16 Mo Old SCREAMING at Bedtime

Ask Dr Sears Web site is always helpful, as Dr. Sears has never failed me. Read Nighttime Parenting, it saved my life!
I don't know if you tried this or how you feel about it, but have you thought of taking her to bed with you so you can both get some sleep? We did the family bed thing after lots of trial an error, mostly error, with our kids and you know, we all love the family bed and get the most rest. That is the bottom line! Many people say no to the family bed in our culture, but for the ones who try it and understand it, it really is a life saver. My oldest, now 7 is in her own bed and our 4 year old always has time at bed time in our bed, then we put her in her room. Some time in the early morning she joins us again and we so enjoy the closeness. My husband doesn't get too much time, as he works very early. This time is fleeting and we wanted to make the most of it. Hope this works for you. Another good read is 3 in a bed. And you are right to not use the cry it out method. Just keep her close, that is what she seems to be telling you now. Someone once said to me "The days are long, but the years are short", and that is so very true when it comes to children!
Good Luck!
J.

It sounds like a phase... maybe triggered by teeth or developmental changes.

My favorite sleep-related book is "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" by Marc Weissbluth. The book recommends trying an earlier bedtime, a longer bedtime routine with more soothing.... And as far as the "cry it out" method, this book says no matter your preference, just be consistent.

My 15-month old has been having harder nights just this week, and I'm sure it's teething related. Maybe try Tylenol before bedtime routine, or ora-jel topical numbing gel for her gums?

K.,

I've been through this with my kids. My oldest is a great sleeper, but every so many months we hit a patch where he's just terrible and won't go down nice to bed. We find that if we just stay consistent with our night time routine, with in a week or so, he returns to his normal good bedtime and sleeper self.

Not a great answer, but just some - hopefully - positive info.

Hi K.,

I also have a 16month old, and she is for the most part really easy to put down. But I notice at least twice a week she cries harder than normal. I try to keep our routine the same, I put her in her crib say good night, and leave the room. I watch the clock and I don't let her cry for more than 5 mins. Then I go back in tell her it is bed time, find the Nuk or whatever else she has pitched from the crib, and then I leave again. I have only gone back a 3rd time once in her life. It seems to work because I think half the time she is playing me--and just needs the security that I will come back.

My daughter is getting her molars, and if I see signs of teething before bed, I usually help her out with teething tablets or Tylenol. That seems make bedtime a little easier on all of us.

Hang in there, you are not alone!!! I have heard from friends this is yet another phase, and it to shall pass.

Good Luck!

K.,

Oh my goodness, when I read your question it was like you were describing my 19 month old son...... I can't wait to see what the other moms have to offer for advice on this very trying issue. Sorry I can't help you other than to tell you "hang in there".

L.