9 Year Old Overly Emotional and Sensitive

Some girls start their period at a very early age, this could be harmones if that is the case. Otherwise, communicate with her, asking if there is something that is bothering her , so that makes everything else seem extra. Let her know that she c an't enjoy today, or the moment if she harbors resentment or keeps thinking of something that upset her, that she has to try, and it will take work to let it go, roll off of her back so to speak. Also I've had my children try to think what it would be like to be the other person and if they did the same things would that upset them, or would she think that wasn't enough for anyone to be upset about? I do think that if a child gets upset over (supposedly nothing) that after awhile the other kids start to think (oh please for crying out loud) and may then start to make her upset on purpose, but in the long run would have to take responsibility for starting it so to speak. I know when a person thinks they have been slighted or mistreated it is very hard to see that they may be wrong. (and she may not be) I'm just saying if she is getting upset over nothing, it will take patience and work, to come out of it, and like I said it could be early puberty, and we all know that our hormones can make us feel like for a day or two that (EVERYONE)else is wrong, and it is easy to cry at the drop of a hat. Hope you find out what will help, as I know she must feel miserable, and as a parent it hurts to see a child hurt.

Hey C.,

I'm sorry to hear about what's going on at school. I would suggest buying her a cute little journal and pen set as a little gift. Talk to her teacher about allowing her to take it to class as well. That way anytime she starts feeling overwelmed with emotion she can open up her journal and jot down what's upsetting her, or how she's feeling or even just doodle a little picture. This would be a more positive outlet for her feelings. I have been journaling since grade school. I will go through periods when I just don't have time for journaling and I notice that I'm not as upbeat as normal. Once I get back into the routine of journaling each day my spirits are always better. Just a thought! Good luck.

C.,
I really like Eileen's idea with the journal. I think getting her feelings out is important for her. The only thing that sort of scares me with her bringing it to school if one of those girls steals it and reads her feelings aloud.

I would also sit down like I'm sure you do and tell her it's okay to be frustrated, upset, etc. but she also needs to find a way to "control" her feelings and not let them get the best of her. Let her know how you handle tough times, that you also want to cry, have her count to 10 in her head, breathing techniques, something that she feels she can have "control" over her feelings. That's why I do agree with Eileen and the journal.

God Bless Her!

Hello C.,

At this age they're going through some changes and girls can be mean. if they're harassing your daughter, the teacher needs to do a better job at controlling the other girls.
Good luck! ~C.~

Hi C.,

Does your daughter have friends of her own? Are she in activities to make her feel more lively? Such as dance? Drama? Music etc? If not it might not be a bad idea to get her involve in some type of activity that might build her self-esteem. I instruct a dance studio, and the girls there are more than just a dance team. they are a sisterhood. Also they are apart of a program called My Big my Little program in which they are paired with a big sister role model. They also participate in alot of activities throughout Dallas. I'm not telling you this just because I am an instructor. But I believe she should be apart some type of activituy. If not this one... something. Karate... gymnastics... something... if you want me info about the classes email me at ____@____.com
Hope I was some help! I wish you and your daughter the best!!!

C.,

I'm reading your post and writing a response kind of on the fly, but it sounds like your daughter may have issues that go beyond just being sensitive. I'm no expert, but I think I would consult with a professional...maybe start with your pediatrician...look for a play therapist...talk to someone at school in special education about possible processing disorder. Another great resource could be the Center for Social Success. It is headed by Dr. Susan Istre, who was an R.N. and then earned her doctorate in counseling. They provide all kinds of services to parents and children, from play therapy, group therapy, parent-child counseling, testing, etc. I heard her speak at a MOPS meeting several years ago and was impressed. Google either her name or the Center's name for their website. I wish you all the best.