6 Year Old Behavior

Is this his first year in full-day? The transition to full-day took my daughter quite a while (and then again after every break) and while she did o.k. at school, she was a bear when she got home...fits of crying and fighting with siblings. He may just be too tired and need a quiet time. In my daughter's classroom, there is a beanbag chair she can go rest on. Would your son's teacher be willing to let/make him rest at a designated time before he loses control?

Also, is he getting enough of your attention when he gets home. My daughter finally told me that she just missed me. Once we started having 10 minutes of just us time before or after school, things improved immensely.

hope that helps,
A.

I agree with the other posts....sounds like Sensory Processing and/or Aspergers

you betcha- I have walked where you are walking right now and continue to walk in them. My son was 4 when I realized that I was not a bad parent and he was not a bad child although the looks, stares, and comments from so called friends and family members said otherwise. Then we met Mrs Robbie (she is our Occupational Therapist) She had my son in Sunday school class and after the third week of such behavior, she stepped outside into the hall and touched both of my arms and said, "you look weary and I think I might be able to help. Why don't you bring your son in to see me on Tuesday of this week and we'll let him play and we will talk." I bawled like a big ole baby because I finally felt like someone saw me in the midst of him. Within 15 minutes of us being with her she knew my son had sensory issues and he is now diagnosed with Sensory Processing Disorder- (I discovered I have the same issues and am actually worse than he is) OT has been our livesaver! Look up Sensory Processing and see if that fits your son... If it does- you will find many answers and you will get lots of help! Good luck!

OR he could be 6. Please be very careful of "labels". Yes, some are necessary, but it is my experience (over 25 years working with labeled kids) if you go looking for a label, you will find one. If you go looking for a solution, you will find that too.

Please keep in mind education not medication.

Does he have the same reactions at home?
You mentioned triggers, a month is not necessarily enough time to determine triggers or not. Keep a log of all behaviour AND FOOD!
How does he come out of the situation?
Does he know what happened when he gets like that? Is he still in control?
What is the pattern? There is ALWAYS a pattern.

R., there is so much more to it than a teacher saying he is having problems. PLEASE do your due diligence. Take him to a doctor, sure, but know that they only know medicine. As a Family Success Coach, I have seen more than my share of families getting themselves into medical situations (meaning prescribing of drugs for their kids) that could have been easily handled by change of diet and supplementation to their diet. Ask a LOT of questions. ASK what kind of natural alternatives they suggest if they begin talking about drugs.

But don't get ahead of yourself. Find out what is going on for him, with him. Ask him, talk to him, visit his classroom, do whatever you have to do to find out if this is something that needs medical attention or can it be changed with good old fashioned parenting.

B.
Family Success Coach

R.,
I have a wonderful son who went through some similar issues, he was in 2nd grade when they erupted to the extreme. My son destroyed a classroom, assaulted adults, then another child. He was removed from school, and so on. I know how you probably feel right now, really. We were (pretty much) forced to have our child transferred into an "emotionally impaired" classroom. We were very hesitant, but after a while - and him seeing a counselor - we have successfully graduated back into a regular classroom - and are doing good. (I must say a huge THANK YOU to the teachers in the EI classroom at Walled Lake Schools - they saved our family)
My son was not diagnosed with "a" particular disorder. He showed signs of many different disorders - ADHD, Oppositional Defiance Disorder, Asperger's, High functioning Autism, to name a few. My son is very intelligent, but had no social skills, and no interest in having them at the that time.
We worked on adjusting our parenting technique, (we have an older son as well), and tag teamed to make it through as parents. We had to reinforce the need for feelings, and how everyone has them, and how other people may feel when things happen, not just him. Trying to "teach" someone to have a conscience was so hard - but we were successful, eventually.
Please feel free to contact me, I had no one to talk to when we were going through this, I felt so alone. His grandma said "he's just a boy" until she was hit by him. Other parents didn't know what to say, or do.
My son is almost 11 now, and his teacher says she would have never know his past without reading it, he is truly a different child now.
I wish you the best of luck.
A.

i would also go with some type of sensory processing disorder - asperger's is the most likely culprit in my opinion based on the symptoms described. i would have a full behavioral evaluation done asap so you can get this under control as soon as possible. good luck!