A.C.
Hi T.,
I feel for you. My 3 year old had to have fillings and a pulp cap this past June and she had to be completely sedated for it. NOT fun. I was a nervous wreck.
I didn't have to give my daughter Valium, so I can't say much about that, but the dentist wanted to give her Versed and I was terrified of it. So, I contacted our pediatrician's office and spoke with one of the nurses about my concerns. She then spoke with one of the doctors and called me back with some advice and reassurance. I felt much better having the guidance of her pediatrician. Maybe you can contact your daughter's ped and talk to him/her about it? They can tell you if the dosage is correct and what to expect better than anyone. My ped even told me which monitors they need to have on hand in case of an emergency. I was very aware and involved (probably annoyingly so), but it made me feel better.
Good luck!