A Family Member Started a Blog...

Oh B., I am so sorry they are doing this. Call them out on it! Tell them that they are being the opposite of Christ-like.
Don't hold back, B.. They are harming people and need to get a clue.

Hugs!!!!

Wow!! I have a blog and I don't blast anyone. I can't imagine!! I would definately talk to this family member about it. I wouldn't want anyone saying anything bad about my parents like that. Other than that, there is nothing you can do about it except to not read their blog anymore. Good luck!!

I would do like some suggested and meet with this person and tell them that the Bible says to honor your parents, these are your parents and you don't like to see them dishonored, and then try to explain to them that we are to be humble and kind and not arrogant and offensive as Christians. Sometimes people who become new Christians without much teaching get a bit carried away thinking they have all the answers. You don't help anyone want to be a Christian when you don't act like Christ did and he was always kind to non believers. Try to get that point across to this person and tell them to take down the blog and fb connection. It's up to them then if they do it or not I guess. Maybe also suggest a 'thank you' to your parents might be nice.

Yeah, talk to the blogger, and tell her your concerns, and that she definitely shouldn't be linking her blog to FB. That's hurtful and rude.

Tell the blogger that if she has issues with your parents, she should discuss it with them directly. What she is doing is tacky. (Assuming it's a she.)

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I would say something to them, and not be very nice about it. Some people act like children, so they need to be treated as such.

"Family member, I do not like what you are placing on your blog. Have you thought about how your family members will feel when they read this? Did you realize, by the way, that they WILL see this, and so will their friends and other family members? For example, when you wrote....I think that is disrespectful and rude. Please reconsider what you post. If you do not, I will respond to your blog on Facebook for all to see, and you will see how it feels when the tables are turned."

Just like you, most of their 'followers' will see through their thinly veiled claims of Christianity. I had a similar incident with my brother's commom-law wife a few years ago. She was taking pictures of my kids, posting them, and adding the worst comments you possibly could imagine about my kids. Everything was baseless and unfounded and just meant to hurt. I, and the rest of my small extended family, immediately cut her out of the family and when my brother asked why (though he knew the reason) we told him that we'd be happy to forgive her if she would apologize and never slander family members like that again.. Well, it's been 3 years now and we haven't seen her at a function. Can't say as we miss her.

You can't really do anything except express your displeasure to the blogger. Decide if you want to warn your parents about it or let them possibly find out about it on their own. They may never read it if you don't bring attention to it, but there really is no way to know. Sorry about the situation...some people aren't worth the space they occupy.

Wow how devestating and sad. Especially since they invited you to participate and they blasted your parents. Defend your family and request that they remove all negative comments. Very hurtful and disrespectful. If they won't, I would blog for everyone to see that you won't be participating in a site that demeans, disrespects or puts down anyone in the family.

People sure have a way of showing their true colors dont they? At least you know what type of person they all. I would contact this person and tell them that you dont appreciate them blasting your parents like that, especially seeings how they have done so much for them in the past or present. It isnt fair, or right of them to do so in a public forum like Facebook and would have hoped they'd have better manners then that. It's completely inappropriate and you wish that they would take it down or at the very least edit it.

If they are rude about it and refuse to take it down or edit then there isnt much you can do but let whatever's going to happen, happen. It's unfortunate but what can you do. You have to prepare yourself for your parents possibly seeing it, and figure out what you are going to say, because of course it might cause some drama within the family.

It's a shame that family would write such terrible things about one another, and really not care. It's sad.

I would honestly ask this person to meet me somewhere and tell her how you feel. This is completely rude, hurtful, and slanderous. You have a right to voice your opinion as this person did. Or maybe you can report her to facebook so they can pull the post down. Depends how you ''feel'' towards this person. I'm sorry you are going through this, I would be in shambles if I came across something like this. Good luck.

