does anyone have any advice. My daughter is 2 months old and for the past week and a half, she has been refusing to go to her dad. Everytime he attempts to hold her, she actually cries tears!!! When she is back in my arms, she stops. I told him it is because I am nursing and that it is only a phase. We've tried wrapping her up in my robe (because it has my scent on it) when he holds her and he has even put on my robe. Nothing has helped so far. His feelings are really hurt. I don't know anything else to try. any advice or suggestions?
My daughter did this too!! From about 2 months until about 7 months! She didn't want anyone but me! Kinda funny at first, but then it got to be a hassle! We never really found a solution, she just kinda stopped one day, but the more and more he held her and rocked her it wasn't as bad as in the beginning!! Hopefully she will just grow out of it.
My daughter is the same way. I know its only because I am the one with her all day. I would try and let dad feed her (put some breast milk in a bottle). Thats the way my daughter warmed up. While your baby is feeding if you've ever noticed she's watching you the whole time (she's studying your face).. I just let her dad feed her more often and he would just take her in another room away from me... That was their little special bonding time together. Now she's fine! Now I'm working on her not crying every time other people hold her..:(
My daughter is 2 1/2 months. We went through this exact same thing just a few weeks ago. She cried everytime he held her and it really hurt his feelings b/c he couldn't ever get her to quiet down. He had to just hand her to me and then she would be fine.
We didn't do anything different except I would still ask my husband to hold her so she still had contact with him. She started letting him hold her out of nowhere. ??? She still cries occasionally with him where he can't get her to calm down but it's nothing like it was a few weeks ago. My advice would be to keep trying...
Also, (I didn't do this b/c pumping doesn't work for me), but if you are able to pump, he could feed her from a bottle so she could learn to count on him as well. That might help.
Tell dad to relax and wait patiently, because shortly she will want Daddy and he will not get her off of him. My daughter did this too; it lasted a few weeks, (it will come and go throughout the first two years) and now I don't even matter when he is home. It is not him....it is just the baby trying to iron out who is who and who does what and knowing I get fed from this one...They are so little and trying to figure out so much.
My 6 year old did the same thing, and I stressed over bonding issues, etc. However, for the last three years ... I don't count any more - it is nothing but dad. I can leave for business for a couple of days and she will miss me but she CRIES for him when he leaves for a few days. Encourage him to just hang in there - her comfort zone is with you right now.
Everyone says that its a phase... my baby did this too but only because the way he was holding her. He should try different positions and see if hes holding on too tight or too rough cuz my babys dad was so scared of dropping her that he didnt realize he was holding her too hard lol hope it helps or maybe sitting with the baby on a pillow that helped or laying the babys ear on his chest so she hears a heartbeat supposibly its soothing but my baby never paid much attention to it maybe yours will.
My husband had the same experience for a few weeks and I think a small part of it was he was physically uncomfortable holding our son the way I held him and he would get apprehensive, so I think our son could feel that. I would always tell my husband that he needed to loosen up, he wasn't going to "break" our baby and once he relaxed, so did our little boy. Also, for the first few months there is no acknowledgement by your little one that dad is doing anything right, and this was hard for my husband and made him apprehensive as well. Once my husband became okay with the fact that sometimes "babies just cry" he was able to relax. Good luck!
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please let me know how things work out I have a 4 month old and she is ok with dad on the weekends during the day to some degree but once he gets home from work and holds her she is ok for awhile but then she scrams until I pick her up once I take her she stops after just screaming and tears going.. I went to the store the other day it was late I came home and he said she had cried for 45 min straight but once I got home she was fine but asleep from the crying..I pray every night that it will get better so I can have me time.. It looks like it might. I hope she even crys with other people as well it is hard let me know how things work for you.. Do you take her right away or do you let him try for awhile ?
