5 Y/o Who's "Gyna" Hurts at Night

First and foremost if a child mentions anything in regards to their private areas which is a very sensitive and touchy topic someone should listen and look into the issue! That child could be experiencing a infection, possibly from bathing and soap in that area, lastly what we don't want to think,,,,maybe someone could have touched the child in a unthinkable manner!!!!!!I truely insist that someone sees that this child sees a pediatrian soon.... It could be possible that in unclean conditions that one can contract vaginal diseases from seating on dirty toilet seats....SOMEONE NEEDS TO STEP UP TO THE PLATE, SHE WILL THANK YOU LATER...A CHILD IS AT THE MERCY OF EITHER A GOOD CARETAKER OR NEGLECTANT ONE****************DON'T LET THIS GO ANOTHER DAY EVEN IF YOU MUST TAKE HER TO A MEDICAL WALK IN CLINIC....

I would be very concerned and i would at least make an effort to contact the mother of this child and let them know you have concerns. But i would absolutly not let this childs complaint go unheard, there is a reason she felt she could tell you whether it is that something "strange" has happened or she just felt maybe you could help her if it was a medical reason she told you for a reason and you need to be an advocate for her. And Kudos to you for caring so much. GOOD LUCK

As a wife of a police officer I would report this to the DFC. Do you know how many kids are molested by there families? Would you report it if it was your child.

I wouldn't jump the gun quite yet....my daughter(4yr) says hers hurts sometimes and when she shows me what hurts it because she is not wiping the right way or sometimes not wiping at all......so speak to the mother of the child first or ask the little girl more questions.
It could be many thing....UTI, bladder infection, yeast infection, or lack of hygiene.

M.,
Rest assured you are not alone. I've been in this situation before too.
I would for sure mention it to the child's mother. You could also mention it to the child's school.
If you tell the mom and nothing is done about it remember that it is in the best intrest of the child for you to make sure she is safe. No matter who gets hurt.
And maybe it's a case where someone isn't messing with her but maybe she could have a yeast infection. Little girls can get them easily.

Definately contact the mother yourself. I would also contact CPS myself too -- you can often do it anonymously (they may take your name but not share it). Any mother who would let her children alone with such an irresponsible parent may not have the wherewithall to REALLY PROTECT her children. The girl has no one to be her voice and protect her--let's hope your gut feeling is wrong but it makes me sick to think she tried to reach out and everyone did not want to rock the boat with this guy. PLEASE call CPS and the mother ---or if you only have it in you to call one--call CPS (more likely to help than her mother who sent her with this guy and is likely to dismiss it). Hope you are wrong but it she has no way of protecting herself---PLEASE call CPS.

sounds like an infection...UTI, yeast, bladder, etc.

see if the girl has a urinary tract infection.She could be red down there if she is urinating in bed alot.I wouldnt freak out and call CPS.rule out infection first.and yes the pediatricians are on their toes when it comes down to whether a child is well taken care of,they ask alot of questions nowadays.good luck..a tough problem for sure.

I wouldn't jump to any conclusions just yet. She's five years old, and I know with my five year old little girl, I sometimes wonder if she gets her pee pee wiped well enough, or even if she wipes it too hard sometimes. She has complained a few times over the last year or so that her pee pee hurts. It's always red during this time also. I usually put her in a warm bath, go over with her how important it is to keep that area clean, both by wiping habits, and also by proper rinsing in the bathtub, then I put some Desytin on it when she gets out. It always clears right up.

I wouldn't jump so quick to the possibility of someone having molested her. If you're really concerned, ask her about it. See if she understands what good touch bad touch means and ask her to show you where a bad touch would be so you're sure she understands. To call CPS on someone because you are paranoid about a one time thing that may have nothing to do with them at all, is really unfair to that person. Now, if they really were doing something, then I completely eat my words, but those accusations you're bringing up are serious accusations that could cause real problems for people who are innocent of such acts.

It can be something as simple as a yeast infection due to improper wiping but the fact she said it is red is a bit alarming. I would let the parents know, but if they blow you off I would call the cops then. I had yeast infections at that age due to not wiping properly, but it is always concerning if a child has a problem in that area.