I agree with Tracy K. post a rebuttal to each and every negative comment he/she posts with a very short comment like "A true Christian would never try to hurt people who have been supportive in the past, even if they had different beliefs." "It is God's place to judge, not ours" "Christianity is Not an excuse to judge." This may inspire others to post their comments about this bashing. and if your parents see it they will know some of their family is supportive. If this person is affiliated with a church, talk to the pastor and appeal to them, not in anger but with worry over your parents, they may be able to help this family member to become a better Christian. I dont believe any church will encourage this.

Your parents may need to contact the blog company (Blogger, Weebly, etc.) and ask them to take it down. Many sites have such things in their TOS. That may not prevent your family member from going elsewhere or simply not referring to them by name. If it were my mom, I'd give her a head's up before someone else points it out to her.

You can also contact the person and say I don't agree and I don't know why you invited me to read a blog slamming my parents after they did x, y, z for you. What is your point? You seem very angry and should consider counseling. I'd block them on FB, too, and encourage your parents to do same.

Is there a point to the blog or is it just ranting? Does it bash them in a "humorous" way? I know a lot of times writers (funny writers) obviously get their material from real life. If it's not funny, then I don't see why you would publish it. However, blogs are like diary entries, and unfortunately you can't do anything about it, it's their choice to write what they please. I do think it's super tacky to link to it if you are friends with the people you're bashing on facebook. If you're close to this person I would talk to them - ask if they're trying to intentionally hurt your parents feelings or what they are trying to accomplish...

I am a blogger and would never do this. Ask this person if they have set in place boundaries they are willing to cross, and if they have considered the consequences of this. Ask her if she realizes that friends family who know her parents and even her own parents will see her hurtful words. Though I do wonder, is she talking about current things, and are they true? It really just depends... But even in that case, she is an adult, doesn't she have anything better to blog about? Aside from questioning, you can't really ask her to remove her content or demand it. But you can tell others her blog is trash and not to read it or to take it with a grain of salt.

Just to be clear, I am not against airing grievences... but promoting them where that same circle of people can see it is different. If I wanted to have writing therapy and blast people, I would do it anonymously on a private blog.

Ugh with the blogs already. People whining and posting. Everyone's an author now-only they have no etiquette (some people. some blogs are great, don't get me wrong),

You're not the only one who feels this way. I'd probably tell him, 'Hey, I unsubscribed to your blog. I think it's unkind and very un-Christian. I think your parents will be hurt and humiliated to see it and it's not fair to them. It really makes you look unkind and small to air all this publicly. Just letting you know."

If he jumps down your throat so be it. If they do see it, offer your support, tell them just what you said here, that without them he would be nowhere, and you have voiced your offense at his actions and do not read it, and hopefully they wont' let it make them too sad. I'm sorry to hear this. If my brother did this, I would definitely give him an earful in no uncertain terms.

My best friend has a sister who is bitter against their "imperfect but good" parents. My friend tells her all the time she doesn't want to hear the griping. If the sister posted a public blog about it, I know for sure my friend would quit speaking to her. Tell him to save it for his therapist.

I'm not sure what the others said but I would definitely say something to the person and ask them to at least change the name and let them know that you think it is horribly wrong for them to publicly do something like that (privately it's wrong too of course). I would be as nice as you possibly can be, do NOT make a big deal or rant or anything like that but just confront them and say "I'd appreciate it if you'd leave my parents out of your blogs. If you feel you can't do that, at least change their names so people can't identify them" or somethign to that affect. I would be very tempted to ask them why they think it's okay and why they wanted you to read it...that's really odd in my book!! Good luck and so sorry you have to deal with that :(

I would consider consulting a qualified attorney about a possible defamation issue.

As a free speech proponent I'm not a fan of actions which chill speech. But private people are private people and depending on what's going on there may be appropriate steps to be taken.

Good luck and I hope you can resolve this issue with the least hurt possible.

