4Yr Old Still Wets the Bed

My 6 year old was still wetting the bed. Thought he was going to go off to college with that problem because he was such a sound sleeper and I was at my wits end. Tried the "Potty Pager" and it worked miracles for us in just over 2 weeks. Hope it works for you too.
www.pottypager.com/

Good luck!

I, myself, wet the bed until I was 7! My mom tried everything- even paid me a nickle everytime I didn't wet the bed . I hate to say it, but it is a bit of laziness- who wants to get up from sleep and walk to the bathroom? You know what worked? She bought a sheet that had a sensor- as soon as anything wet touched it, an alarm went off and woke everyone up and then my Mom made me help her change the sheets. After the second night of using it, I started waking up and go to the bathroom myself as it was a lot easier than changing the sheets! It worked for us...hope they still sell them.
Best wishes!

Why not just putt him in a pull up. He is only 4 my middle boy had a friend who used to sleep over and he still wore pull-ups until he was like 10. He would bring a grocery bag and in the morning put it in the bag and in the trash I don't think my son ever even new his mom told me so he wasn't embarrassed. It is totally normal for a lot of kids more so even in boys. NO WORRIES it will only be a problem if you make it into one. ENCOURAGE him it is OK he is not doing this on purpose. Just show him love & patience. Good luck!!

Ok! What's the problem? 4yrs old is still young and although, some may think this is too old to be wetting the bed, it could be worse. It could be a 13 or 14yr old wetting their bed.
Just keep doing what it is you're doing, take him/her to the bathroom before bedtime.
If you go to bed alot later then the child, before you retire, wake them up take them to the bathroom. that's what I used to do.
Or, just get pull-ups at night and keep talking to the child until he/she is ready to stop.
Don't think too much into it, it's not a problem so young, just keep up the good work

Your child is normal.

FULL night-time control and dryness is NOT fully attained until about 5-7 years old. Yes.

To expect this from your child now, will only lead to frustration for you... and then your child.

My daughter was about 5 years old by the time we could take off the night time diapers. BUT, she is now 6 years old and she still occasionally will have accidents. So what. We just use a water proof bed pad under her, and it really helps with the laundry.

Do NOT punish your child for this or pressure him/her. They can't help it.
All the best,
Susan

Don't get frustrated. Our DS was in night-time pull-ups until he was 5-1/2 years old. We tried everything prior to that (limiting water, waking him before we went to bed, rewards, punishments, etc.). He was full night-time trained when HE was ready and there was nothing we could do to help him except be encouraging (we tried being angry and frustrated, but it didn't have a positive effect). Good luck to you.

It's totally normal. Ask your ped. My daughter is 7 and doesn't ever have a dry pull up in the morning no matter what I do. Hang in there.

C., I was just reading on line for the same problem for my twin girls! I read that most bed wetting happens as the child is waking up, so to get them up about 30 hour before the normally wake up and take them straight to the potty. I am going to try it... but I have also heard that some kids wont night train until they are elementary school age. But I figured its worth a try.

Boys have this problem... our son is almost 4 1/2 yrs old and on occassion he wets his bed... we still have his matress in the plastic and also use these bed wetting absorbent blankets... i also keep 2 on our bed down the middle area for when he sneaks in with us...

You can also use those blue plastic squares that have the cotton side... they use these for seniors and puppies...

good luck...

p.s. this one sounds mean but i got my son usto going to the bathroom before bedtime... and when he refuses and he ends up having an accident, and gets up crying b/c he's wet, i tell him change yourself b/c you didn't listen to go to the bathroom b4 bedtime... so he does it..crying but he changes himself...

funny thing is that on ocassion he is so tired that he ends up falling asleep changing so i get up finish changing him and put him in bed.... i've also had to hold him up standing meanwhile he pisses to make sure he's not spraying our entire toilet....

It may take a while, as there is a muscle that often has delayed development. Let him use the overnight pants and take him to the Dr so it can be discussed. This went on until my son was 12 and his dad did it until he was 12. My sister did it also and I remember we put her through hell!!

Ease up, he can't help it.

It's relatively normal for boys under five to wet the bed. That's why Underjams were invented. Encourage him to hydrate earlier in the day and cut -off drinks after 5. Make sure he's warm, and try not to give him fruit or ice cream before bed. I'm working in this with my three and a half year old right now. Of course, encourage him to use the toilet before bed. Be careful not to give him a hard time about it because that'll just make him feel bad and he doesn't wanna wake up smellin like pee either. I know how you feel, It seems like I'm always washing pissy sheets. But this too, shall pass. Good luck!

my son wet the bed too. I found out that the cause was allergies. Specifically to dairy and dust.
Stuffed animals in his room will be full of dust. When we switched to something other than cows milk products he stopped wetting the bed. If he spent the night at a friends with stuffed animals in the room (or other dust)or eat ice cream,he would wet the bed that night. I found out about the effect of allergies on bed wetting by accident, while at a luncheon I was seated next to a pediatric allergist. I had my son tested and lo and behold he was allergic.

I understand where you are coming from. I have a son hitting puberty and still has a bedwetting problem. It is usually caused by a brain imbalance (which my son has). This is also hereditary. There may be something you doctor my be able to do. I have found information on bedwetting on some good sites. One is: stopwetting.com. They also have people you can speak to.

There is also a device that connects to the clothing when a child sleeps, It is supposed to wake the child up when they start to urinate. IT does help.

Restricting liquids don't help. Their body is supposed to help hold the urine while they are sleeping. You might have problems later when they grow up.

