I have a 3 1/2 year old who also does that quite often. He does it more with mom than with Dad. I am not sure what you do when he exhibits bad behavior at other times but I try to tell him that we don't act this way, that we don't have money to buy him everything he wants, and if he is a good boy in the stores for a while, then he can get a small something (?) As far as the scratching and telling you that he hates you, my son does that also, mostly says it to Dad, when he does not get his way. When he does that we usually threaten him with time out or put him in time out until he calms down, and we explain to him that we don' say that to people-
good luck -hope that helps- 3 and 4 is a tough age
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I have a 3 1/2 year old who also does that quite often. He does it more with mom than with Dad. I am not sure what you do when he exhibits bad behavior at other times but I try to tell him that we don't act this way, that we don't have money to buy him everything he wants, and if he is a good boy in the stores for a while, then he can get a small something (?) As far as the scratching and telling you that he hates you, my son does that also, mostly says it to Dad, when he does not get his way. When he does that we usually threaten him with time out or put him in time out until he calms down, and we explain to him that we don' say that to people-
good luck -hope that helps- 3 and 4 is a tough age
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I have a 3 1/2 year old who also does that quite often. He does it more with mom than with Dad. I am not sure what you do when he exhibits bad behavior at other times but I try to tell him that we don't act this way, that we don't have money to buy him everything he wants, and if he is a good boy in the stores for a while, then he can get a small something (?) As far as the scratching and telling you that he hates you, my son does that also, mostly says it to Dad, when he does not get his way. When he does that we usually threaten him with time out or put him in time out until he calms down, and we explain to him that we don' say that to people-
good luck -hope that helps- 3 and 4 is a tough age