Hi mamas,
My 6 month old has recently started crying if anyone he doesn't know well holds him. I know that they go through a stage like that, but it seems a little early for that. A family member who doesn't see him often made the remark that he seems "insecure". He is a very good-natured baby, and only does this when someone very unfamiliar picks him up. Otherwise he seems very happy and confident. He does not go to daycare...I stay home most of the time with him, and when I work he is with my husband or my mom. I just want to be sure that he isn't insecure... Being a first-time mom, I wonder if all babies go through this. Would love your opinions :) Thanks!
My youngest cried everytime Daddy held him for the first 9 months. He was totally a Momma only child. I wouldn't get to concerned.
Your sweet angel is right on schedule. My son did the same thing at that age and my doctor said it was perfectly fine. One thing to also think about is that babies are far-sided until they are three or so. Meaning that when someone comes up close to them, they can not see anything other than a big blur. If they do not recognize their smell or voice, it is very scary for them. Especially if the person is moving fast or is talking loud and in your son's face. Just hold your little angel tight and whisper sweet nothings in his ear to let him know you are there. It will pass soon...
My daughter started seperation anxiety very early. My son is now 6 months and he just started it a couple weeks ago. I personally think that the more you are at home with your child, the sooner their seperation anxiety starts.
Yep, my daughter went through this exactly at this age. It will pass!
Insecure??? -wow -talk about projecting!
I think it's normal. I never let someone unfamiliar pick up my kids. *I* pick them up and then we look at the new person a while (not long -like 15-30 secs) and then I HAND them to the new person. This has always worked for us. We do not even let a friend hand them to someone new- this is just the routine that works for us.
Your son is doing exactly what he needs to do as he learns more about the world around him. He is becoming more aware of his surroundings and is responding to them. When he cries he is signaling that he is ready to come back to you to regroup and then start exploring his world anew.
Sounds like the problem is an insensitive relative rather than an insecure 6 month old.
Yes, my son went through this! :) It has absolutely nothing with being "insecure"...he's a baby. Try not to let everyone's else's opinions make you question yourself or your baby. :) Your baby is perfect and normal!
as a new mom of an 11 month old i have learned that people will say the stupidest things just like suggesting that a baby could possibly be insecure! A baby's job is to want what is familiar and to test the waters in new experiences. Just like we as adults would not go sit in the lap of a stranger, most babies do the same. Be secure in knowing that God made your baby perfectly in His image and if you are concerned about developmental things ask your pediatrician or a book. I quickly learned to not compare my baby to others because the differences are huge in babies of the same age. have fun and enjoy your infant because you will be planning a 1st birthday party before you know it. Blessings
It's a perfectly normal age. Any age is normal, really. The unfamiliar smell of someone else could spark your son to become upset. My (lovey-clingy) daughter was like that with my dad and my brother and we were living right around the corner from them. We don't see my bro-in-law and his family much but my daughter goes right to my sis-in-law.
I think it depends on the nature of the person that is trying to hold your child.
If the adult is familiar with kids at all they will understand your son being upset. But, you could tell them it's nothing personal and your son just needs to get used to them....if it makes you feel better.
I wouldn't say he is insecure. He's comfortable and used to his immediate family. Remember yourself, for example, the first time you met your husbands family. I'm sure you were nervous in some way but now it's hugs all around. It's the same for your son only on a much larger scale because he's not aware of anything other than his normal every day-to-day.
Some babies are just more sensitive to new faces and situations and it can appear that they seem "insecure". I had one of these babies myself! Its just that they are picky and particular and at 6 months there is no way you can explain this to them...they will figure it out eventually and its just a phase...trust me there are many many like this! He may always be the child that is more wary and needs a little more reassurance to try something new but again this is not necessarily a bad thing in this day and age. As for the person who said he was insecure...whatever. He is a baby and you are doing the best you can for him! You meet his needs and thats all that matters right now...people forget how hard babies can be...how unpredicatable. Introduce him slowly to people without rushing to thrust him in onto strangers and he will learn its ok to trust someone outside mom. Its his way of looking at the world and you are doing great!
It is completely normal!! Mine all went through this- my own 6 month old is just starting ; )
It actually shows security, not insecurity. He's showing a strong, secure attachment. Congratulations!
