7 Year Old Girl Friction

They don't have to be friends.
But teach your daughter, that being mean is not the way.
It is harder, because the other girl, will not leave her alone.
Children, are fickle and change and change friends.
This is also normal.
But if another child will not leave another child alone, then out of 'frustration', the child (yours in this case) may resort to mean-ness... in order to get away.
Children are not experts, at 'coping-skills' or social conundrums.

Perhaps talk to the teacher... since this is becoming disruptive and causing your daughter to be... very frustrated.

Even if she is sensitive to other peoples feelings... (even for adults), if a person does not leave you alone... then frustration/anger occurs.
For an adult though, they have more skills, to deal with this. We simply have more years and development to get more astute at it.
For a 7 year old, they don't.

The "American Girl" book series, is GOOD.
You can find it anywhere, even online like at Amazon, Barnes and Noble, and E-bay.
They have one about friends.

ALL children... change and their friends and interests.
The thing is... to guide our children, in how to manage, that.
Even talking to the Teacher, for ideas or assistance.

Afterall, you wouldn't want your daughter to get into trouble... over this.
But if that other girl keeps not leaving her alone... then, what can she do???
It would irk even a patient adult.

If your daughter does not want to be friends with the other girl anymore, fine.
Talk with your daughter about it. Not lecturing or judging her. But let her... talk about it and express it.
She needs an outlet.... all kids do. And we Mommies, are the soft place to fall... for our children. No matter what their issues, are.

I would never, force my kids to be friends with someone they don't want to be friends with.
But they can be civil.
Even adults, we wouldn't want to be friends with someone we just don't want to be friends, with.

A child, needs to know themselves. And this... is one part of it. Finding out, who they are and their cues.
But guide the child.

Your daughter seems VERY frustrated by all of this.
I feel, sad for her.
A 7 year old, can't just deal with this on her own. And it is making her... very angry and negative.
But she needs to... be, kind.
She seems to me, to be not able to cope. With this and the other girl.

Tell your daughter (every day) that she doesn't have to like OR be friends with everyone...but she does have to respect all of the other kids at her school.

Wouldn't life be great if we all lived like that!? ;)

I realize she's not bullying her, but being mean or unkind can leave the same kind of scars. Maybe you could use this exercise with her that is normally used to explain why not to bully. Maybe it would work:
"The teacher gave each student a clean crisp sheet of paper. She then instructed the class to crumble up the piece of paper, toss it around, get angry with it, and stomp on it.

After which, she told the students to return to their seats (with their piece of paper), flatten it out on the top of their desks, making it as flat and perfect as they can, and finally, apologize to the paper.

When all the students had done their best to iron out the paper and apologize to it, the teacher picked up the paper on the first classmates desk, held it up so the entire class could see it and said:

If this piece of paper had been another person, and you had done all those things to him or her, by making them feel less than perfect (through your words or actions), these are the scars you would leave. That person would never be the same, no matter how many times you tell them you are sorry, no matter how many times you try to smooth things out..."

Your daughter should be punished for her rude behavior. She can understand she doesn't need to be friends, but she should be taught that she can still be kind and courteous.

Ask the children's librarian at your library for book suggestions.

I bought the American Girl series books for my granddaughter and find them to be helpful.

My son liked this book a lot last year (he was 6) and it was helpful. We shared it with some other friends (their moms were looking for something like it too). It is a colorful paperback she can read on her own. Little chapters. Here's a link to Amazon if you want to look at reviews and the book.
http://www.amazon.com/How-Be-Friend-Friends-Families/dp/0...
How to Be a Friend: A Guide to Making Friends and Keeping Them (Dino Life Guides for Families) [Paperback]
Laurie Krasny Brown (Author), Marc Brown
Marc Brown (Illustrator)
4.5 out of 5 stars out of 37 reviews
Customer Quotes:
“ Good teaching book. ” - Reviewer
“ I really like this book -- it has some GREAT ideas....