19 Months and Trying...

EDIT AGAIN: Ok. So you're not really appreciative of advice or suggestions about why it's taking longer to get pregnant than you'd like because it wasn't in the exact scope of the question you asked.

What you're feeling in your hips could be the very beginning of your skeleton loosening up a little and stretching ligaments but you would be way too early on in a pregnancy really to feel all of that. It's early for that to happen. The fact is that you can have secondary infertility with no reason visible. Maybe you only have one ovary working. Maybe one side works every other month. Maybe there's an issue with very, very early fertilization that occurs but never shows up as a positive on a test. You just don't know.

I felt it every time in my hips because what I didn't know what I have Fibromyalgia, and I have arthritis in my hips. It got worse with each pregnancy. I felt it by the end of the first trimester but not sooner even with my chronic pain issues.

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EDIT: Based on your past TTC threads I can see that you take Effexor. Effexor is one of those meds that shouldn't be taken during pregnancy. Therefore, I sure as hell wouldn't be taking it while trying to get pregnant either especially since you're over 30. Claims of the drug are that it won't affect your ability to get pregnant, but they don't really know what it will do to your ability to stay pregnant and it's been known to cause damage in developing babies. That's a big red flag to me.

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Your body reacts to stress and anxiety in a way that we don't realize. Maybe part of the issue is that you're TRYING too hard.

My suggestion is to track your fertility. Natural Family Planning can help you with charting your cycle and learning how to tell exactly where you are in your cycle, when you ovulate and not rely so much on the calendar but on your body's signs thus better predict when you can get pregnant.

The old wives tales about having your husband wear more loose pants can actually help. His diet should be very nutritionally sound in addition to yours. It's not just about YOU being healthy but him as well.

I do not want to be a downer, but I do want you to be honest with yourself.

Your percentage of getting pregnant once you turn 30 was a dramatically less percentage than when you were in your 20's. You need to just realize this.

The magazines, TV movies stars, they make it seem like if you try really hard it will happen, when in reality, it is not like that..

I am not trying to hurt your feelings, this is just known biology.

Keep trying and be thrilled if it happens, but do not forget you have a happy healthy child right now. Enjoy her to the fullest.

I am sending you very positive thoughts.

I honestly don't know the answer to your question. When I (finally) got pregnant, I did not necessarily feel it in my hips. I was about your age when I was trying to conceive. Same thing, no reasons why I or my husband couldn't. But there is such a thing as "unexplained fertility." We finally went to a reproductive endocrinologist and did IVF. We were successful and now have twin 6-year-old girls, one of the best things that have ever happened to me! IUI is also an option for those with unexplained fertility (much cheaper). Good luck, I hope you at least get an explanation that you can act on or can move forward with some other action. I know how frustrating it can be.

I was 37 or 38 when I got pregnant with my first child using cloimid, Gonal-f,
And Ovadryl. We were told that medical help would be needed again if we wanted another baby. We were diagnosed with unexplained infertility. Well, a little over a year and a half we got a surprises. I thought I was starting menopause because my period was late. I finally took a test and was pregnant. No meds needed. Just give it a little more time. I now have an almost 3 year old and almost 9 month old girls.

Just a hug. Seems hard to believe only 10%? Don't give up.

I wish you the best of luck. After my daughter was born, I chose Depo Provera as my birth control. I was then on it for 4 1/2 years.

It took us just over 2 years to conceive this little one. Hubby and I both had just about tossed in the towel and had started admitting to ourselves that maybe we just weren't meant to have a third child, like we thought. Then I go pregnant.

Like someone else said, you may just be trying too hard to get pregnant.