7 Yo Having Accidents

Before you start institution any sort of consequences (other than the natural one of having to get changed and cleaned up), I would take her to the doctor. Sometimes, especially with girls, incontinance can be a symptom of a urinary tract infection. You want to catch those as soon as possible, so they spread up to the bladder.
Your doctor can also help you if there are emotional concerns or stressor that could be affecting this, and get you referrals if necessary.

You may want to really start asking her questions about what is going on, and really talking to her. Is she 'too busy'? Does she not feel the urge until the last moment? My daughter was having accidents at that age, and in her case she was not really feeling it until the need to 'go' was right there. She had many accidents, and lots of close calls. (I have vivid memories of sprinting toward restrooms in various public places!) In her case, it was one of several indicators that she had sensory integration issues. Not the type where the child avoids sensation, but on the opposite end where they don't sense things as well and will actually seek out sensory stimulation to wake up the brain. Children with this condition just do not feel sensations as strongly and will not always notice when they need to go. Of course, this may not be it all. But I bring it up because sometimes there are more possibilties than always meet the eye. Urinary tract infections are another possibilty. And then again, it may come down to her being 'too busy to go' in which case you may want to really have her participate in the cleanup (including washing the clothes she wet) and re-iterating each time that it takes even more time to have to stop and clean up then to just stop and use the potty. If she really is just not bothering, she should get sick of the cleanup routine pretty quickly, and realize it's just not worth it. I hope you are able to get this resolved soon!

This is usually a symptom of trauma, stress or infection at her age. I can understand having the odd accident because of not wanting to stop to go to the bathroom but not all the time. I think a trip to the doctor is in order.

This is more common than you'd think for girls this age.

Sometimes it's an infection, sometimes it's emotional, sometimes it's diabetes, and sometimes it's an over-active bladder.

Sit down with her and have a really non-confrontational talk. Let her know you're not mad, you just want to help...and need to ask her some questions to find out if she might need some medicine to help her go potty right. Ask her what you can do to help. Get her some panty liners she can wear. Explain that almost every girl in her school that's in 5th-6th grade wears these for a week each month. It's no big deal.

ask how it feels down there. ask how it feels when she's peeing. ask what color her pee is - dark or light. ask how she uses the toilet paper after (she should lightly tap once or twice and drop the tissue into the potty)

make sure she's not putting anything into her various holes down there like fingers or toilet paper. Make sure she only touches down there when her hands are clean. Make sure she's washing her private parts with ONLY WATER - not soap.

If she's not in pain when she pees, put off going to the doctor's office for about 4 days. (If there's pain, she needs medicine.) During four days, work on getting her to drink 8 glasses of water/Gatorade per day. Whenever you think about it, ask her to go drink 2 cups of water.

Buy her a watch with a timer alarm. Set it to go off every 2 hours. She goes potty when she hears the watch. She should go potty at certain times at school, too....so it's every 2 hours. This re-trains your bladder to hold it until the next time you have to pee. You pee everything out, wait one full minute and then pee everything out again.

Next time it's a problem, take her to the doctor's office. Tell your daughter that the doctor will want to look at her private parts to make sure it doesn't look infected. Explain to her that you will stay in the room with her and that it's OK because you'll be there with her and because it's a doctor who's helping to take care of her body.

It'll come back when she's stressed...but she can learn to control it. She might need the doctor's help - there's medicines for infections and over-active bladder.

Also let her know that you won't be mad at her when it happens...you just don't want people to tease her about it. so, tell her what she should do with the yucky panties when she has an accident. It's way better than her hiding them and you finding them later. yuck!

When I was about that age, I had a similar problem. It really came down to the fact that there was something new in my environment that was very stressful/scary. Working through that stopped the accidents.