I have been #3 in my granddaughter's life.....many times she prefers me over mom and dad. I have been in her life from day one and spend lots of time with her. In a short week-long period she has been rejecting me. She will not come to me or let me get close to her. She even got upset the last few times she saw me. I don't understand and need help. Nothing has changed between us.....nothing traumatic has happened.
It's normal. But when this happened with my nieces and nephews with my mom is was because everytime they saw Grandma it was because mom and dad were leaving them with Grandma and they associated Grandma with mom and dad leaving. Could this be it? Have you only been seeing her to babysit? If so, maybe you should spend some time with her while mom and dad stay.
My 22 month-old son starting doing this with my mom about a month ago. It's just a phase of separation anxiety. Every time she comes over, he thinks I'm leaving so he gets upset and doesn't want her to come near him. She's very sad about it since he's always been attached to her. The last couple of times he saw her, he did a bit better so I think he's getting over it. Your granddaughter will too.
Maybe she's doing it for attention. Acting that way probably makes you respond, maybe that's why.
Make sure that when she does that, you completely ignore her.
Trust me, she'll stop. :)
Kids just go through these normal phases of odd preferences. It's really nothing to be worried about and try not to be hurt by it, it's really not personal. Our son went through an "all about Daddy" phase but quickly returned to his normal self. Hang in there, I'm sure it's hard. :)
My older baby did this between 6 and 12 weeks. We couldn't even GO to Grandma's house while she was home. Now my younger baby, who is 4 months old, is doing the same thing. Irritatingly enough, we can be at the grandparents' house when they are not at home AND my mom can hold her just fine. Are you the paternal grandmother? At least with my kids, they both got into this weird mood. Even my hubby's COUSIN couldn't get near my older daughter during this stage but she had no problems at all with anyone in my family. Made me crazy because her paternal grandparents are our only in town relatives and we see them constantly. But the older grew out of it and I'm sure the younger one will too. I don't think it's you at all.
I have a Child Development Associate Certificate and this is very normal, I've seen it happen a lot. It's just a phase. I'm sorry, and hope that it gets better soon. It's needed, though, it's an important stage in her development.
S., mom to 4 girls
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I have a Child Development Associate Certificate and this is very normal, I've seen it happen a lot. It's just a phase. I'm sorry, and hope that it gets better soon. It's needed, though, it's an important stage in her development.
S., mom to 4 girls
