8 Year Old Son Needs Help I Just Dont Know What Kind

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well, it sounds just like ADD or ADHD to me. My oldest, now 40, was very similar and he now has a Phd. I worked with him a lot, at that time. Get him tested, and go from there. Good luck.

This is definitely not normal, but after just reading this short "blurb," I can't possibly guess what's wrong. Have you talked to your son's pediatrician? You should ask him/her for a referral to a testing facility that can test for underlying cognitive issues. Once you have a diagnosis, then they can give you specific ways to help support your son and the school will also be able to do a better job meeting his needs.

The school district may also be willing to do some testing, but that is generally a *VERY* slow process and many school districts can't test for a wide range of issues. They also may be limited by funding to providing testing only for those students who are at or below the 5th percentile in testing or only for those students who are failing.

I would recommend getting the testing done sooner rather than later, so that you can do as much therapy (if necessary) earlier when it has a better chance of success and often goes faster.

Good luck!

This sounds very much like my 12 year old daughter. She has a receptive language disability. The sooner you get him evaluated and get him the help he needs if that is the case, based on my experience, the better both of your lives will become.

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He sounds like he's distracted. Do you know of anything else he has going on in his life like bullying? Get him in with the guidance counselor and see if they can uncover what's going on with him. Also have his pediatrician check him for nutritional deficiencies or diabetes. These conditions can cause confusion as well. Hope this helps, best of luck

I get so tired of people trying to sell stuff on here when you are looking for REAL answers... Talk to his doctor and see if their is a specialist in your area. it almost sounds like dislexia or add/adhd but im no doctor. talking to your doc is the only way to get help. If you are in louisville a great place is the bingham child guidance center

It may or may not be anything serious, but you should have him evaluated. His school should be able to help with this, and I'm a little surprised that (due to her sending home notes every week), that his teacher or an administrator hasn't met with you about a possible evaluation. You can also discuss it with your pediatrician or find a good child psychologist and tell them you would like your son evaluated. They will go through some different tests and exercises with him to see if anything points to a learning disability or other problem. It may be something that has a very simple "fix" so don't delay! It also doesn't necessarily mean you're setting your son up for being on meds. The case may be that he DOES need some type of medication, but often times there are many other things that can be done.

Hi,
My name is S., my daughter and I have been having some of the same problems. We were getting notes from the teacher at least three times a week and e-mails almost everyday. My grandson has started to pull away from the other kids at school, and when he got in trouble for not doing his work in school the teacher would get upset and send him out in the hall. I noticed when he was sent to the hall he completed all his work. He started to get in trouble all the time just so she would send him out of the class and then he would do his work.
Today he went to see a neurologist and we were told he has aspergers with an overlapping of add. We took this information to the school he attends and were told Rockwall does not have anything in place for this disorder. We were told by his teacher before we went to the doctor that he was just lazy and just gets bored. I thought to have him checked when I was watching that new show on tv called parenthood.The child on the show was having problems in school also. You might want to watch it I think it is on fox on sundays.
I really feel that if you think something more is going on with him you should go see his ped. and let them advise you from there like we did. I hope this helps, and just know your child is not the only one out there with these problems. Good luck and God Bless

Hi Mom,
Go to your peditrican explain the situation.. ask for a refferal for your child to be tested.. We went through something similar.. The testing took time 8 visits but we learned my seven year old had low executive function as well as ADD.. Knowing what is going on is helpful and how to handle behaviors ect.. or treatments.
Best of luck,
Lenc

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Oh, by the way where is Mount Juliet. I grew up in Johnson City, Tn.

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I am sorry that you are dealing with this because I deal with this also on a daily basis. I hate to tell you that my son who is now 15 is just starting to show a difference. He is growing up. His self-esteem is getting better and that helps so much. He is a smart boy but just lazy. He just recently got his driving permit and that is something I can use to catch his attention. My 19-year-old daughter just brought her old car down here and left it. He has a car and a permit to drive it if he can show me some improvement.

I have also found knives, forks, and plates in the trash. His kindergarten had a conference with me and told me that there was something wrong with him. It takes some boys so long to grow up!! I have to leave for work at 6 am and he is left by himself to get his breakfast and get off to school. He is wonderful about the school part but I really don't know about anything else. I took him to the doctor and found out that his thyroid was low but he took the medication for about 2 weeks. I wish I could tell you that there was a magical answer but I am seeing improvement in baby steps. Best of luck!!

