15 Month Old Doesn't Eat

Updated on February 11, 2011
M.H. asks from Mount Laurel, NJ
6 answers

I am a stay at home mom and to make a little extra money I watch a 15 month old. I have been keeping him since he was about 9 months old. When he started coming to me his mom told me to only feed him baby food for lunch. Most of the time he refused to eat it. I asked about breakfast many times and she said he didn't need it. Therefore, he had bottles pretty much all day. She didn't want him to have any table food for fear of him choking. When he turned one she decided it was okay to let him start eating puffs and yogurt. The only yogurt she sends for him is the Gerber yogurt blends that don't have the live active cultures. At this point that is about all that he will eat. To get him to eat any other baby food it has to be mixed with the yogurt. He doesn't eat any of the meat baby foods so I'm concerned he isn't getting any protein at all. I have tried putting all kinds of foods on his tray and he just plays with it. If I manage to get it into his mouth he gags like he's going to throw up and spits is out. I even try sneaking something small into a bite of his yogurt, but that doesn’t work either. It seems that he has missed that window to learn how to eat table food. His mom said that the doctor told them he need to see a speech therapist to teach him how to eat, but that was three months ago and nothing has been said or done by her. He is very delayed in other areas as well (he only says mama and dada), but my biggest concern is the fact that he doesn't eat. So I guess my question is has anyone ever experience anything like this (the not eating or the parent not doing what they should) and if so how did you deal with it? I am very concerned for his health, but I’m not sure what my place is as his caretaker when I see, in a sense, neglect for his wellbeing.

What can I do next?

  • Add yourAnswer own comment
  • Ask your own question Add Question
  • Join the Mamapedia community Mamapedia
  • as inappropriate
  • this with your friends

More Answers

Smallavatar-fefd015f3e6a23a79637b7ec8e9ddaa6

T.H.

answers from Kansas City on

Jen had a good suggestion of trying to get someone to meet with him at your house. If you're willing I would try and locate the number to the local Parents as Teachers and have her sign him up. Of course, you'll have to just hope that she actually does it. You could offer i suppose, but I 'm not sure if that will work. Anyway, maybe they could meet wtih the child at your house, although that's not ideal, maybe at least for one of the initial times so you could ask questions and voice your concerns too. As I type it out, it seems more unrealistic than it did in my head, but maybe it's worth a shot. I would just ask some follow up questions about whether or not she's made an appointment for him at the speech path., etc. I would even ask your own pediatrician the next time you're there for some ideas on how to help, etc. In the end, I think maybe you just need to tell her that you're going to start him on some finger foods. If she throws a bit fit, then of course you can't do it, she's the mom, but I bet if you press it just a bit, she'll probably cave and let you do it. Maybe if you start offering it to him he'll start to get it or at least be interested. I wish I had better advice, this sounds like a tricky situation! Good luck and I'd be interested to know how it turns out!

Smallavatar-fefd015f3e6a23a79637b7ec8e9ddaa6

J.O.

answers from Chicago on

Keep trying anytime you eat give him a try too. Does he hold a cup or bring anything to his mouth? Let mom know you can meet/take him to therapy. Also check with local school district they may have a program for the little guy too. Good Luck.
J.

Smallavatar-fefd015f3e6a23a79637b7ec8e9ddaa6

M.S.

answers from Philadelphia on

I honestly don't think it's your place to call anyone or be asking this question. I understand you're concerned, but children have their own time table.. Just because they are 'behind' the standard doesn't mean that his mother is neglectful. I have a feeling that if you follow the suggestions posted on this message board, you'll be out of a job...

D.S.

answers from Allentown on

Hi, M.:

Do you all have any child advocacy programs in your area?
If you do, talk to someone.
Did you interview the Mom so you know exactly what it is she is afraid of?
Thanks for caring.
D.

Smallavatar-fefd015f3e6a23a79637b7ec8e9ddaa6

D.C.

answers from Pittsburgh on

A friend of mine had to take her child to an occupational therapist because he wouldn't eat solid foods. Unfortunately, I don't know that there is much that you can do as the babysitter except to gently point out that he is developmentally behind, and that you'd be willing to have the therapist come to your house to work with him during the day if that makes it easier for him to get the help he needs (if in fact you would be willing to do this) . Ultimately it is up to the parents to get the appropriate help for her child.

Smallavatar-fefd015f3e6a23a79637b7ec8e9ddaa6

C.K.

answers from Pittsburgh on

In my opinion, this woman has starved her child. He doesn't need speech therapy, he needs occupational therapy! I hate to say it, but you need to contact the authorities.

For Updates and Special Promotions
Follow Us

Related Questions