Happy 4th C., First of all there is nothing and I mean absolutely Nothing Wrong with being a working women, wife & mom. Just means you carry a heaver hold. SAHM's have it easier ( my opinion only ok, I have worked outside the home to for short periods ) We can usually get our laundry done, house dusted and vac'ed, meals prepared and ready in one day. Well for me the laundry takes days two as it's down stairs and my grandson's are upstairs during the day. Working moms get off work, might have to get dry cleaning or grocery shop on the way home and still do laundry clean up the house and prepare meals. If they don't have that wonderful super duper helper hubby at home.
I worked outside the home when we first got married as a hair stylist, when we started our family after 3 yrs of marriage, we decided together I would stay home. Man it was easier working let me tell ya. lol I remember days when nothing got done cause I had so much fun playing with our first son. I was 23 when he was born and Knew how to be a housekeeper, I was my mom's housekeeper from age 10, when my little sis was born. I was in a type of rebellion I think cause I didn't care if the laundry was done in one or even 2 days or house dusted and picked up. I was 25 when our 2nd son was born.
When they got a little older I thought I wanted to do something to get out of the house. I started New construction house cleaning and took them with me. So I was with them practically 24/7. Took better care of my own home when i worked.
Sometimes I would leave the boys with my mom if I had a really big house to do, and when I would go to get them they always acted up. My Mom ( i hated this part) would always say Well they were good UNTIL you showed up!
C., it doesn't matter what you do or how much time you get with your children, they are going to act up in one way or another. Your little girl likes possibly to get your goat with her tantrums. Ah HA I got moms attention now. When that happens, since you already know she is tired, sit her on your lap and read a favorite story to her, or make one up.( our 3 yr gr son loves made up stories at nap time) She may take a short power nap and wake up 20 minutes later just fine again.
But don't feel guilty or that you are not spending enough time with your little girl. If your family friend was honest she might in fact envy you a little that you are able to work outside the home.
I feel fortunate to of been able to spend most of our 37 yrs of marriage at home. But I also know ( getting close to retirement) We could of done more or had more if I had worked also.
You've raised a wonderful family, your step children are close to adulthood and your little girl is another one of God's blessings to last a life time. Be Proud of what you do, only one that can allow you to feel hurt or guilty is you hon. So smile and know you are doing a wonderful job. I for one applaud you!! WTG ^5's
K.
PS Hey Guess what C.? You can do it all and feel very Proud!!