Hi R..
Welcome to my world! I have b/g twins that will be 2 on September 6th. My girl began taking off her diaper in May and I dealt with it for about a month because, although my pediatrician told me "she's telling you she's ready to potty train", I wasn't. We had a lot going on and I couldn't dedicate 3 days to stay at home and JUST DO IT! Well, I’d finally had enough and things settled down so I potty trained her. It took 2 days to get her accident free during the day and another day or so to get her to dry nights-- their last drink is at dinner and they go down around 7:00pm and are up at 7:00am.
In late July, my son began taking off his diaper and because I had a week long trip planned, I put it off until I returned (my poor caregivers). I began potty training him last Saturday and it took 2 days to get him day trained and he had is first dry morning this morning. We are still getting him up at 2:00am to go but I think we’ll stop that tonight and see how it goes (we did this with Amelia for about a week). He’s doing great. I’ve always heard boys are harder but I’ve not really seen a big difference. Both of them struggled a little with the “poop thing” but they have both overcome it. Changing their environment (Grandma’s house or a big potty) is a little confusing, but they adapt…eventually.
I've never used pull-ups, not even nap time or night. I go straight to panties or underwear. I pull up all my rugs and plan on wiping up pee for a few days and dumping “poopy” underwear a few times. I sit them on their little potty and we sit UNTIL IT HAPPENS. I do not let them get up because I (or they) get bored (I take my I-phone or a book). They fidget, they cry, they investigate their toilet, the ceiling, the wall, and they cry again. With Amelia it took about 30 minutes the first time. Grant took 45! The time shortens throughout the day and by the next day they’ve gotten it figured out. If you let them get up, they’re going to go as soon as you walk out of the bathroom. (my husband didn’t believe me so he tried it). We are very consistent and we stay home the WHOLE time. It’s tough, but it’s only a couple of days.
I chose to do it one child at a time partly because I wasn't convinced Grant was ready, and partly because I couldn't talk myself into the misery of doing both at the same time.
Now mind you, my twins are not talking in sentences. (I always thought they weren't ready until they could say pee-pee or poo-poo). They say one -word and some 2 or 3-word "sentences" (bye-bye momma), but Amelia has now learned to say pee-pee, poo-poo, and potty when she needs to go and she's now going on her own (which is fine until she decides to "dump" the bowl...what a mess)! He’s still new at the game and mostly just comes to me, holding his pants and asks "momma?"
I hate to tell you, R., especially if you're not ready, but I think your twins are telling you it's time. Good luck and remember: consistency is sooo important. This is lengthy, but I had to spell it all out…maybe just to get it off my back…LOL