Not much you can do but support them if they do find out. :(

oooow, really tasteless. I would mention in PERSON, not internet. That what this person is doing is super super tacky, and could potentially be hurtful to the people who helped them. Everyone doesnt have to love everyone all the time, but there should be some sort of deep down appreciation to someone who helped raise them, at least a smidge of respect. I think someone below said, not much you can do now, but rally behind them, support them if they find out, but dont tell them about it.

OUI, christian no less... Religion and belief is the HARDEST thing to approach. people get a bible in there hands and they think its a BAZOOKA! POW POW POW POW... all you non believerssss I am gonna blast ya with the TRUE WORD, KA POW and miraculously people come to god. Well it doesn't go that way I know. The best thing? research. Get yourself ARMED with tons of bible references, a sorts of things. There is such a thing as the commandments and there is things like HONOR THY FATHER and MOTHER so it may go well with you. They may not be parents to this fellow but they are elders, and I KNOW some where in that great book of books their has to be something about being kind, respectful, compassionate, and HUMBLE... ARRRGHHH <rips hair out> DONE

That is sad. I am sorry you feel so upset over the situation. It would difficult to read unsatisfactory words about your parents.

That being said, this family member could be using her blog as a way of release, by writing things down. It is beyond me why she would want to make her blog public unless it was to be helpful to others in the same situation. Obviously we don't know what caused this family member to write such awful things or what the relationship was between them and your parents.

Hugs.

This is about religion? Why can't peeps keep that stuff to themselves? Believe what you want but don't push it on others or peck at them because they have different beliefs. Sheesh.

B., I don't remember your story exactly. But didn't you have a really rough time of it growing up? Maybe you are taking this just a little too personal. I haven't read what they said. So I can't really say. I just think it sounds like a major difference of opinion and sometimes as parents, we need to own up to our mistakes. OUCH. I'm sorry that this is happening.

Is what this person saying true? You said they are degrading and awful...but are they true? Is it this person's truth? If they are true than I would NOT get involved at all. If this person is bold faced lying then I would certainly say something. Let your parents decide what to do.
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What's that saying.. if you want peace, then begin talking to your enemies...
Seems to me that many people get on the bandwagon and start preaching and confuse preaching with effective, constructive, communication..That said... IF that person is so concerned about bringing people into the light, then I would try a more positive approach.. Sounds like there are some issues for all parties to hash out. I view comments this way.. they only hurt in relation to how true they are or aren't... so, if your parents haven't done any harm and believe in their hearts they are good people.. then maybe the blog won't bother them...

Wow! In our town someone turned their blog into a book. It was poorly written a rant, with a tenious tie to a "point" and caused a lot of drama in our community for awhile. It was truthful but came off whiny and brought a lot of negative attention to herself and her family.

I wonder if people start these thinking they can get a book deal and make a lot of money. It takes a certain finesse that most of us don't have to do that sort of thing with grace. I'm not sure I can even spell it ;-). Anyway, one of the best blogs I've read is Crazy Aunt Purl. Very cute account of a transplanted southerner who found herself divorced with three cats in L.A.. She's able to be funny without being hurtful, describing situations from her southern point of view, starring her as the klutz(for the lack of a better word) of the story.

I'm so sorry your sister has done this. Unfortunately people think to be funny and on the cutting edge they have to be bitchy about it.

I'm trying to think what I would do if one of my siblings did that. I think I'd have to ask them why they are doing it and let them know I didn't approve of their methods and leave me out of it as far as dealing with your parents, community, etc. You are right, none of us are perfect but most of us don't deserve to be lambasted on the Internet of all places! Hope you get better more concrete answers than mine.....

I would lovingly and carefully ask them to remove the parts that involve your parents since this could very well PREVENT them from ever wanting to become Christians. There's a saying, "Christians shoot their wounded." What this person is doing is exactly that!

How about a plaque for their living room wall:

"If you can't say something nice..."

I don't know anything about blogs or FB. Do they have a "report this as inappropriate" category like Mamapedia? If not, they need one. Otherwise, I'm with the other posters - if they refuse to remove it, I'd turn the tables on them.

Good luck!