Hope this helps.

J.

He's a boy, be patient. Boys take longer than girls. Sometimes it takes a while for their bladders to catch up with their bodies. A pediatrician I spoke with said that some boys may do this up to age 12. Good luck. Also, cut off sugar at night. This may help.

Try waking him up at the same time every night (like 1:00 am)
Wake him up earlier to go to the bathroom. Maybe that will train his body to wake up on his own. Be consistant.
good luck!

Why don't you take him to the bathroom before you go to sleep? He will barely be awake, but seems like an easier, quicker fix than having to do laundry daily.

Hi C.-

My daughter still wet the bed when she was in kindergarten. My friend once told me to relax; when my daughter walks down the aisle to get married, she will not be wearing a pull-up!!

It really bothered her though so we went to extreme measures. We bought a alarm that hooks up to the underwear. It senses wetness and goes off and wakes the child and the parents, and then you can take the child to the bathroom. In our experience, it worked, but I would think about it before going out to get it. We tried it 2 nights and were woken up. The 3rd night, it "disappeared." Apparently she hid it because she didn't like being woken up. Well she continued having the accidents so a couple of weeks later it turned up and used it again. This time it took ONE NIGHT, and she hasn't had a accident yet. So I gues she was ready, but needed a bit of help. Again she was 5 or 6 at the time.

Good Luck!

My son wet the bed once in a while until he was 8. When he was 5 I bought an alarm that has a pad that sits inside his underware and connects to a box attached to his shoulder. At the first drop it alarms him and us that he needs to go. I researched this and found that there is a mechanism in the brain that wakes people up to pee during the night. In boys especially, this can be delayed. The alarm triggers this mechanism in the brain to work. It only took three nights and my son was getting up on his own. After that he only wet the bed if he drank too much before bed or was overly tired. We continued to take him to the bathroom before we went to sleep, around 11:00. When he was 8 1/2 it stopped altogether.
These might be hard to find, but in HB there is the Good Neighbor Pharmacy on Beach and Talbert. They can order it for you, or check online. It is around $80, but think of that as 6 packs of the super-expensive (not to mention environment-damaging) oversized Pull-ups. It is SO worth it.

Good luck!

It is really not abnormal. Put him in some of those older kid pull-ups and put rubber sheets on his mattress. My daughter was the same way until at least five and a half and now I don't remember the last time she wet the bed (she is now 7). It just takes some kids longer. You can brainstorm with your son about how to keep dry. Maybe he will have some ideals. Just monitor the situation, but make it easier on yourself by using the pull-ups.

there are millions of ideas..even some wacky homeopathic things that, believe me, i've tried!!! a walnut and teaspoon of raisins 30 minutes before bed!!!
my son is pushing 8 and still wears a pull up at night! i understand your frustration, but...as far as i can see...you might just be waiting with me! kids do it in their own time. sorry for not being more encouraging! just love your baby thru this and i promise this too shall pass (no pun intended).

Hi C.,

First I'll start off saying that my oldest son, now 10, wore pull ups at night until he was 4 1/2, my middle son, who is now 7 just started (a week ago) going all night without wetting. My 5 year old daugter still wears pull ups at night. She is dry about 50% of the time.

What I suggest is that you either let this go awhile longer or you can opt to get up once or twice (depending on what is needed) to put your son on the potty. I still put my 7 year old on once at about 10:30 and then he goes the rest of the night dry. We also learned that we had to cut off liquids by 6:00 pm in order for him to be able to stay dry at night. He goes to bed at 8:30. When we put our daughter on the potty during the night she is so tired that she isn't aware that she is on the potty, so she doesn't go. They are all different and do things in differently, so you kind of have to see what works for you all.

Do know that this is very normal and your son is still very young! A friends daughter didn't get out of pull ups until she was 11. They tried everything they could, but it happened when she was ready!

Good luck and take care!

I was told that at 4 years old, 50% of kids still wet the bed. My son wore pull-ups until almost age 5. Granted, towards the end, they stayed dry most of the time, but he still wore them for security.

He is now 5 and we still wake him in the middle of the night every night, usually between 2 and 4 am, to go to the potty. It doesn't disturb his sleep and he doesn't even remember in the morning. YOu might want to try doing this.

If your child is 4 I wouldn't worry too much yet.

we get our 3.5 yr old up to pee when we do. I don't know if this is the "right" thing to do but it's what we do and he doesn't wet the bed.

Hi,

This is totally normal (my son can't stay dry yet either, and he is almost 5)! Our pediatrician says that some kids (boys especially) have trouble staying dry overnight until age 6. She doesn't worry about it until that age. Put your boy in a pull-up or something and don't worry about it. He'll grow out of it when he's ready. If he doesn't by age 6, talk to your pediatrician about how to get to the next step.

:-) D.

I say every child is different with their own progress on things and daily agenda. My son, now 13 years old, went through the same thing. I thought he would never stop even to when he already started schooling. He finally stopped at age 7. But he was very bright with schooling except that one problem. We have other older and younger ones and had their own individual timely progress in daily agends. If you force him, he will continue. If you let him go with the flow, he will eventually stop on his own. Sometimes maybe he does have a very weak bladder like mine at the time. Every child is different in their own body circulation...

Hi C., I know that I read somewhere that boys sometimes have this problem (more than girls) because their bladder has not matured. My husband and I had this problem with both of our boys and then all of a sudden it stopped. Have you talked to your son's doctor? You can also probably get alot of information on the internet about this. Gook Luck.