Hello D. ~ My 5 yr old daughter is also severely allergic to dairy has been since she was about 7 months....check out http://zensoy.com/ they have pudding...silk soy makes a yogurt you have to be very careful of the cheese there is a dairy free cheese I can't think of the name/brand b/c even though it may say dairy free it does contain casein which is a dairy derivative. I also have some easy recipes for cakes & pudding other things please feel free to email me if you'd like. I know how overwhelming it can be to try to figure it all out.
here is a list of dairy/derivatives ....other names for dairy
Lactose (milk sugar) intolerance is the most common form of milk allergy or adverse reaction to cow, goat and sheep's milk. Lactose needs to be broken down by an enzyme called lactase to be absorbed in the body, but some people do not produce enough lactase for this to happen. The digestive system cannot cope with raw lactose, so it reacts against it with symptoms such as stomach pain, bloating, vomiting and diarrhea.
For others a milk allergy is a reaction to milk proteins such as casein that can be very difficult for humans to digest. Alternatively, the digestive system may not be functioning correctly and partially digested proteins may be crossing the stomach wall and causing an adverse immune reaction, contributing to a host of symptoms, and/or aggravating others.
If you see any of the following items listed as an ingredient in a food, it will not be milk-free:
Butters: artificial butter, artificial butter flavor, butter, butter extract, butter fat, butter flavored oil, butter solids, dairy butter, natural butter, natural butter flavor, whipped butter
Casein & caseinates: ammonium caseinate, calcium caseinate, magnesium caseinate, potassium caseinate, sodium caseinate, hydrolyzed casein, iron caseinate, zinc caseinate
Cheese: cheese (all types), cheese flavor (artificial and natural), cheese food, cottage cheese, cream cheese, imitation cheese, vegetarian cheeses with casein
Cream, whipped cream
Curds
Custard
Dairy product solids
Galactose
Ghee
Half & Half
Hydrolysates: casein hydrolysate, milk protein hydrolysate, protein hydrolysate, whey hydrolysate, whey protein hydrolysate
Ice cream, ice milk, sherbet
Lactalbumin, lactalbumin phosphate
Lactate solids
Lactyc yeast
Lactitol monohydrate
Lactoglobulin
Lactose
Lactulose
Milk: Acidophilus milk, buttermilk, buttermilk blend, buttermilk solids, cultured milk, condensed milk, dried milk, dry milk solids (DMS), evaporated milk, fat-free milk, fully cream milk powder, goat’s milk, low-fat milk, malted milk, milk derivative, milk powder, milk protein, milk solids, milk solid pastes, non-fat dry milk, non-fat milk, non-fat milk solids, pasteurized milk, powdered milk, sheep’s milk, skim milk, skim milk powder, sour milk, sour milk solids, sweet cream buttermilk powder, sweetened condensed milk, sweetened condensed skim milk, whole milk, 1% milk, 2% milk.
Milk fat, anhydrous milk fat
Nisin preparation
Nougat
Pudding
Quark
Recaldent
Renned, rennet casein
Simplesse (fat replacer)
Sour cream, sour cream solids, imitation sour cream
Whey: Acid whey, cured whey, delactosed whey, demineralized whey, hydrolyzed whey, powdered whey, reduced mineral whey, sweet dairy whey, whey, whey protein, whey protein concentrate, whey powder, whey solids
Yogurt (regular or frozen), yogurt powder
Possible sources of milk:
Natural flavoring
Flavoring
Caramel flavoring
High protein flour
Lactic acid (usually not a problem)
Lactic acid starter culture
"Non-dairy" products may contain casein.
Rice cheese
Soy cheese
Also avoid products that have an advisory label that indicates that the product MAY contain milk or that is processed on shared equipment.