B.G.
I read all of the advice about the deployment and sensitivity and I couldn't say it any better. So, I thought I would touch on the ADHD thing. My son has it. So we are educated on the subject. Your son is way to young for medication. His "issues" can be dealt with behaviorally at home and in the classroom. Elementary school classrooms change activities so often that it is easier to keep active children focused since there isn't a prolonged amount of still time. Don't let the school bully you into medicating unless you feel it is necessary. Look online for things and tips you can use at home and even print a copy of those for the teacher to use. She should be educated in how to handle this but some of the older ones are not. It is okay if the doctor diagnoses your son with ADHD because then the school is required by law to accommodate your son in the least restrictive environment. That means they can not discriminate against him and must make a way for him to learn in the environment that works best for him. They can do an education plan for him in which they list what they are going to specifically do to help him reach his educational goals such as in my son's case, he has extra time on standardized tests because he has a hard time staying focused to finish in the alloted time. This is a good thing because it puts a plan of action in place for him. Too often schools and doctors rush to medicate when it is not necessary because it takes it off of their hands. But kids don't need to walk around like little zombies. They need to learn to work with their "disability" and find ways to cope. The school is there to help...at least they are supposed to be. Good luck and tell your husband to not let the school/doctor tell you what is best for your child. Try researching it online yourself and it will help you understand it all more.