Our son has been potty trained for a few weeks now no pee accidents at all BUT poop in undies everyday either at daycare or home and we don't know what to do we've offered surprises stickers flat out told him he's a big boy and we don't poop in undies. And so on. hELP!!!!!!!
Also meal time ahhh yes the time of day that I'm starting to cringe at. He wants nothing we are offering anymore. He won't sit anymore. He's even started to refuse to feed himself so I'm caving every night and feeding him so at least he eats. Yelling makes it 100 times worse iv figured that out. Iv tried talking so softly and nice. It still doesn't help. I either need some good tips some good meal ideas for preschoolers or a vacation lol. And how can I get my kid to want to feed himself again. If I don't he'll just stare it.
He'll eat if he's hungry. Promise.
Take the pressure off. Put his plate on a little table near where he plays, etc. and sit down and enjoy your dinner. Honest.
Don't make dinnertime a pressure cooker (no pun intended).
Let it go.
Food shouldn't be a battle.
As for the poop, he'll get there. TRY to catch him in the act & plop him on the toilet to finish. Then the crowd goes wild!!! Lol
Good luck!
your son is playing a game. he doesn't eat dinner.. and mommy yells.. then mommty feeds him and gives him lots of attention.
put the dinner on the table.. if he eats fine.. if he doesn't fine.. no worries.. he will not starve.. most kids this age.. eat breakfast and lunch but not dinner.. you cannot make him eat. the more attention you give this the more it will continue.. stop making a fuss and you can have a nice peaceful dinner.
at 5 and 7 my kids eat dinner. but at 2 and 3 they did not eat.. you can offer a small healthy snack at bedtime..
3 year olds have very little control in their lives other than eating, sleeping and going potty.
With you feeding him he's playing a game and winning. He won't starve himself, his body will tell him when to eat. (Our ped told me this years ago and he was right.) Back off, insist he sit with you while you eat, serve him a small plate of what you're having and leave him be, let him stare at it. When he sees it's not a big deal to you it won't be a big deal to him. Be consistent in your non-concern, you cave and it will be harder the next time and so on.
Regarding his poop -
http://www.rogerknapp.com/medical/pottytrainingrefusals.htm
Be aware that as each child is different personality and temperament wise, the way they respond to rewards/surprises/treats is different, too, my guy could have cared less. The only thing or things that will work for your son are the things he clamors for at the store.
He's 3. Not 13. He is only....how many months old? He's still a baby in the grand scheme of things. He's just a little guy and they don't often have good control over those muscles until they're older.
Reward him when he goes and don't make a big deal out if it when he poops in his clothes. If he is rewarded for what he does do he might want to do it more.
He's definitely not a baby, as someone else described him. You can put anyone's age in terms of months. Your son is in YEARS now.
You need to start with the old fashion, "If he's hungry, he'll eat" routine. This age is full of many picky eaters! Give him his food, a small amount of each food and his drink. (unless he slams down his drink first so then hold off on the drink) He must sit at the table during meal time. If he doesn't eat, he doesn't eat. He feeds himself! He must behave while at the table and sit. Give him one behavior warning. If he refuses to listen then he is down from the table and leaves to sit on the toilet and sit somewhere until the rest of you are done, quietly. You do this with each and every meal. Be firm. You are in charge, you set the rules. Not him. Do this for one week straight. Don't cave. He will not starve. He will not get sick. He may throw a fit but that's just him trying to control you and the situation. When he is hungry, he will eat. Do NOT give him snacks in between meals or he will eat just that and not his regular meals. Wrap up his food for later. Offer him leftovers for snack time, small amount. Again, he WILL eat when he's hungry and he will stretch this out for days waiting for you to cave. Do not give in. Do not let him set the rules or standards, period. If you left a 3 year old set the rules in the house what will you do when he's 16, because trust me, that's not a pretty sight.
K. B
mom to 5 including triplets
Holy cow! While at 3 he may or may not be a baby, he's certainly closer to being a baby than to being a Marine! I think you're right on track for having him potty trained pee-wise at 3. For MANY children pooping comes several months later. Just clean up the mess. Haven't you been doing it for 3 years anyway? What is a few more months? Soon you will be sad that you can't follow him into the men's room to protect him from God knows what's going on in there. While I can't say for sure that more trouble eating and trying to learn to poop in the potty are related, I think your instincts tell you they are. I remember being in a Mom's educational play group with a mom proudly saying that she had all of her children potty trained at 17 months. She also went on to say that all of her children had to go through "eating therapy" a little later. If someone were yelling at me to do something I may or may not be physically able to control, I would probably be so nervous at the table I would want to throw up whenever I saw food. And all of this is probably more in the subconcious arena of understanding than not, at his age. For goodnes sakes, some people are still blaming the whole Hitler phenomena on poor potty training! (OK, so now I'll shuffle off and have my meds. and eat my breakfast! A., if you get anything out of this post please don't take it to mean I'm yelling at you. I think this is my poor attempt at humor for a subject I think some people take a little too seriously. I know its not a small thing when you're going through it. You think your kid will be the only one taking his SATs in a pull-up. Relax, he won't be, and you're a great Mom!) Good luck!
It took my son two days to be pee trained but several weeks to poop on the potty. He never had a poop accident per say; he just waited till he was wearing a pull-up during his quiet time. I don't know how you and your daycare provider feel about going that route, but letting him go poop in the pull-up never derailed potty training for us. He really, really wanted to poop on the potty, but he just couldn't relax enough to go till the newness of the potty wore off after a few weeks. (We gave him yogurt covered raisins as a reward for peeing, and offered chocolate covered raisins for poop. He really wanted those chocolate covered raisins because we don't do candy in our house except for holidays.)
With being new on the potty, have you noticed that his behavior gets a little wild when he needs the potty? I found that if my son was trying to "hold it," he would lose self-control while playing or eating or whatever. He could hold that pee forever, but he'd be soooo aggravating in the meantime! So make sure your kiddo is peeing before dinner. Good luck!
