S.C.
S.,
You could try a placebo for spiders that really works at calming the nervous system and is good for the skin and general health as well. I'm thinking of therapeutic grade lavender, cedarwood, or "gentle baby" blend essential oil.
For more info on the health benefits of essential plant oils of therapeutic quality you can check out S.-healingoils.com
I think its great you don't make a big deal about it.
best wishes,
S. c