have given a lot. IF you can afford more without it being a hardship that is up to you, but if she expects gifts from anyone that is not okay anyways. I don't believe anyone is entitled to gifts, and with what you already spent you have been very generous already. My wedding parties gifts to me was paying for their own rentals and gowns and the limo, and it was more then I ever would have asked of them. I can not believe the amount of personal money brides except their bridal parties to shell out these days.

Yes, you need to get her a gift-but you have a year!

Yes, a gift is appropriate.

I would get a card with a gift card to a nice restaurant such as a local steakhouse or hibachi house, probably only for $50 but you should do what you can do. Nothing big or extravagant but something.

You're not off the hook yet - a gift is still appropriate.
It doesn't have to be expensive or even on her registry list.
A crystal vase, candy dish or candle holder will do nicely.

When I have been part of the wedding party, typically the other bridesmaids and I will go in together on one nice gift from the registry. If it's too late for that, you can get a little something sentimental- like a nice picture frame. Something that doesn't cost an arm and leg but will be appreciated.

Personally I don't feel you owe a gift as a gift is not something one should owe another. Giving a gift is a thoughtful and loving thing to do. If you want to get her a gift great, if not is it really that big of a deal? You're going to be there to celebrate her day with her and that is what should matter the most.

Yes you need to get a gift. It doesn't have to be expensive - a picture frame, etc.

You should give a gift, but it doesn't have to be expensive. Go with something personal that can't be purchased.

I recently gave a $20 yard sale frame with a photo to a friend who got married. I cleaned the frame very carefully and put my favorite picture of her and her new husband in it. I swiped the photo from another friend's FB account and had it printed at FedEx office. They are being photobombed by another friend's rescue draft horse and laughing so hard that they are crying).

I've always given a gift even when I'm in the wedding party. It's just expected that if you agree to be a bridesmaid that you will be responsible for certain costs, it doesn't mean you are off the hook for a gift. I tend to stick to the registry since you know they want/need those items.

i agree with the majority that a gift is still appropriate (not an absolute necessity, but somewhat expected.) i do NOT think it needs to be expensive. a nice picture frame or candy dish or bird feeder is just fine.
khairete
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I was a bridesmaid in my sister's wedding and did give her a gift, even with the cost of traveling with my family of 5 to her wedding. Our younger sister did not give a gift.

My older sister traveled home for our younger sister's wedding and she did gift her as well.

I think if you *can* you should. But if it stresses your budget at all, I would not.

I definitley still think you should give a gift.
Albeit a small one since you have spent so much money.
Usually I do a small check.
But in your case, I would buy a small dish or omething inexpensive they
could use. Like a casserole dish etc.

You should definitely get her a gift. I wouldn't get anything less than $50, even though you've already spent a lot. Personally, I tend to spend more like $125-150 on a gift for someone that I'm close to (such as someone who has asked me to be a bridesmaid).

I guess I personally would want my cousin to have an object which I gave her for a life event as important as a wedding, even though you will be in the photos (the best presence of all). It doesn't have to be an expensive gift or from the registry, just something which is personal (more personal than a gift card or a check). How about a nice photo album, a set of candle holders, a special dish, or something along those lines? I hope you have fun, regardless of what you decide to do.

Need to get a gift. You agreed to be in wedding so you knew there were expenses related to that. Those expenses have nothing to do with gift.

H. Beth,

In every wedding I have been in, I have bought the couple a gift. In two of the weddings, the bridesmaids all got together and purchased one gift for them.

If I were the bride? No. I would not expect a gift. But that's ME...everyone is different. If you don't feel like spending any more money on them - get a nice card..

Ask the other bridesmaids what they are doing and ask if they want to combine funds to buy one gift...

Yes, you need to get a gift. Do you have any talents, like drawing? If you do, you could draw some beautiful flowers and vines around her wedding invitation border, and frame it. Someone did that for me and I loved it. (Maybe you have a friend who would do it for you as a favor?) That wouldn't cost you much and it would be personal and sentimental.

Yes, you should probably still get her a gift.
Get her a $25 gift card to Amazon, Target or Bed Bath and Beyond.