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My only advise is to try and talk about it. Maybe he is going through a hard time with the new adjustment. Men never realize the work that comes with a baby until it is hereand then they also fell that they can't really do anything because it is bread into them that the mother is supossed to do all the work. So give him credit that he is trying and that he is still helping.

I understand for the first two days you can be tired. After a while your mother instints will say .. "give me my baby." You're alright, and you are so lucky you have a nice father. Usually some men won't even try.
Breast feeding Baby will help alot. Not only is it good for both you and the baby, but you can have alot of resting time on the bed with your baby, getting closer and closer to each other.
When I gave birth, I had a lot of movies alot of food, and I had a ball with my new baby in bed. Thank god for television, I had the sweetest time with my child.

I hope things are going better. It can be tough with a new baby at the same time keeping up with a relationship that was two and is now three...four with a mom-in-law. It is good you have her for support.

Are you breastfeeding baby? Make sure you are eating healthy and drinking lots of water...for your migranes. That usually helps with rest, don't forget to get around and excercise - even if it is just down the road. Try parking across the parking lot for extra steps for starters...REMEMBER to sleep/rest when baby sleeps. That was the best advice I had with my daughter...when baby is up and just lying there looking around - then do some things here and there. I know, better said than done.

A routine will usually set in once things start to be more familiar with a new precious one.

Good luck!

Did you get a c-section? If you did it is probably from the anhesthesia. When you take a nap or sleep, position your body upright and straight, no pillows. That was suggested by my doctor, together with some meds that she called almost like street drug, which I never took. Also, caffeine could be one of the source of your headache.
I had all c-sections for my three boys and my husband did not wake up in the middle of the night to change pampers or feed the boys. You have to stop thinking tired, push yourself and put in you mind that you love your child and you are doing it for your child. That is how I survived. Also, I read in a Parent magazine that the baby can sense the mother's feelings so don't be cranky or else your baby will be cranky also. Good luck.

Hafa Adai, I am a mother of two and understand where your cming from. First of all being a new mother is hard work and just giving birth takes alot out of you. It sounds as if your migranes are getting into your relationship and my best advice is for you to see a doctor about it. Second, If your boyfriend understands that it is hard work taking care of a baby, there is more to come. The both of you need to come to an understanding that as new parents, you will meet new challenges raising a child. You both need to communicate and give your child the best care you know how. If you do see a doctor, ask him/her about Postpartum Depression. Some mothers do get this and you need to get help as soon as you can. Take care and I hope I helped out a little.

Hello! I am a mother of THREE (2 are my own and one instant from my husband). I gave birth to my youngest about 5 months ago. As for the exhaustion, it's NORMAL...TRUST ME! As the baby gets older, it will become easier to attend to his/her needs because the exhaustion won't be as bad. Your boyfriend has to realize that as a new mother, your body is going through a LOT of changes right now...ESPECIALLY with your hormones! Your hormones are trying to balance out again, which is what is causing you to be so exhausted! When you go to see your doctor for your post-partom check-up, bring your boyfriend with you and ask your doctor for suggestions on how to deal with the exhaustion and the migraine headaches. This way HE can hear it for HIMSELF! Maybe this will help him understand why you are always so tired and why HE needs to do his part as DADDY! Is this his first as well? Anyway, if you have any questions, feel free to respond. Good luck on your new journey through PARENTHOOD!!!

first of all go see your doc and get a check up. part of that is your body is trying to ajust back to normal. being a first time mom you do need your rest but you need to spend more time with the your baby or your baby will be so use to your husband or mother-in-law and will refuse you. Your husband needs his rest to it take two to be parents I'm not sounding meant but when get to handle your baby you will fill the closest that sometime you don't want anyone to take of your baby. I'm a mother of four and grandmother of ten. Like I always tell my kids we are all here on earth on borrow time. so enjoy them while their still around cause he can always take them back again. pls don't be mad about my comments love to hear from you again.
L.

Take one day at a time. Know that after birth a mother must relax and rest a lot to work up the strength for the little one. In due time things will get easier.

The key to this issue is communication. Talk to your boyfriend about how you feel. Take turns talking. Let him also talk about his feelings about this issue. You can plan a schedule on taking turns on taking care of your baby. It will also help if you have your in-laws or your parents help out when you need them, but it would be better if both you and your husband do most of the care because this is the time for the baby to know you (called bonding). Do you breastfeed? It is better to breastfeed. Breastfeeding help your body get back to normal (your uterus goes back to its normal size, your hormones...). Also, it is good for your baby to prevent illness/allergies. If you don't breastfeed, it is ok to take medicine for your headache. Sleep when the baby sleeps. Drink lots of water (also milk) to help you relax and hydrate you especially if your breastfeeding. Giving massage to each other (with your boyfriend) will help take the stress from the both of you. Being a new parent needs adjustment. Talk to your doctor if your headache worsens. If you have internet access, check online for tips on being a new parent. Having a new baby (for the first time) is difficult, but it should also be one of the greatest thing that ever happened in your lives. Congratulations on your new baby and good luck to both of you.

