D.R.
hi S., my son is almost 4 and still uses his hands a lot of the time. i thnk both of the other replies you got are great, give him foods he likes that he needs a utensil for, let him choose the utensil, and otherwise, dont make an issue of it. my son loves to rummage around and find weird things to eat his yogurt with, he will use a coffee scoop, baby spoons, giant serving spoons, basically whatever he thinks will get a reaction out of me, so i laugh and tell him he is so crazy and he loves that and uses the utensils, which is just fine with me. it wont last forever.