21-Mth-old Refusing Bedtime Milk-- Is This Typical?
Updated on
December 08, 2010
A.M.
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Brookline, MA
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hi everyone--
so some background: my 21-mth-old daughter is in the 30th percentile for height and 3rd percentile for weight. i'm not concerned about this, as i was always in the 1st percentile for height/weight, my husband shot up 12 inches at age 15 to 6 feet (and is skinny), and 3 out of 4 of my daughter's cousins are skinny and small. my daughter is super-active, super-curious, eats well and is talking up a storm. to sum it up: she's definitely thriving. and she drinks milk throughout the day, but only at most 10-12 oz. so her pediatrician wanted us to continue the bedtime bottle, since she was drinking 6-8 more oz of milk at that time. which was fine with us because i love our bedtime routine, as does my daughter.
in the past week, 6 out of 7 days, she hasn't drunk any of her bedtime milk. she was gnawing on the nipple, so i thought she was teething. but even with tylenol (which she usually likes to chase down with milk), she doesn't drink more than an ounce. i thought maybe we can change over to a cup-- we tried her sippy cup, a regular cup with a spout, and simply a regular cup. no go. she still wants the rest of the bedtime routine (review of the day in her dark room siting on my lap in the glider, brushing and flossing teeth, a bedtime song), and still goes down easily and sleeps through the night. she is having a slightly bigger breakfast.
so after all this info, the question: when do toddlers wean from bedtime milk? is this something i need to push? i hate feeling pressured to pressure my daughter about food. she is a great eater, has a ton of calcium from cheeses and yogurt every day. is this the end of bedtime milk? is this a phase? is this typical? we will be seeing the pediatrician for her 21-mth check-up next week.
thanks for reading this and for any and all insights!
UPDATE: thanks everyone for your kind words and advice. my daughter is very good at letting me know when she is done with things (no longer wanting to be swaddled or bounced to sleep, etc.)-- it's just hard because i finally feel like i know what i am doing and then it changes again! last night, she didn't want the bottle (fine), but wanted to do the bedtime routine with her pacifier. usually she only gets her pacifier once she is in her crib. she gets it only for nap and sleeping. but she seemed much more anxious about the pacifier. i definitely don't want her to become more dependent on the pacifier. we've been thinking about taking away the pacifier by her 2nd birthday. but should i do it sooner if she's becoming more dependent on it? or should i relax and say that this is a transition for her and let her suck on her pacifier while we get ready for bed? our routine used to be bath, bottle in semi-darkness and review of day, brushing teeth. so tonight i think i will switch it to bath, brushing teeth, sitting in dark and review the day. but do i have her suck on a pacifier during the review? or do i not let her and just put her to bed if she starts to cry about not having her pacifier? any advice on what i should do tonight and how to end pacifier use would be great. (i am very nervous about taking away the pacifier-- she sleeps so well and i am not ready to have sleepless nights again even temporarily. i know i am thinking the worst, but i can't help it in this case :).) thanks!!
hey there, i don't think your baby girl needs it anymore. my son tried for a week to give me cues he didn't want his anymore then finally i stopped giving it to him! at 21 ms. they're kinda stagnant. growing of course but out of their most recent growth spurt. at least that's what i read. she should be just fine if she's eating all day and getting milk throughout the day. i keep being told they'll drink/eat if they want. hard for us as mamas to accept that, but it's true!
so...you're gonna have to change the bedtime routine up a little bit somewhat b/c of the no milk thing, but that's what this parenting thing's all about it...as soon as you get used to it, it changes!! :)
good luck, everything's good though i promise! :)
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A.S.
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Both of my boys stopped wanting bedtime milk 18 months old. They just filled up more on dinner and aren't hungry/ thristy before going to bed. In the morning they always wanted a cup of milk before eating breakfast. She knows if she is hungry/ thristy. I would let her decide if she wants a bottle of milk before bed.
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M.K.
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If she doesn't want it then don't give it to her. Mine stopped around 17 months when she weaned from nursing. She's just like your daughter, super skinny and drinks about the same amount of milk and she's now 2. My doctor said more milk but I disagree and do not force it on her. If she wants more then yes I give it to her but if not then do not make a big deal about it.
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R.K.
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I would just let it go. If being tiny runs in your family why try to force her to eat like your pediatrician wants you to, makes no sense to me.
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L.L.
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Follow her lead sounds like if she is geting a well balanced diet during the day and no empty calories she will be fine.Since she isn't accepting more than her usual bottle don't fill it cut it down to what she is actually drinking.
If she is loosing weight at her next well visit your Dr. will thendicuss with you what else to feed her.I know for sure that avocados are a great source to pick up weight.
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L.C.
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Let it go.
Don't sweat it.
Kids eat what they need.
YMMV
LBC