4 Yr Old Tells Teacher, but Not Me.....

Ouch, that stings. But cut yourself some slack. Teacher is a captive audience. They have teachers undivided attention for 8 hours a day. When they are home with us, it's dinner, bath, book, bedtime. Always on the go. My daughter whines about me picking her up too, but when I do, she tells me she wishes dad would picker her up. I think they are just whining to be whining! Tired out and cranky and just pushing our buttons to get the all the oh my poor baby, mommy misses you soooo much stuff. DOn't get me wrong, my baby gets that and it pulls at my heart strings. But my 4 yr old is not going to dictate the household decisions or make me rethink decisions dad and I have made. We all just make it work, as a family that pulls together. It's good they learn that and good that you are working 3 days a wk. Hold your h ead up mom. You are not doing any harm to your little angel.

my daughter does this too, be glad that she likes her teacher=) isnt it crazy when they start schol and have their owl little lives?

Oh no, not at all! I was often surprised (though not as hurt as you seem to be) over the things my kids would share with their teachers. Your daughter doesn't see this as a major "milestone" like you do, and in PreK through first grade loose teeth get talked about a lot at school, so I'm sure it just naturally came up. Often there is a classroom chart with all the kids names and how many loose/missing teeth they have :)
Let go of that mommy guilt, it has nothing to do with you working. Perhaps you are just a little bit jealous that your daughter has formed a relationship with another woman? If yes, then try to let go of that, too. Having a strong bond with her teacher is a good thing!

I agree with mamazita. It's part of normal 'school talk'. I am a mom of 5 children (4 school age) as well as a daycare provider, and my experience is that children share things with people they feel comfortable with. I hear a lot and get to see a lot, but always make sure to share 'the big news' at the end of the day with the parents. My kids come home from school and share their stories as well, but at conferences, the teachers always have a story (or two) of something that was shared or done at school that I wasn't told of. I guess it's just part of them having their 'own lives' and sharing with the people who mean the most to them.

no you shouldn't worry about it. Your daughter had a change in her life when you went back to work and she may be a little angry about the change until she gets use to it. When I went back to work, my youngest was 5 years old. When I picked him up one afternoon from day care he said "Work Work work.. when is it going to quit?" I felt guilty also.

Your daughter had her questions answered by her teacher. At this age they admire and think their teachers are the smartest people in the world. She is too young to know how much milestones mean to moms so she didn't do it to get you back for working. She probably is busier at home and playing and keeping her hands busy. At school she has to sit and listen and probably wiggled her tooth during those down times. Sit down with her each night and talk about her day at school and with the nanny and ask her what was the best thing that happened during the day. This will teach her to always find the positive and give her time to tell you about the loose teeth and such.