3Rd Graders 1St Girl Friend

sorry....nip it in the bud! We've been adamant about no dating until age 16. My older son hit it close....3 months early. My younger son is 15, so we'll see.

We have found that the kids who "play" at this....are simply living the life that mommy/daddy provide for them. It tends to set unexpected precedents...& I truly believe it can wait. Let them be kids! The teen years come all too soon.....& there's absolutely nothing wrong with saying "no" to your child.

& I want to be very clear on this: both of my sons had friends of both sexes during their entire childhood....it was simply friendship & not opposite sex relationships. I am very proud that they had the freedom of innocence.

I think it would be okay to invite her to his game. I agree with talking to her parents to be on the same page.

When my daughter was 7 she had her first "boyfriend". He was so cute. He lived down the street and would knock on my door and very politely ask "May I walk Cheyenne to school." So cute. It was all very innocent and only lasted a month or two. She broke up with him at lunch. I felt so bad for him. But he got over it and they still are friends 8 years later. I think it's sweet that your son wants to invite his "girl" to his game. My only advice would be to speak her parents and let them know whats happening on your end so the communication is open.

moms of boys think its very sweet and are very welcoming to the whole boyfriend girlfriend thing. moms of daughters are kind of protective of the entire situation. i would speak to the parents of the daughter to ask if they can go and set some limits of what your child is allowed to do. like no kissing or what ever your limits are. dont be supprised if they arent as "cute" as you were about the situation. aww i am team sweet and how cute is that?! - mom of one boy and one girl.

Well if he is playing in the game, I see no harm in him asking the girl if she and her parents would like to come and watch. That's hardly a date! If her parents don't want to take her to the game, they may understandably be not comfortable with the situation, and you could advise your son then to consider her a school friend for the time being. I wouldn't offer to pick up an 8 year old schoolmate and sit with just them while they watched my child play a game if I hadn't even met them or their parents yet, boy or girl. If the girl and her parents DO plan to go to the game, I guess that's a nice place to get acquainted. If that will be the plan, I would advise him to not show physical affection, as he is too young for that type of boy/girl affection, and even if he were *much* older, it would not be respectful at the first occasion meeting her parents. He should treat her we he would any other friend at this age.

I would say talk to the parents first before inviting her that way if they say no it's not a big let down to the kids. If they are not on the same page it will be harder. I had a boy friend at that age and my mom was not suportive. He got to go to church things with us cause I was friends with his sister too and she went everywhere. They may think it's just the cutest thing in the world. Your husbands reaction is normal. Men don't always understand things like that. My son's girlfriends dad is kind of the same way. He is 12 1/2 and she is 13 1/2. Her dad dosn't think they need to see eachother much out of school but me and her mom let them as long as one of us is with them.

Good luck and God Bless.

I would talk to his girl friends mom about what she thinks about it. I have 2 sons and 2 daughters. My boys are 20 and 16 now. They never had a "girl" friend in 3rd grade. (for that matter not until high school) Having 2 daughter as well (11 and 8) I know I would want to talk to a boy friends mom before invites ect. That said my boys say my girls will not date until the are 80. (protective guys)