Well he needs to grow up and support U more. He just doesn't understand what it's like too carry and give birth to a baby.
Maybe Ur exhausted because U really haven't gotten the rest that U really need.
When Ur baby is sleeping take that time too also get some rest. We as mothers all go through what U r going through.
And well I was very lucky that my husband really helped out with my children. Like I said tell Ur boyfriend too grow up.
He's a father now U didn't do this on Ur own, it takes 2 too make 1. So tell him too stop being a baby himself, and help U out with Ur baby. Congrads and good luck. God Bless.

I was always tired because breastfeeding takes a lot out of you. i also had migraines often from coffee, and baby wont take your milk because baby wont like coffee. so when you stop drinking coffe you get a lot of headaches. try to drink water because that supplies oxygen to your brain and if the blood is flowing in your head from the oxygen, you're less likely to get headaches. ever notice how you smoke too much and then suddenly have a migraine?

also, baby needs to be breast fed. THEY NEED TO BE BREASTFED!! if you still have a newborn and arent breast feeding your probably doing it wrong. i hated to breast feed because my nipples were always sore. but you dont stop lactating for like 6 months, even if a little is coming out, give it to your baby. the more they suck the more you make. try making sure the whole entire areola (you know the brown part) is inside the baby's mouth. you wont feel a thing!! trust me. thats usually the trick. go to a laleche league website for more tips on breastfeeding

girl breastfeeding is WONDERFUl. yur baby sleeps 12 hours through the night. their usually happy campers. they dont cry as often and if they should get up in the middle of the night, just ROLL OVER WITH YOUR SUSU and go back to sleep. try to eat alot of fruit because it makes the milk taste sweeter so baby will always want it. youll always be thirsty and hungry, but dont be afraid to indulge. you can always burn it off later.

hope all this helps. take care. and take care of your susu!!lol

As a first time mom nothing is perfect; but your micrane must be checked right away with your primary physician. Your health is very important if you want to be around for your child. Once you have your health check then what you're feeling with resolve. Please take care of your health first. Worried about you!

Hey J., Just a little advice from the wiser.
The one of many moms. Take a nap with the baby.
If you are 'tired' please reserve that for when you should be resting.
The daddy may say things and do things differently than what he sincerely meant and sincerely does. Besides m-in-law, if you asked her, would be very happy to take the baby of your hands, sometimes.
Try this out for a while. And Take your vitamins, cause your body needs re-cope -ing time and help don't you see.
Oh God Bless you and your new family..

Hello girl. First of all do not feel guilty. Being a new mom takes alot out of us.Most men will never understand or get it. I would know I have five and everyone is different. Everyones body is different. I say tlk to him about what may be truly bugging him and let him know howyou feel. And last resort to give both of you a break. Suggestion is there someone you can trust to watch baby, so you can have a free day to rest or whatever, and , or your hubby can have a free day to for whatever as well. This suggestion is if it fits your lifestyle. Take care. Best wishes.

J., congratulations on your new baby. I guess your boyfriend really needs to come to terms about how difficult it is to care for the newborn. You will survive this phase but I know that you are feeling overwhelmed and somewhat sad that you need the help and getting it, but then when you rise, you get slack from it. Perhaps if you devised a schedule between you and daddy, i.e. he'll watch baby in the wee morning hours 2am-6am so that you can at least get a straight 4 hrs of sleep and then rotate.
Being a new mom, once, twice and three times is always difficult and you will never get enough sleep altho you really need it. That is just one downfall in being a mother. Hang in there.. baby will grow up faster than you know it. Try to have daddy understand just a little bit more. Headaches can also come from stress and dehydration. Regards to you and baby. Joanie

Hi Jasmine

I'm new to moma source and read ur request. I'm just wondering that since the baby is much older now, how r things with you and boyfriend. Hope that you've worked everything out and both of u are finding peace.
A new birth, new child, new situations always hard to make adjustments to accomodate the different lifestyle. but i know that u can do and will find away. sometimes when us ladies go thru these difficult times we feel alone and somewhat abandoned. It nice to talk to someone to help relieve pressure. Love endures all things!