9 Month 3 Week Old Tantrum???

My son did the same thing around the same age. I explained to him that the behavior will not be tolerated by mommy and he would cry. But when I would tell him no for certain things his legs would give way and he would have an aggressive scream. I just ignored him and I do not see them as much. Good luck and congratz on the baby.

Yes, you're right. He is frustrated. He's frustrated because there's so much he needs to say and do but, can't.

This when you and your hubby come in and do two things: validate his feelings and show him how to communicate his feelings.

A really cool thing to try is baby sign language. You won't believe the confidence it will give your baby knowing he can communicate even that he's thirsty or he wants more cookies.

There are tons of books on baby sign language.

When you steer him away from dangerous objects tell him exactly why you're doing it. I always used to say "No. That is not for babies. You can get hurt and Mommy will be sad." You may feel nuts speaking to a baby like an adult but, I promise you, he will appreciate it and trust you. Now, not only do you explain as simply as possible that he can be hurt (can also say "That is an ouch!") but offer him something else to learn.

You have to remember how amazing the world is to babies. They are curious and you don't want to squash his curiosity while giving boundaries. So, "the stove is not for babies" but let me show you something else really, really cool" and then introduce something odd that he can touch like letting him stick his hands in a bowl of raw rice grains or fingerpaint or tap on the keyboard or anything safe that is "new" to him. I used to open a new Word document and make the font large and bold and help my son hit a key so he can see the consequence. Explain every thing that's happening in simple terms but real terms. He'll get it eventually and like I said appreciate you and trust you and have so much confidence in himself. My son is 3 now and can type his own name!

Your baby just feels so helpless and is overwhelmed with world.

Sign language also helps them to speak sooner which will also help curb frustration.

Have fun teaching your baby the world and building his confidence.

First of all, congratulations. I, too had treatments in order to get pregnant. It sounds a little early for tantrums, but I guess it can happen that early. If it is true tantrum (which I thought started around 12 months or so), you just have to ignore it. Make sure he is in a safe place so he can't get hurt. My son did that around 15 months, and he's now 20 months. At first, I didn't know what he was doing. I thought if I talked to him and asked him about things, it would be better. I realized I was just feeding into the tantrum. I looked on line for advice, and they all said the same thing... Ignore it. So next time he did this, I put him in his ball pit (small one in the playroom) and I sat on the chair pretended to watch TV and acted unaffected by his tantrum. He did this maybe twice more, and since he didn't get any reaction from me, it wasn't worth his time... I think the important thing is to make sure he is in a safe area, and don't feed into the tantrum by babying him. Ofcourse if he's crying real hard and doesn't seem to calm down, then you want to jump in to calm him down. Hope it works for you, I know the helpless feeling.

Hi L.,

I have a 9 month old son and he does the same thing! He loves to push his big brother's cars around the floor but when they topple over he gets angry and yells at them, picks them up and bangs them on the floor. When he does this and won't move on to something else, we gently show him how to push the cars without leaning on them so they won't tip. If this doesn't work, we take the toy away from him for awhile and give him something less complicated like a rattle or some blocks.

As far as the stove and such, we tell him no and redirect him to play somewhere or with something/someone else. He usually throws a tantrum but it only lasts a few moments. With "no-touch" things, there really isn't any other option.

Don't worry, he'll understand eventually. He's just testing the world around him and seeing how far he can go. Be firm but gentle. Tell him "no bite" and distract/redirect him.

Hope this helps! Congratulations on your little one.
C.

First of all, congratulations on the birth of your son!

I think in this situation, that distraction has to be the name of the game. First explain why his behavior is unacceptable (believe me they understand a lot more than you think, even when they can't talk yet). Then offer an alternative. For example, if he's headed for an outlet (which of course should be plugged up), say, "no, no, that's dangerous", and then take him to see something that he would think is great, like go outside or show him a toy you'd be happy for him to touch. You might even take a stuffed animal and pretend that the animal is talking to him. Any distraction should make him laugh and forget what he was heading toward. Also, if a toy is frustrating to him, maybe you should put it away for a while. It could be that if it's not "acting" the way he expects it to, he's not ready for it, so keeping things simpler for him as he develops, will ease his frustration. I hope this helps! Good luck!

my daughter has been having tantrums since she was about 9 months old. it's definitely because of the lack of ability to tell you exactly what they want. also for her, she does it with the word no! i've been talking to someone else, just saying the word no (and in no way was directed to her) and she just threw a tantrum. she's 17 months and it's gotten better. we bought her one of those kiddie couches (all pillow/soft) and it unfolds into a lil bed kinda deal...well, after we got her that, we told her that if she felt the need to throw a tantrum and go crazy slamming her head, kicking and screaming, to do it on there. from time to time she opens it and just sits, looks at us, then throws herself backwards, and THRASHES around sometimes screaming in a very excited HIGH PITCH shrill...then she stops and starts laughing. since that started, the tantrums aren't as bad or frequent (at home at least). other then that, we try to distract her with something else, it usually helps. and definitely ignore him with the tantrum...just act like he's not doing it after your initial "No" or "this isn't acceptable". if someone laughs at her, or tries to talk to her to calm her down, it just makes things worse. so just pretend that their not even doing it. if they don't get the reaction, they tend to stop. good luck!

my son is two years and he had tantrums at that age but once he learned how to express and communicate with me all that stopped you have to give him room to grow and find himself i assure he will find his self it also helps to punish him so he knows that he cant act that way the best thing to do at hat age is to seclude him from everyone else like a timeout put him in nis crib for a few mintues when he gets like that believe me you it helps it sounds like a small thing but it really helps

My daughter once discovered a tiny wooden box at grandma's house that had a snake pop out once you opened the cover. It terrified her and we've used that to our advantage. Whenever she goes near a dangerous object we tell her not to touch and that the snake will pop out of there and show her how (the motion with a finger). She seems to understand that very well. Also the best thing to do since toddlers are very rebellious and will specifically do what you tell them not to is to simply divert their attention with something more exciting. Casually mention to your son that he shouldn't do/touch and immediately give him something else to play with that you know he enjoys. Patience is a virtue so keep explaining to him that the toy doesn't do this or that, but look what this other toy can do!