3 Year Old Boy Who Is Peeing on Himslef After Being Potty Trained for Months????

I don't know about a book but my son would have accidents(urinating) after being trained for almost 2 years and seemed to be because he was so excited about playing or something else that he wouldn't want to go til it was too late. I tend to ask him a lot if he needs to go so that he doesn't put it off. Good Luck!

It could be a lot of things or it could be absolutely nothing. It's been hot. He may be drinking more than usual and not used to the full bladder and having trouble holding it. He could be bothered by something, as was previously suggested.

Take him to the dr. and have it checked out by the ped.
Stephanie

Hello. This happened to us as well. It coincided with some jealousy issues related to our son's younger brother. First, we tracked the behavior carefully, trying to figure out precisely when it happened. He did not do this at preschool (5 half-days a week). He did not do this with our Au Pair when out at an activity. He DID do it when he was in the house or on the way home to the house. We understood that our son did not like to stop what he was doing to go to a restroom. Nor did he like public restrooms that smelled. We did offer "nature pees" outside (not a Public Good, but occasionally necessary). Until we realized that he would have accidents when he could quickly CHANGE HIS CLOTHES, we didn't have a solution. Once we realized that there were no consequences to having an accident at home, we changed our strategy. We said "you get one pair of underwear per day. If you pee in them, you have to wear them." That stopped the behavior within just a few days. As for going in public restrooms, it's still a challenge. We remind him to go before we leave the house now and allow "nature pees" when they aren't too offensive. Of course he loves them with Daddy. So in sum, figure out when & how it happens and attach consequences (like wearing yucky wet underwear). It might work.

About me: older mommy of 2 (I'm 41) who makes plenty of mistakes ;-)

Usually there is something that has happened to the child to cause this to happen. Something may be going on at Day Care to him that you aren't aware of. Also a divorce, a new baby in the family, moving to a new house,or being hospitalized will cause this to happen.Some kind of trauma. Talk to him and find out if someone is being mean to him. You might want to consult with his pediatrician to make sure he doesn't have an infection or some other problem.
Grams B.

Hi E.!

It sounds like he might be "copying" something. Uh-oh! He may not be around the most appropriate behaviors at Daycare.

If I were you, I would make a few surprise visits during the next few days to "reassure" yourself that all is ok at the Daycare.....or not.

It has been my experience, that when boys are FINALLY potty trained, especially with the pee-ing part of training, then the only other thing to work on is "listening" to their body to avoid accidents, and any night-time wetting. But, out of the blue, intentional pee-ing on oneself, sounds more of an "emotional" issue, than a potty training issue.

I know that during the summer, Daycare's usually have more children~ and alot of times, their own children are helping out the Daycare provider.

I don't want to say any of the "other" things running through my head, I just think it's a good idea to make a seriouis effort to go to the Daycare OFTEN to make sure your son is ok...

Good Luck, E...

:o) N.

My 4 1/2 yr old boy, who has been potty trained since age 3, still pees in his pants on some days. I've always heard that boys take longer than girls to be FULLY potty trained. I have observed a few things: he doesn't want to sto doing whatever he'd doing to go - even when he's dancing around and it's obvious he has to go, and I ask him, he still won't admit it. I often have to make him stop whatever he's doing and make him go. Also, he still can't control his bladder at night, so he still wears pull-ups (his twin sister hasn't had any of these issues for over a year). I just think boys and girls are different, and it takes them longer to be in touch with their bodies, so I guess I wouldn't worry about it, esp. since he's just recently potty trained. You can gently remind him that he needs to go, and you can try the leaving him in wet pants thing, but mine doesn't care if he's in wet pants for hours. Definitely don't discipline him. He may not have the physical ability to know when he has to go all the time. Give it time...

I logged on today to ask the same question. My son is 3.5 and has been potty trained for nearly 6 months, no accidents and wears undies all night. He wakes up one time at night to go potty and then goes right back to sleep. Last week was busy with VBS every day 8am-noon. He usually stays home with Daddy and little brother every day, and that is when the accidents started. I am not worried that anything happened at VBS because Daddy was there all week. I am now thinking, because the many talks I have had, and many websites I have visited, that it is a boy thing. He just doesnt want to go and is too interested in what he is doing. VBS was wonderfully stimulating, but maybe too much so. Now he is back to the norm and just too "lazy" to go on the toilet. He is pooping in his pants, too. So gross. I hope this phase ends soon. I am getting myself ready in case the same kind of thing happens when he starts preschool in a few weeks...I guess I have come to the conclusion that it is one of the many troublesome phases of parenting/childhood and "this too shall pass."