So my nine yr old has been signing her school note book for about ten days. I was curious how would you moms deal with this situation? I took away her electronics games, phone. There not the crazy games like zombies and thinga they are sonic Mario and such. So she has been reading more she already reads she is reading at 5 grade level. Yea she is my first child so I'm not sure if I am doing good or is there a better way. I also had her let her teacher know what she was doing, hopeing it would show responsibility, had the talk of honesty and trust. Sorry if misspelling some I am posting using my phone no internet at home. Thx ladies!!
I found everyone. Very helpfull. Lots of blame on me of course I knew about and asked about it. Also yes very busy four kids and a new born then colds on top of everything else. I couldn't figure out what would match what she did. She is a very trusty child and she did tell me she was losing recess that's why I let it be till she brought in home. Well I got good answers
I would find out why she signed the notebook. Was it because she didn't want you to see it, or was it because she forgot to have you sign it and didn't want to get in trouble at school?
I think the punishment would vary depending on WHY she did it. In the first situation she's hiding AND lying. In the second she was irresponsible and was trying to find a solution.
I'm not sure I understand the situation. My daughter (fifth grade) has a school planner that needs to be initialed by a parent each night. Is your daughter's notebook the same?
We ask her to see it each night, if she doesn't offer it up first. How did your daughter sign this for 10 days without you knowing? Maybe I'm not reading your situation correctly.
1. She forged your name in her school planner for 10 days? Why didn't you notice that you hadn't signed her notebook for 2 weeks? Yes, I know it's hers...but it sounds like maybe there were some distractions that were making it so BOTH of you weren't adhering to your schedules. It sounds like you both need to buckle down and practice being consistent.
2. Does her punishment actually fit the crime? Does it teach her to be responsible for her own notebook and bring it to you to sign each night? If it doesn't, you might want to adjust the punishment so that it makes sense and is a good reminder of what she needs to be doing.
3. My kids aren't allowed to have any electronics during the week. They do their homework, play outside, and read their books at night. It really does help when they have a schedule and know that they are to bring me their planners to sign right after they finish their homework, so I can see homework and planners at the same time.
Best of luck!
Are you saying she forged your name and signed for you in her notebook?
That would have some serious repercussions in our household.
If my son pulled anything like that he'd be scrubbing his bathroom clean with a toothbrush.
Maybe I am different with this. Is she hiding something? Bad behavior? Not doing assignments?
My 9 year old (4th grade) knows how to scribble my initials same as I do. If it's one of those crazy nights nad I forget to sign it, she just takes care of it rather than get in trouble at school. I know, shame on me!! I honeslty don't think when my daughter does it it's a bad thing. She has my permission to do it if we forget. We have 3 kids that go in 3 different directions and some nights are just that hectic.
My sitter also has permission to sign it. She does the morning routine with the kids and comes at 615, when they are still sleeping. So either she or I will normally sign it. Minus my 7 year old. He has my husband and I take turns.
I signed things for my mom for school a lot too, we grew up the same. I'm one of 5 kids and my parents both worked and ran us in different directions after school...life gets hectic. If it was a bad thing we signed, we'd be in MAJOR trouble.
So I guess that's what I would do. Discuss with her WHY she is doing it. If it's because you guys are busy, I think maybe that's more on you. You should still be helping her to get it done. If it's because she is doing wrong, then that's totally not okay and I'd punish her at that point.
And before I get jumped on, there were maybe 1 or 2 kids who didn't do this when I was in school...so it's not like your kid is the 1st to do it or I'm the first mom to now freak out on my daughter for doing it.
This is a hard one to find a 'fitting to the crime' punishment. It needs dealt with in the harshest of ways though in my opinion. Be sure the teacher is checking her daily for other ways she's cheating or being un trustworthy and tell her how very sad you are that you can no longer trust her until she shows she is trustworthy again. You need to ask to see the notebook each night to sign it. I know as a mother you are teaching responsibility but I found that part of the parenting job, and not a fun part, is also checking to see that what you expect to be done is being done. I think that includes even brushing teeth for younger ones, etc. Check and see that's it done and don't just say do it and assume it's done. As for the notebook I would think you knew it was to be signed each night. Maybe not but ask the teacher to let you know what things need your signature and response, etc. You and the teacher will have to work on this all year most likely and then you and your husband should tell her that she has certain freedoms taken away until you can trust her.
I assume YOU are supposed to be signing it, correct?
Is this a new policy you were not ware of, and that's how ten days went by?
I also assume you asked her about it, why she didn't want you to see it and/or sign it?
Unless hiding information and/or lying is normal for her I'm not sure why you took away her video games.
I would be more concerned about why she doesn't want you to see her work, and why (perhaps) she isn't completing her work and getting it done.
PREVENTION is almost always more effective than punishment after the fact.
Personally, I would start with going to bed early "because you are obviously too tired to behave at school". then on the 2nd day, go to bed early AND do one chore, and make it a chore that will take awhile like vacuum several rooms, dust all the pictures, windex the bathroom mirrors, rake the yard. And then add a chore a day AND go to bed early. You just have to find HER buttons and push them. If she needs positive reinforcement, then offer 25 cents per day of UNSIGNED book toward a goal.
I'm not trying to say you are distracted or anything, but have you asked her why she did it? Is she behind on her work or assignments?
I did this when I was in school once. I signed off on my own reading homework for a couple weeks. My mom was too distracted with divorcing my father and other things to notice until the teacher called home. Not because I wasn't reading the homework and keeping up in class, but because she wanted to call and tell her how well I was doing in my reading and schoolwork. When my mom asked me about it, I told her why I did it. I told her I didn't want to bother her while she was having such a rough time. She didn't punish me, but did talk to me about everything. She also made a point of doing much better after that.
Hmmm? She goes 10 days without you noticing/asking about her notebook? It sounds like the error falls to both of you, and more on you if your daughter wasn't trying to hide anything (like not doing the work).
i would also add (to the confusion, and advice already given) that i would make sure she didn't feel the need to lie, and make sure i did it myself so she wouldn't have the chance to do it.
