Should a 9 year old girl suck her fingers, carry around a baby blanket, and make sounds instead of using words? Screams at the top of her lungs when I shut my bedroom door, and she is way out in the kitchen getting something? its the strangest behavior I have ever seen in a child this age. its almost as if she is 2. I am just the Girlfriend
I am just the GF but her dad tells me she is his baby and that she has always been like this, that she's just different and that is normal. I do not agree. The mom gives in and lets her get her way with everything......The dad my BF only see her every other weekend..........I have a son who is 11 and I have not seen him throw fits like this in 9 years.........but she doesn't seem to have any friends her age.........gets in alot of trouble at school and doesn't seem to have friends at school either..........I work in the kitchen at a school and talked to some of our teachers who work with children with troubles ..........one said run........but I don't think I want to run.........not from her and not from her dad who has been friends with my family for 35 years..........I was just seeking help........I would like to take this one step at a time and the finger sucking would be the first thing.........
No, I do not think this is "normal". It sounds like a cry for attention. Could she be feeling like she is ignored because dad has a girlfriend? How does her mom handle the relationship? I would call her pediatrician or get dad involved with this as quickly as possible.
Is this serious? I don't see how someone could think this is remotely normal. I would think this child needs to see a behavioral therapist ASAP. My 21 MONTH old doesn't even act like this.
I wouldn't say this is normal behavior.
I would have the following questions:
What else is going on in her life that would make her feel not secure?
how are things at school?
If you are the 'girlfriend' what is dad doing about it (I assume you are the dad's g'friend)?
What is the mom's role?
Who does she live with?
How have the adults in her life made her feel secure and how have they established consistent routines for her to follow?
If her parents aren't able to help her, I would say you need to start with her physician and get help from there.
I have more questions than answers. A little history would be helpful.
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Is she like this when she is stressed out, insecure or lonely, or is she like this all the time? If it's all the time, it sounds like she has severe problems. If your boyfriend is not working to find out what's wrong and how to help his daughter, you need to bring it to his attention, and if he doesn't deal with it, leave him and report it.
As the other mom's have suggested you are leaving a lot out. The child sounds insecure at least, so I would ask why?
School evaluation and a parenting class might help.
So, this is your Boyfriend's, child????
Is your Boyfriend, wondering about this too?
No, it does not seem age appropriate at all.
And at this age, she is probably acting out, in relation to her home life and the parenting she is receiving.
A few thoughts come to mind: 1) perhaps she is feeling the need for more attention from her parents. 2) maybe as a baby, toddler she did not receive enough snuggling and affection, so she reverts to this baby stage to try and revisit that stage.
My daughter is 9 and at that age, she should be more interested in Justin Bieber and socializing with her friends than acting like a toddler. I think this is a serious issue and as the gf, you can only talk to her dad and perhaps convince him to get her in counseling. With the mom's involvement of course. Perhaps she is reverting back to child-like behavior because of the breakup of her parents??? Is she like this even when you are not around?
It sounds to me like she could use going to a child developmental center and be tested. A child going through a bad break up of her parents may lean on the sucking fingers and carrying around a baby blanket for comfort but making sounds instead of words and screaming because you shut the bedroom door shows there is more problems then just a child going for attention. The problem is getting her parents to agree with it.
Does she do this all the time or just when she is upset? Please re-post with moreinformation. Something is going on with this child but more information is needed to offer assistance.
To me it sounds like she is doing it for attention like every one eles says . But there may be other reasons also . Her parents not you since you are only the girlfriend need to get her the help she needs . If she is doing it just because of you and she is fine with her mother then you need to look in to why . Mabey she feels you are the cause of the break up of her parents and does not like you and try to anoy you in every way she can . You left allot out in your question so every one can only guess a answer to help you .
Heavens no! What does the mom say about this behavior? Has her daughter always been like this or did she regress? She should take her to see a child psychologist. May be something more going on.
I assume she doesn't get out much.
If she acts this way in school, the other kids will tease her and the behavior will stop. Peer pressure does the trick most of the time.
My guess she's only doing this around parents or grownups. Which means that she's acting out for attention. When she acts like this, don't give her ANY attention --you don't hear her or see her.
Figure out what she really wants and give her the attention she needs. Praise her when she does good stuff. At least she's not piercing or tattooing or doing anything permanent.
No, that doesn't sound 'normal'. Something is bothering her. Maybe it has to do with her parents not being together? Not sure since we don't have the full story so its hard to know exactly why she would be doing this.
Sounds like a trip to the Doctor is in order. This is very unusual.
