3 Year Old Going Number 2 in Pants!!!

I like Tamara and Heather's advice.
My mother is extensively trained in early childhood development, and is recently retired from close to thirty years of working as a kind of 'child advocate,' so I trust her advice expilicitly. She warns NEVER NEVER NEVER punish a child when potty training. This could lead to resentment and hostility, among other undesirable effects. Be patient. Have him (or watch you) dump it in the toilet and flush it, then clean up, put on fresh, and go on with your day. Always have fresh pants when you are out until the problem is gone, and whatever you do, once you introduce "big boy underwear," DON'T go back to diapers. Once you make the switch, make it stick. Otherwise he could get confused, and think it doesn't matter, because diapers can always come back. You may want to consider a reward system for him. Stickers work good (gold stars on the calendar or a bright colored paper...even on the kiddy potty...) to show how well he's doing. Figure out what he likes best, and go with that!

Just remember to never use food (OR CANDY) as a reward (getting extra) or punishment (not getting something) for anything ever! This could lead to food issues as kids grow up (anorexia or obesity)!

Hope that helps!!

I just went through this with my nephew, whom I babysit. Something that might help is try and keep track of about what time of the day that he poops his pants. And then try and get him on the potty around that time. My nephew also like looking at a few books or I would sit on the floor while he was on the potty and would read to him. If he would have an accident we would go into the bathroom and dump the pooo in the potty and then let him flush it. It took a few weeks and a LOT of patience but it finally worked.

Hi T.:

I wouldn't punish him for it may turn him a way from going in the potty. But encourage him to go in the potty. When he does, prasie him.. Maybe develpe a routine since you are still potty training him. Take him every so often if you are able to. He's still learning and it will take a while.

Smile,
T.

My son is 3 1/2 and was fully potty trained at 2 1/2...it took us a really long time for him to go poop on the big potty, but was fine on the potty chair!! So we had him start turning around on the big potty...it really helped him! I think it's is easier for him cause he doesn't have to worry about peeing everywhere if he is trying to poop. He was doing the same thing pooping in his pants untill we showed him that all he had to do was sit backwards and it worked like a charm....hope that helps :)

My daughter did that. She just didn't care she was dirty! I didn't discipline her; I stopped cleaning her up and talked her through cleaning herself up. "First get a plastic bag. Now get the wet wipes. Get clean underwear." etc, etc. I also remained calm even though I felt frustrated. After about a week she figured out it was much easier to get herself to the toilet.

My little guy did great at peeing on the potty but the poop was a little more difficult until we put his portable potty seat in his play house. He was able to lock the door so sister couldn't come in and he LOVED trying to poop on the potty then! If you don't mind an indoor outhouse:) I would suggest giving it a try. Our playhouse was just an oversized cardboard house with a door and windows cut out.