My husband and I will be celebrating our 10 year anniversary this May and I have this great idea planned. I have always wanted to go to Hawaii and I know my husband would love that too, because we have talked about it. I found a great and awesome deal at costco travel. I was thinking of surprising him with this trip, but I am not sure how he would react. I have money saved because I knew this date was coming and I wanted to travel because I love too. He always worries about money and about traveling. I don't know if I should ask him and plan it with him, or if I should just do it and surprise him. My fear is he will get mad and say we can''t afford it. If I plan it with him, he will probably say "whatever you want", and won't help with the decisions anyway. I am planning it for the fall, and the travel ad says it has to be purchased by March 3rd. Do I purchase it then tell him "Surprise we are going to Hawaii in the fall" or do I ask him now and get his opinion? He may want to go somewhere else or cheaper, but I think the fun would be surpising him. I do not have all the money saved, so we will have to continue to save untill we go. Thanks!
print out a fake ticket or a fancy looking itinerary and present it to him BEFORE buying the actual.... that way you'll know what he thinks and you havent spent money that you may not be able to get back if he does get pissed.
Ok, how about @ Valentine's Day plan some kind of date. On this date, wrap a gift that would have to do w/ this trip-sunglasses, a hawaiin print shirt, swim trunks, some flip flops-or possibly 2 things. Have a note that he will need to use these on an upcoming trip-OR he might just guess it outright. You could then discuss it over dinner, drinks or dessert or ice cream-whatever you decide to do. That way, it's kind of a surprise but you openly discuss options for islands to go to, places to stay etc. This is a great 10 yr Anniversary idea-whoo hoo!
I would wrap up the brochure nowish and suprise him withOUT actually paying for it yet. This way you're planning it, but if he makes a big stink about it there's no money lost. You know him best. Personally I (mostly) would rather ask for forgiveness than beg for permission ;o)
Oh, and great choice on Hawaii. We went a few years ago and it was fantastic! A great mix of romantic and fun.
Buy him one of those tacky dancing hula dolls you stick to your dash board as a gift for the actual anniversary and make the idea of the trip a surprise. I would never spend more than a few hundred dollars without discussing it with my husband. How would you feel if he showed up with a new car for your anniversary for you, but it was not the kind of car you really wanted?
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congrats on ten years of marriage! Personally, I do not like surprises....even good ones! Couldn't you say you are giving him an early gift and say surprise we are going to Hawaii before you actually book it? I think a trip like this should be planned together or even if you do all the planning at least have his blessing.
Hi there,
I think you can be the best judge of that you have 10y of experience! I dislike surprises myself, and my husband loves giving them. I just think that each person should have a say. I would do it especially since fall is in the hurricane season of Hawaii, the majority of years there are no major problems and it's beautiful, but you never know!! I would rather face that as a team-decision!!
I think your husband is going to be delighted that you've already put money aside for the trip!!
Good luck!!
I think anytime you are going to spend that amount of money it should be a joint decision with your spouse, irregardless of whether it is a surprise for your anniversary. Even more so if he worries about money.
It all depends to me on you guys finaincal sitiuation. If u guys are in a bind for money I would ask for his opinion instead of surprising him. You know ur husband better that I do I know if it was me I would want to be apart of this big money decision. I think either way he should be happy.
For my husband's 35th birthday, I surprised him with a trip to Vegas. I did all the planning, paid for everything in cash, so he had no clue. I went to the travel agent and was very insisting in keeping contact via cell phone private calling. This trip was with 8 people total. The night before the trip I asked him to go to the supermarket with a list cause I was too busy to go myself. When he left my sister picked up the luggage. The morning of I woke him and said my sister was sick and we would have to pick my grandpop up from the airport. He showered and i woke up our 10 year old daughter. She wanted to see us off and did a good job with the secret. My sister was outside and took her to the airport. My mother in law was there for our son, so he didnt no that our daughter wasnt there. On the way there, my sister called and i acted like it was my grandpop. I said u arrived early and want to get coffee so pick u up at the departing area instead. Once we got there the other guest were outside with matching shirts on and our daughter holding a poster board saying we r going to vegas birthday style. he was so shocked but loved it. My mom and uncle took both cars and our daughter home. He was beyond shocked and loved every minute of it. He was worried about work, but i called and requested his time off 3 months prior with his boss without his knowledge. it was a lot of work but he was worth it and really appreciated it.
