14-Month-old Waking at Night and Standing up in Crib

I agree with Celeste! When you go in to soothe, don't pick up and don't talk. It might just be night terrors if her eyes are closed...but maybe not. Take MY advice and don't think it'd be a good idea to take her for a drive to get her back to sleep. We did that. Fopr months! WHAT a mistake! We eventually ended up doing CIO, and it was about 3-4 really tough nights but now my son is an excellent sleeper and has been for a long time. Good luck. You can do this! Oh--also, as long as her crib is free from hazards, she won't get hurt.

Ok. Try this~ Keep your routine the same except this....rocking her to sleep.
This is my opinion. If she cries a bit, let her go for like 5 to 10 min(depending on the severity).
Go in to her room, and without speaking to her, lay her down and let her know you are there by touching her head, and touching her back in a soothing manner. Do not pick her up. When she wakes in the middle of the night(I would invest in a video moniter), let her cry for a bit. She may still be sleeping...I know my daughter used to do this too. If you go in every single time she cries, you are asking for a sleepness night(meaning she will do it all the time). She does not need a drink in the middle of the night anymore. If she goes 5 hrs, and wakes....then go in, and repeat the no talking soothing.
Sounds to me like she is having night terrors(screaming and eyes closed) which can not be avoided, but just let her know(which I know you are) that everything is okay.
Good luck.

I think you should try the bath and going to bed routine about one hour ahead of time. Is she getting teeth? Try giving her some baby tylenol/hylands teething tablets before she goes to sleep. she is testing you also by standing up and crying. she is crying more when you go to her every time. I do not think she will hurt herself if you let her cry it out. try it and see what happens. Is it worth it to make yourself so tired in the morning? I am not trying to be mean but you can not function,neither can she if you are both sleep deprived in the morning.

C.,
I think this is just a stage...my son went through the same thing, and unfortunately, it lasted several months. Nothing I did would help...he just wanted me to stay in his room...as soon as I would leave, he would scream...I go in and so on....the cycle just went on for hours every night.
W.

She won't hurt herself!
She's used to having you hang in there with her as long as she can last, so it will be a battle for 3 days to 1 week, but if you don't go in, she'll sooth herself to sleep if you can hang in there. Don't dwell in the crying in the moment. Realize you are doing a good thing enabling her to feel secure going to sleep on her own. Make sure she eats and exercises enough all day, do her night routine and walk away. you can do it! Get some sleep!

my daughter went through this at about the same age. it only lasted a few weeks. then she stopped. i would say day what you have to do to get her back to sleep. or if youre ok with crying it out then do that. that is what i did. i would go in her room, rub ber back a minute and tell her its night night time. then leave. it didnt take much of this for her to outgrow the phase. hopefully something works for you soon, its hard being sleep deprived!!

Two thoughts: First, this is separation anxiety, and as a previous poster pointed out, it will most likely pass in a couple of weeks.

Second: she is not getting enough night sleep. It sounds like she is going to sleep around 9 and getting up before 6? (disclaimer: all children are different and averages are just that, averages) Most one-year-olds need 11 or so hours at night. Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child says that a child her age should be going to bed between 6:30 and 8 and staying there until at least 6. Could she go to bed earlier? It sounds counterintuitive, but she might go down easier.

Good luck, it's hard to walk away from the crying. She won't hurt herself, though. She'll just fall down on her (nicely diaper padded) bottom and roll into her preferred sleeping position. You can practice sitting down from standing during the daytime if this is a new skill for her.

Hi, C.:

If you cry, is there something that you need?

The baby is crying because it has a need. What does the baby need? I guess you are asking us what your baby needs.

What do you do to assess the situation? Is she wet? Is she hungry? Does she have gas? (Tight belly)
Can she breathe? Is there anything constricting her circulation? Do you pick her up and do an inspection?

Don't worry. You are a good mother. You will eventually figure out what the baby needs. Just keep practicing.
Good luck. D.