Poor sweetie....it needs to be checked by doc for sure in case its something more serious than chaffing....as we know wet gynas can become big issues. They need to be helping her get up to go potty during the night before they go to bed....Does she wear a pull up at night? That could be helpful. I would talk with the parents before I call anyone else. I know its hard to do but worth it for the child's sake. Good luck!

I'm a little concerned about the words she is using. That is not normal vocabulary for a five year old. I would probably talk to a doctor to see if this a red flag of trouble. Plase don't dismiss it.

Hi M.,

This is a very touchy issue and I am sure you have received a ton of responses. I say if in doubt at all, then you need to speak. It sounds suspicious and my heart goes out to the little one even if it is a very simple reason she is sore (I hope ). Please let us know what happens as this one touches my heart strings.....

Hi M., I definitely understand your concern for this poor little girl. I have 3 little girls so I know a thing or two in this area. One of my girls is also 5, and at this age they tend not to wipe very well. From time to time my daughter will complain of the same type of thing. It's probably just a little yeast infection, but it could also be a urinary tract infection, or even a bladder infection.
Little girls this age need to be bathed well and change their panties often to stop these kinds of things from happening. If you say this little girl doesn't have very attentive parents, that's probably why she is in this situation to begin with. I would definitley bring this up to the girls mother. I would say that you hate to question her own parenting, but that it is just for her daughters well being. If the girls mother gets angry with you about it, then I would consider contacting CPS. Good luck and good job for caring so much!

The girl probably has a yeast issue from not wiping well, not changing her underwear, or is wearing non-cotton underwear. This would be my first thought.

I think the little girl needs to see the Dr. She might have a urinary tract infection or other form of infection in her vagina, potentially. Esp if she knows that it's red. if you know the kids' mother, you should let her know what was said. I think that's all you can do.

I do not agree with the poster who said these are not normal words for a 5-year-old to use. My babysitter taught the kids the proper terms for their private parts because she got tired of them giggling and calling them kids names! I too do not think this warrants a call to authorities; call the mother first and be prepared to recommend something if she has no idea what to do. If there's a whitish discharge it could be a yeast infection, in which case the warm baths and more careful hygiene would probably take care of it. If not it may be a bladder infection, for which I recommend cranberry juice - you can also get it in tablet form. Works like a charm; usually only one tablet is needed (I have five daughters so I know about this one!).

Sounds suspicious. It never hurts to act in the best interest of a child. I have a dear friend who has never recovered from being sexually abused from age 2-8 by her uncle and anyone who payed him, he lived in the flat upstairs. I'd let somebody know- the school counselor, or call CPS and ask.
Sarah

Do you know the mother? Go right to the source or make a call to the girl school and let them know. She could have an infection and not taken care of could lead to bigger problems.

M.
Yes! can you call the person you told and find out if anyone took the little girl to the docotr? Because even if it's nothing for CPS, it's still painful and could just be a rash.

learned from experience. cps is a nightmare. do u really want to see those children ripped from everything they know to become the product of a messed up foster care system? take action and help the child. some parents just suck, but why punish the children for that? besides, some people just don't know how to be parents cuz they are following a bad example that they were given. it takes a village to raise a child. u could help!

It could be as simple as a bladder/urinary or yeast infection. You could tell the father or mother that she complained to you and they may need to take her to the doctor to get medicine. If they get defensive then you might have reason to worry. Unfortunately there is no easy answer. If you think she is being hurt you do need to tell someone. You don't want her to continue getting hurt. Even if it is only an infection the parents need to have it looked at or it will get worse.
My daughter is 5 also. She gets red and ouchy sometimes but it doesn't hurt when she pees. She isn't very good at wiping after she uses the bathroom. Since she is 5 and doesn't want any help from me, she gets yeast infections occasionally. If you don't think that is this little girls problem maybe you could talk to your children's doctor and get his/her opinion. I will pray that the little girl is O.K. Good Luck

The only truly responsible thing to do is find out more. I would talk to the mother before calling CPS. There could be a very logical explaination (ie. yeast infection or something). However, if you have doubts or are no satisfied with the response you really need to report it. It sounds like the girl would benefit from being reported anyway. CPS can objectively look into it. Otherwise you could have a girl who is getting abused and seeking help but never getting it. She cried out for you to help and I think you know deep down you can't look the other way.