3 1/2 Yr Old Not Potty Training but Sometimes Pooping in His Sleep????

Plenty of kids sleep through peeing, and a number I've heard about sleep right through pooping, too, or at least don't get aroused enough from sleep to deal with it in any other way. Night training often takes longer, sometimes years longer, than daytime potty learning. Kids really can't help this.

If your son is fighting you about using the potty, there is WAY too much stress and pressure for potty training to succeed for him – at least if you define potty training as his becoming willing and able to use the toilet when needed. He may technically be "able," but it sounds like he's anything but willing. Somewhere along the line, it became something his mommy wants him to do, but not something he wants to do himself. Toilet learning is a step toward autonomy and self control, so looked at that way, parents forcing the issue can actually stall that development.

And often when that happens, poop is withheld as long as possible. Occasionally, the body rids itself of the waste when relaxed in sleep. Inconvenient as this is, it's much healthier than two other results: constipation, or a much more difficult medical condition called encopresis (google this).

I've known quite a few moms who finally stopped fighting and let the child return to diapers, despairing and expecting the worst. Surprisingly, several of those children decided to be trained shortly thereafter. They just needed to have control of the process. A couple of the other kids took longer to get interested again, but still got there before the age of 4 or 4.5.

Very few kids can be successfully battled into using the potty. I'd try backing away from the process if I were in your position. I'd tell my child gently that he will get to decide when he makes this move, and that I trust him and am confident that when he's ready, he'll have an easy time of it. Your quiet confidence and respect could make all the difference for him, though he may hang back for a couple of months to be sure you are sincere.

Kids really do want to learn to use the potty when they are ready. It's as natural a part of their development as learning to walk and to talk.

youtube the pull ups potty dance

my daughter loved loved loved this and she was potty trained at 2.

also go to huggies.com and they will send you a potty training dvd and kit with rewards king crown sticker chart..ect

get rid of diapers and get him big boy undies, dont even use pullups because they become dependent on them. heck my daughter ran around with no clothes on at all when i was potty training her. it made it easier for her to just get on the potty and not have a bunch of snaps zippers ect in the way

also to get him to pee in the potty like a big kid, put cherrios in the potty and make him aim for them. crazy but it works

If he doesn't want to, your son won't go on the potty if he has the option of wearing diapers. I firmly believe in going straight to underwear and never looking back. This takes a concentrated effort on your part. Of course, this is assuming he has no health issues, or other issues keeping him from going. By 3 1/2, he should be ready.

Maybe take a break for a few weeks, then start again, build it up, pick a start date, and then start full force again, straight to undies, and don't look back...no pull ups- they don't work!

Well im not expert.But my daughter was fully trained day and night at 15 months with no accidents this is whay i did take it for what you want...Either way i wish you luck..He may not be relaxed enough during the day to go number 2 so i always have kid books in my daughters bathroon and she uses them.Put a poster or something in front of him if possible ont he wall to look at..I advise to get rid of diapers asap during the day have him in undies and at night in feel and learn pull ups till he gets the potty training down..Encourage him and be positive.Also i would give my daughter 1 m&m or a sticker when she went pee and 2 when she would go poop..When he starts getting it down u can stop the candy and goodies lol..Remember to tell him what a big boy he is and how proud you are..I hope i help you some what.Good luck!

has something happened to cause him to resist going? i had a friend whose little boy wouldn't go #2 at preschool, and sometimes he held it so long that he would do it in his sleep, when he finally relaxed. not saying that's what your son is doing but something to think about. have you tried a reward like an m&m or a sticker chart?? kept it super positive? hope you get an answer that helps!