6 Year Old Child in Daycare Who Insists on Wearing the Same Pants Everyday

Updated on January 24, 2009
K.W. asks from Wamego, KS
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I have a 6 year old child in my daycare who insists on wearing the same pair of leggings every day. Her parents have tried different measures to change her mind and have had no luck which is becoming very frustrating for them. They shared their concern and I told them I would put the question out to all of you great mom's who may have encountered a similiar situation. I might add that where we live it does get very cold and the leggings of course are not very warm.

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R.N.

answers from Kansas City on

I agree with most of the other answers here: This is totally not a big deal. Let it go. The parents could take her shopping for new leggings - maybe she'd go for that and have some more fashion options. But otherwise, what's the big deal? Sounds like normal kid stuff to me.

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L.B.

answers from St. Joseph on

Well I have a daughter that likes to wear the same princess dress everyday for a week around the house...but I don't let her go out in it because it's inappropriate for the weather. I don't know where you're at but I'm in KS and my daughter wears leggings and a long sleeve dress everyday to school and she is perfectly fine in it.

I'd say one of the biggest concerns would be are the leggings being washed every night? I mean kids do get dirty and this could become a health hazard...if not, then they either need to a) put their foot down and let their daughter know she does not rule the roost that they do. Once they get her in the bathtub the leggings are sprited away and not seen again for several days and she has 2-3 other outfits she can choose from, or b) they go buy 5 pairs of the same leggings and stop all the arguing...it becomes a non-issue then. Bottom line is WHY does she want to wear the leggings all the time? Are they comfortable (I know my daughter loves them), is it color, style? What? I agree the parents are letting her rule the roost here but honestly, if it's not a health concern, is it a battle even worth fighting???

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K.B.

answers from Kansas City on

I'm going to guess when her parents ignore it and don't even talk about it she will stop the struggle. It could just be a way of her getting some power.

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K.S.

answers from Kansas City on

Well, outside of the "cold" thing. What is the big deal. It's not like she will still be wearing them in a year...I'm sure she will out grow this. For warmth...is she open to additional layers, or leg warmers for the bottom half of her legs? My husband - when he was 6 wore this shirt that had the number 14 on it for 5 month straight his mother actually when an bought more shirts and had the 14 put on them so she could actually get it in the wash. It's a cute story now... he out grew it... and it's part of "who" she is. If they instist on her changing try not to break her spirit.

Ask questions like why does she like them.... color, fabric, design, tag issues? And go from there.

Good luck but if it were me... I'd just roll with it the more of a big deal is made of it the more she will use it to get attention (positive or negative).

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A.M.

answers from Kansas City on

Tell them it's normal...maybe she feels safe in them. They could be her safety net. Another idea is let her wear them but tell her since it's cold she has to wear pants/sweats over them when she is outside. (this will help with the warmth)...it's all about compromise...

I agree with some of the other posters...this is not a big battle...go buy several pairs and let her wear them. Could be worse...could have my daugther who won't wear a coat because the seams hurt her...won't wear a hat because it's too tight on her head, must have tagless underwear and the best of all only wears specific socks and the socks must be in the CORRECT position or it's a total FREAK OUT.

Tights everyday as long as they're clean...I would take it in a second if my daughter would even remotely go near tights. Again it's all about compromise...strong willed children need to feel in charge...and as parents sometimes we have to let them feel in charge, even if it's buying several pair so you don't have to wash them everyday.

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C.B.

answers from Kansas City on

i agree with the posters who advise to pick your battles carefully. i have a very strong-willed child, and honestly, i wouldn't bat an eye if he insisted on wearing the same pants every day for weeks in a row. i'd rather save my energy for making sure he eats something besides bread for every meal. or keeping him from catapaulting off the recliner! lol. as long as they're washed regularly i don't see the issue. besides, the more she wears them, the more likely they might "accidentally" get a rip or tear and "oh no!" have to be thrown out! ;)

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B.C.

answers from Joplin on

Leggings seem like a small thing compared to a child who wants to ...wear a tutu every day or some other silly thing. Kids go through different phases that seem odd to us, but I don't think it should be that big a deal, pick your battles...if they Really hate it....throw them out...they are the parents after all, part of me says she is 6, you can rationalize with a 6 year old!
If she were say...special needs and it was a sensory thing then I would be a lot more sympathetic as my niece has autism and she wears leggings a lot, even under dresses...but the same pair? If this is a "problem" at 6...I can't wait until they get to deal with some of the "fun" things kids put parents through at adolescense = )
As her care provider just nod, and be sympathetic and back up what they choose to do ( I have found that is what works best!!)
Lots of luck to them
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M.B.

answers from St. Louis on

How about them just telling her no? Dont get me wrong, I understand kids are strong willed and very opinionated but come on, the kid wearing the same thing everyday? No, she needs to change her clothes and wear things that are appropriate for the weather. I understand giving children choices and their opinions count, at her age she should be able to pick out outfits but that doesnt mean she wears the same thing everyday. If its a huge problem they could get her some more so she doesnt have to wear the same ones over and over. She needs to be punished if shes throwing these huge fits over leggings. My daughter gives me greif about naps, going to bed, eating her vegetables, anything she can really but she knows her fits get her no where. Its not going to get better if they keep giving into her. They are the parents. Also Im assuming she goes to school, they might think shes neglected if she doesnt change her clothes!

S.L.

answers from Kansas City on

I agree. It's not worth the struggle. :) My daughter goes through phases :) She'll wear clothes for 3 days until we HAVE to make her shower and change. But she is not as bad as she was.

Suzi

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