L.C.
All I can say is have patience!!! My son is 2 1/2 and he has NEVER put himself to sleep - I mean EVER - until this past Sunday. A little background - he has slept in his crib since day one for half the night, rest of the night - on my chest. Toddler bed - slept in it half the night, guest bed with me half the night. Put him in a room with two twin beds - we sleep in separate beds half the night, me in bed with him the other half. It is exhausting!!! And every night laying right there with him until he fell asleep and generally falling asleep myself. Until this past Sunday....my son actually told me to lay in the other twin bed and he laid in his usual bed. He put himself to sleep and slept all night!!! HALLELUJAH!! And he's done it for the last three nights.
I think it's an age thing and they just start to get it. We tried EVERYTHING!! Crying it out, timed crying it out, giving up, etc, etc. I think it just took time. Now he may slip again and so will I because I do LOVE to snuggle with him - but if those nights are less than the nights he puts himself to sleep I'll take it.
Hope that helps and just to know you are not alone!!
L.