11 Month Old Not Doing Well in Child Care.

I do agree with Alan. I am also an In Home Care provider, and I have a set schedule with the children. The parents and I are on the same page when it comes to eating, nap time (which is the same time for all the children), play time, movie time, outside time, ect... It has to work for both. I am no pro,and we all have challenges that we all must face and deal with, but she(Daycare provider) is working for you! It does take time for any child to adjust esp an 11 month old. How long have you stuck it out at each place? I advise that the parents drop in whenever they want, and some have even dropped in to take there kids to lunch with them or to have lunch at my house. I think it is great. We play school, where they actually learn. We paint, color, make crafts,ect....Structure is very important!!!!I am not licenses, but I also do not take anymore children then I am allowed, and I also do not overload myself or the other children. I am very careful about my day. I plan everything....but dont think things dont change,.....cause they do.I wish you lived closer to me, I would love the oppotunity to care for your child. I live in PA.
If you dont mind me asking....is she licensed? How many children does she have at one time? How much is she charging you?How many hours a day is she careing for your child?Nannies are not necessarily that much more expensive...check them out.

I agree with Alan, it does take a couple week for a child to adjust. Some children go through a stranger/separation anxiety a couple times within the first 18 mos of life. I watched my niece a couple days a week, plus saw her at least once on the weekend throughout her first year, but around her first birthday she would cry when my sister-in-law would leave and she would be clingy with me for an hour or so after that.

How L. have you been leaving him in each of the daycares? Are these licensed providers that are following regulations? Those regulations are made so a provider isn't stretched too far to properly care for each child.

I strongly recommend dropping in unannounced to see what the situation is at the daycare. Providers are completely able to put on an "act" at drop off and pick up times but you can't really tell how they are unless you pay a surprise visit.

I wish you luck!

I wish I had room in my daycare to help you out, but my infant slot is filled. Sounds like you just have bad providers. All 11 month olds are needy. And three daycares since August, that's alot for a baby to take in. From experience I know it takes two weeks for a 2+ yr old to get broken in (actually 8 business days). A baby takes a little longer. Are there other children at these daycares ? And are they home daycares or centers ?

Also, when a parent holds the baby to get the baby to go to sleep, it DOES make it harder for the daycare provider to get the baby to sleep. It will make the baby cry much more than needed, and it keeps all the other children awake then. Parents and the provider must be on the same page. I have meetings with all my "first time parents" often because they just don't know what to do. If you and your provider were to get on the same page as far as how to get the child to sleep, what to put in the crib, when to eat, how to eat (at 11 months he should be on finger foods feeding himself), ect ect. That will smooth things out within a three week period.

All children adapt. The children I teach know what they can get away with here, and what they can get away with at home. Big difference LOL.

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I had a similer problem with a day care provider in Crofton. Her name is Donna. She would restrain the kids & leave the babies in a room by themselves. It turns out that my kids did nto have what they needed inthe way of "instruction". They did not know their colors or other basic info they should have gotten from their licensed day care experience. there is SO much more that she did with those kids. If you are with Donna FIRE HER IMMEDIATELY!!!

You might want to try and look for a Nanny Share arrangement in your home. It's more affordable than paying for a Nanny yourself and perhaps your child would do much better staying at home and being in familiar surroundings.