Hi J.,

This is typical of a child that has too much stimuli in his system. I detoxed my home and removed all the synthetic chemicals from it and it was the difference between shopping at Walmart and sitting on the beach.....We all think clearer at the beach. We're more relaxed. The air is cleaner.

Synthetic chemicals can cause symptoms of confusion, stress, anxiety, hyperactivity, depression and many many more. My youngest could not read at age seven. I knew she knew everything I had taught her, she simply could not do it. When I detoxed my home, her reading was on grade level within 8 weeks. She WAS learning. She did know all the information. Her little brain was so twisted from the toxins in our home she couldn't articulate it. Her immune system got stronger and she began to function better outside the home as well.

Detoxing is not expensive. It's quite simple. At the very least he would be on a level playing field so you could get a proper diagnosis. My daughter has had no problems since....

Regards,

M.

Hey J. -

It sounds just like add, or something of the like. I also really think you should talk to his pediatrician and get a referral to a specialist who can pinpoint it for you... I agree with the receptive language comment. But please do not freak out. I have add and have had it for years.

What he's doing sounds a lot like me - to be honest. And I'm a grown woman and mother! I'll begin the washing machine... detergent and all - but forget to close the lid. An hour or two I'll walk by and notice an entire machine filled with water, suds and a half load of unwashed clothes. I've even put milk in the pantry. I can usually keep a pretty tight grasp on things if I stick to routines and schedules I have set up for our house... but on days when things go a little awry (unexpected interruptions, travel, random appointments, extended phone calls at a bad time.. etc) and I can wind up having a moment.

Thats just what I think, anyway. I would try to be calm about it and not be too hard on him for the time being, because if that is the case and he does have something like I do - its truly something he can't help and is not doing on purpose.

Best of luck to both of you!

J.,

I would not try to tell you what is going on, but you need to know for sure. Make an appointment with a Developmental Pediatrician (find them at your nearest children's hosptial) This is not your regular pediatrican, this is a specialist and they will miss nothing. If you go to doctors or therapists and request specific evaluations for specific issues, you may miss what is really happening.

One thing I can tell you is that you are not going to find you answer in the way he eats, what he has been exposed to, and what you can do to detoxify him. That is not standard care, but it is really good business for the people who sell this stuff and they are full of anicdoatal sucess stories that will make you feel empowered to take control of his issues. There is no credible evidence that this kind of thing will help developmental concerns like the ones you describe.

M.

I would just take him to the dr/pediatrician and tell them what is going on and have them test for ADD/ADHD(but if hes not having problems with school and paying attention in school then it doesnt sound like ADD/ADHD as my son has ADHD and ODD)it could be a form of autism,aspergers,a chemical imbalance or whatever it could be a bunch of things and I wouldnt try changing his diet or your cleaning agents yet as you dont know if this is the cause or if it is something mental or physical talk to a Dr first.if your Dr wont test find one who will. go to a childrens hospital if possible as well. could even be something as serious as a brain tumor bad as it sounds who knows what it is but good luck with this and hope you find what is causing your son such distress and hope he gets well soon

I agree with Susan W. My son had an auditory processing issue. He could not take but so many directions at one time as it was overwhelming. I learned from listening to Dr. Dobsen to make a list, put it on the fridge and let the child go down the list. Ex. Get up, brush teeth, wash face, eat breakfast, etc. You may be assuming too much with him. I know that sounds harsh, but with children like this you need to be specific and teach them along the way. They can't automatically understand. I had to repeat "put your dishes in the dish washer" so he would learn by repetition. My child was a loner in school with not a lot of friends either, but it has changed some over the high school years. I would get him tested in a variety of ways such as learning tests, hearing/auditory processing, vision/educational tests (we have this at our Dr's Vision), etc. I would also do as recommended with your cleaning products to change to non-toxins home made with vinegar and water or Melealuca or Shaklee style products.
Hope this all helps.

All of the answers sound good and I would encourage you to have him checked out medically. However, I would also like to offer another explanation. Did this start recently or have you noticed it before? Does your son have an active imagination? Some of your description of your son's behavior reminds me of my 17-year old when he was younger. In his case, there was no health issue. He was simply living so much in his own mind that he didn't pay attention to the outside world. Every school year has been a struggle and he is just now beginning to take an active interest in his education. So this is another possibility. But please do check your home for toxic substances--even cleaning products such as bleach--and please do have him checked out by your doctor.