Sorry - that sounds awful. I didn't deal with this same situation, but just potty trained my daughter. There are a thousand ways to potty train, all with different paths to the same end result. Ours was pretty good (definitely had some accidents, though) so I thought I'd share in case it was helpful.
We trained with no diaper and nothing on her for almost four days with the objective of her knowing that something was different. She didn't wear a diaper during nap, but we put a pullup on over night and then took it off first thing in the morning after she sat on the potty. During those four days, I set a timer for 30 minutes the first day, 60 minutes the second day and 90 minutes the third day and had her go to the potty when the buzzer went off (that was the game - she kind of got into that). Anyway, by the fourth day I told her that she needed to tell us when she needed to go. She wasn't so good at getting to it before, so there were a lot of accidents the fourth day but then we introduced the underpants and the concept of "dry pants". For the rest of the week, we helped her learn how to do the whole process by herself, both prompting her for potty breaks anytime we were moving from one activity to another and having her tell us when she needed to go.
I hope that helps - it is a pain in the neck and hopefully it will resolve itself soon.