A.G.
Please stay at home with your baby! You will never, ever, not in a million years, ever regret it!!!! I understand the pressure of trying to please mom, but you are right. You are an adult. Handle your business. Pay back the $5000 and stay your buns home. Believe me, being home with your daughter is worth it!!!!
If your mom gets mad, so what! She'll get over it. If she doesn't, thats her own issue! I am surprised that she is not backing you up in wanting to stay home! Does she want you to put your 6 week old in daycare?
You want to be home. Your husband wants you to be home. If your daughter could talk, she would want you to be home. NO ONE ELSE'S OPINION MATTERS, NOT EVEN YOUR MOMS!
I say this as one who speaks from experience!!!!! The stress of trying to go to school, work, care for your baby, maintain a relationship with your husband and please your mom will eat you alive! IT'S NOT WORTH IT!
Just tell your mom--"You raised me right and you did what you thought was best for me! Now I am going to do the same for my daughter!" End of discussion.
:-) I got your back on this one! :-)