Hay,mom to mom,
I have 8 childern and 4 grandchildern...I still have a 8 boy, 11 girl and 13 boy, still at home,my husbund is very protective of the girls and has higher exspictations of the boys,we have had battels over who our 14 girl dates(back in her day)....but the more we refuse to agree with her choices,the more determined she is to date those ones and (we were young and in love from week to week),when I just stoped trying to step in the middle and let my husbund have his lexsure to her and I quietly bit my toung off,it gave both of them time to fight it out and see,how different oppinuated they were,...saying I have a boyfreind,is so different then in our day,when I had a chance to let them know my oppinion,I gave it calmly and with reason,and left it at that,to fight or get upset..or try to change hubbys mind,showed my daughter,I agreed with her and hubby,I was agenst him...I found,the less,I talked or ingaged in thier feelings and sent up prayers,the faster she and daddy could get along untill the next boy came along,I learn to stand by my hubby and let our kids know we are a team and the adults,they can raise thier kids as they choose,but..we have made our choice to dissagree with you dating and leave it alone,I pick and choose my battels and convincing hubby,hes wrong or daughter she is wrong,is to tiring,I just walk away and pray for both of them, and myself,to keep my toung in my mouth...LOL
As long as she is doing good in school and acting approprite,your doing good !!!! life is to short to spend it fighting over somthing that can take place behind your back,if pussed to far and thats worse to deal with then,this...
Girls are dadys little princess and boys are mommys little heros,thank goodness you have them to embrace,once they are gone and married,they look back and laugh at how you felt on dating and 9x out of 9,they raise thier kids the same and arrgue,with you that they are nothing like you were ...its always worse,what they went through...remember hearing how your parents walked up hill 20miles to school and another 20 miles UP HILL BACK HOME AGAIN !!! LOL, its always larger to a young person,then it is to adults...becuse we have been there and see where it could go,set your boundries and stand by your man,no matter how over reactive he can be,you know...HE IS A MAN..(they come from Mars..)LOL
you love him enough to bite your toung off and pray till,the cows come home or till,the kids are not home...good luck and GOD BLESS !!
Im praying for you...its easy for me, after all these years..LOL
I made a sign for my mom...and you may be able to see it in yourself...Mirror,Mirror,on the well...I am my mother after ALL !!!!!
Remind hubby,girls look for boys that remind them of thier fathers and that may be why,hes ballistic at times..LOL
Take time to love them,through this growing stage and trust in what you have set your values at,she will feel safe and make good choices and if not,deal with that as it comes,WITH LOTS OF LOVE,and forgiving....pray mom,pray...