13 Month Old Making Herself Throw up at Bedtime

CIO isn't for her. Do whatever it takes to help her to go to sleep calmly. She needs to learn to trust you to be there to meet her needs.

I think it's just sad to let a little one cry and cry...I know some think it's just fine but I can't do it. Figuring out they can cause such a fun effect is a wonderful thing for the little ones but not the cleaner upper. Just be patient.

If you study Psychology there is a stage of development in babies that is called Trust VS Mistrust. If a baby cries for mommy and mommy ignores her the baby learns to not trust Mommy.

I agree with the other mama's about trying a different method. For a 13 month old to make herself vomit? 2 guesses on my part: 1) maybe a new discovery and novel (doubtful) and 2) this is how she is coping with a negative experience.

For a BABY to do this is not a good emotional sign. She is upset. She is NOT simply trying to 'get attention'! If she is doing something this upsetting to get your attention, please be attuned enough to recognize something about bedtime routine is very distressing to her and has to change IMMEDIATELY.

Every child is different and while some may respond well to CIO, others may experience it as a trauma and sense of being alone. Her behavior suggests she isn't feeling safe with this method and needs to find security in you or her daddy. Please listen to your baby and what her needs are...she is way too young to be doing such self destructive things.

It might be limited to bedtime, but I guess I'm curious what her behavior is like during the day? How are her naps? How is she with attachment? Is she fearful of being alone?

I recommend reading 'Parenting from the inside out' by Daniel Siegel. I know there are a lot of books out there but this one helps parents in understanding how to instill security in their children which will help them not act out in self destructive ways and help you as a parent not have to contend with behaviors that are so extreme.

If you switch methods and she keeps doing this please take her into see your doctor again specific to this problem. There may be other things occurring that this particular problem may point to...is she eating anything before bed that she wants out of her system? Gosh, maybe take her in anyways about this even if you switch methods for bedtime.

You must be so worried!!! I'm sorry this is happening and hope it resolves itself soon:) You sound like a caring mama so best luck!

Also, you most likely already know this, and I know you probably need more sleep so I understand trying the CIO method. But this method is clearly unsettling to your baby girl and her emotional needs are more important than sleep...truly. best wishes:)

Does it not occur to you that the CIO method is traumatizing your child to the point that she feels she has to do SOMETHING to get your attention? 30-60 minutes of crying due to being fearful of being alone in the dark? That's a bit cruel. Maybe you should have had a dog instead... crate training doesn't work well for most animals - but at least you don't have to hear them crying their eyes out for Mommy.

I was actually a bit queasy after reading what's been happening... it is really upsetting that you feel your child, barely out of infancy, created this 'trick' to manipulate you. I can guarantee, that children that young do not yet know how to create tricks to manipulate an adult. They do try to express what their needs are - but seems you aren't getting the loud and clear memo.

CIO is not for every child. It worked with my first but not with my second.
Try sitting in her room, starting out with a chair next to the crib, and each night or every couple of nights move it a little further away towards the door.

No offense, but, honestly, I would stop trying to do cry it out. All this is setting up is bad associations with bedtime.
If you really feel like you need to do something I would suggest The No Cry Solution by Elizabeth Pantley
http://www.amazon.com/No-Cry-Sleep-Solution-Gentle-Throug...
Or The Baby Sleep Book by Dr Sears http://www.amazon.com/Baby-Sleep-Book-Complete-Parenting/...

Cry it out is not for her. Growing up, our neighbor's child actually died from inhaling her vomit during cry it out.

I saw an episode of "Supernanny" that had an idea that I really like. It's similar to the cry it out method, but not as severe:

You put your daughter to bed, do your routine, story time, whatever, then you pick a spot, half way between the door and her crib/bed and sit on the floor, facing the door, and your back to the crib. No matter how many times she calls or screams for you, do NOT turn around. She can see you're still there, and that you won't leave her, but it will train her to sleep in her own bed in her own room. The only time you have any kind of reaction is if she gets out of her bed, you pick her up, put her back in bed, without saying anything, cover her back up and return to your spot on the floor. When she's finally quiet, then you leave the room. If she gets up in the middle of the night, you do it again. Good luck!

For my first we let her cry it out - 4 days for 4 hours and then she slept through the night. For the 2nd we used Dr. Ferber's method - you go in after 5 minutes of crying the 1st night but do not pick up or feed, just soothe. Then you leave and let her cry 10 minutes and go in and soothe (pat back, sing song, etc but no feeding nor picking up). You keep adding 5 minutes to the crying time the first night. The 2nd night you start with 10 minutes and then add 5 mins each time. Dr. Ferber's book "how to solve your child's sleep problems" has detailed descriptions. It worked in about 2 weeks for our 2nd child. There are also many other issues described, like sleep walking and sleep terrors. Good luck.

CIO isn't for your child.
Stop it before you cause her real damage.
I have to agree with Pamela , Sue and Ally.
CIO is one of the nastiest inventions. America is the only place you will find it, Many other countries parents cosleep and attachment parent their children for many years.
Kids sleep all night when they do. There is nothing you can do to get them to do it. My oldest, gifted and ADHD, didn't sleep all night till she was 3 , my son slept all night at just past a year. Both on their own both w/o any prompting , CIO or anything else. I woke up one morning and realized they didn't get up that night.

I did something similar to what heather s suggested when i started having my daughter sleep in her own bed. I put her in her bed and i sat in the rocking chair by the door and read a book, not responding to her. It took 2 weeks, but she was 18 months and rather stubborn. and i totally enjoyed having that 30 mins or so of time to do nothing except read my book!

We use a small amount of 1 mg liquid melatonin mixed in with our son's nightly bottle when we are traveling and he's not on his sleep schedule, or when he's teething, and also if we have a time change. We use a quarter of an adult amount and it really does the trick. When we started his sleep schedule we used it for about a week until he got used to the routine and went down easily. I hear that chamomile tea mixed in with your baby's bottle can have the same effect.

My heart just breaks hearing this. I am a fan of "to each their own" on sleep methods but this is traumatic for me to hear... imagine being your daughter! Please stop the CIO method. It works for some... not your daughter - not my kids either. Question to ponder... do you want to be there for your daughter when she needs her mommy or do you want her to learn that it is a tough world and she'll have to face it alone? That's how I thought of the CIO method and why I chose not to do it. Just my personal opinion. Good luck - love that little baby. :) What about "No Cry Sleep Solution"? Its a book I've heard people use.

Yeah, CIO isn't for her so please stop.(I am NOT a fan of CIO). Throwing up is not a good thing nor is an effective use of CIO. Please check out Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child by Weissbluth.
GL!

you may be right about the CIO part. I'd scale it back and only let her cry for a few minutes and comfort her again. My son did the barf thing. They called me from daycare multiple times because he threw up. Finally his teacher realized he'd only do it if he was mad about something or somebody actually told him no! It didn't last very long and you are right to ignore it totally and just clean it up.