5 Yr Wetting Undies No Unreason?

There's always a reason for any behavior, even if it's not clear to us what it is. Your daughter doesn't seem to have any real idea why this is happening, either, since she gives you different answers each time.

I'd guess your daughter is anxious about starting kindergarten. Would you be able to get to the library and check out a couple of books on starting school? There are some cute kids books about what the process is like, and how common those worries are. Or play-acting, maybe with puppets or dolls, might give her more confidence. My grandson loves to play school, and gets a chance to address all sorts of issues when we pretend.

Knowing that other kids are probably excited and worried, too, and that grownups will understand and be kind to her, might relieve the problem.

Wetting can be a sign of stress. Kindergarten is a big stresser.
Pack extra clothes in her back pack. Remind her to go when the class takes potty breaks and reward her when she gets home, not with candy or material possesions but with a great big hug and an "I am so proud of you"
I had to put my 5 year old in pullups in Kinder. She had so much anxiety about school. Make sure she has visited the calssroom and the teacher and knows where the bathroom is before she gets to school.

One of my daughters did/does something just like this. Fully potty trained day and night, then all of a sudden several small accidents on a daily basis just a couple months before her fifth birthday. We've been struggling with it for almost three years now. We have just recently discovered that she is having petit mal seizures, which look just like a staring spell, which is why we didn't notice them, which can also cause brief loss of bladder control. I sincerely hope this is not the case with your daughter, and wish you the best of luck in dealing with this. I know how frustrating it can be when there just doesn't seem to be anything more to do to help her. There's really only a couple of things to do that might help her. Incentives, consequences, reminders, and doctors. You just have to try different approaches and eventually you'll get there.

It doesn't sound like an infection at all. Five year olds lie to make their parents or the authority figure feel like they didn't do anything wrong, so when she says that it hurts when she pees, she is possibly lying.

She is probably playing so much that she doesn't think about the signals that her bladder gives her, then forgets about it and pees her pants. I hate to say it, but if she does get teased in class, this will probably get her to recognize the signal.

Talk to school and see if you can send extra sets of clothes. Your child isn't the only one that is wetting themselves, I'm sure. Even in Kindergarten, the school nurse will keep extra clothes for students to change when accidents happen.

Keep reminding her - like when you leave to go somewhere, have her go pee before you guys leave the house. If you guys are settling down at a friend's house and your daughter is playing, go in and remind her. If you keep after her, she will get the picture. Just remember that they don't go to high school in diapers.

Hopefully the social pressure when she starts school will help (if it is a behavioral issue). She could even be stressed about starting school. try taking her to the bathroom on regular intervals. I still have to set a timer for my 4 year old sometimes and we always have a rule of trying to go potty before meals and before leaving the house. Don't know if this will help, but I do understand your frustration. My six year old can't feel the sensation when f\she needs to go, so we have had to train her to go on a schedule. she still has accidents sometimes.

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I agree that this is probably a stress reaction. Nutritionally you can help her body deal with stress with extra vitamin C and B-complex (you can get a children's chewable). Also, look for Bach Flower Remedy Rescue Remedy---this will help with the emotions.
Good luck!
J.

Your daughter may have labial adhesions. This is when the skin in the vaginal and labial regions fuses together. The fusions may cause a pocket to form where urine pools after she eliminates and then when she stands it is pushed out into her underwear. Some doctors ignore these, as my doctor did. We ended up going to a urologist to figure out why she constantly had wet underwear and with one look the doctor diagnosed the adhesions. She is now on a steroid cream to break down the adhesions. It may be worth having her doctor check to make she she doesn't have any adhesions.