10 Yer Old Still Wets the Bed

Had the same problem with my son. Eventually once he hit puberty (he's 14 now) it resolved itself. I even took him to doctors and stuff. They tried medication, and none of it did him any good. But as the doctor said, he outgrew it by age 13.

I have a 6 year old girl who also has adhd & takes med for it. I do the same thing - cut off drinks after a certain time, make sure she goes potty before bed & wake her up about every 2 hours to go - at some point in my 2 hour gap she still wets. I spoke to her dr about it & was told kids with adhd have a disorder where the brain doesnt tell them to get up. There in such a deep sleep to where their bladder doesnt feel full to them. Dont punish him for it - I was also told to have the child help in washing the bedding (that hasnt helped me yet but, its worth a try). Her dr was going to try a different type of medication that is supposed to help. I go back & see him in middle part of may & am supposed to try this out. If you would like to keep in contact with me i can suggest it & see how it works.

get him an alarm clock where you can set the alarm for more than one time. (we have one by rca.) set the first alarm for 3 or so hours after he goes to bed and the second for another 3 hours after that. and put the clock on the opposite side of the room from the bed so he has to get out of bed to turn it off.

My 10 year old daughter has just overcome this, after we tried everything for 4 years. Her doctor gave her medication and we were not to give her caffeine or chocolate after 3:30 and no drinks after 4:30pm except for a small amounts of water.

I would wake her at 11pm to go to the bathroom (she was a zombie every time...very deep sleeper), then right before I went to bed. Sometimes the pill wouldn't work and she'd wet anyway. We had her shower as soon as she got up every morning, as well as help tend to her bed if she had wet it. A routine was very important to her, and any interruption would mean an accident. She wore Goodnights for a while, and that helped her not feel embarrassed anymore when she did wet.

She stopped on her own a few months shy of her birthday. Her father also had enuresis until 12, so I know it is probably just that her bladder was a tad immature.

Awwwww, bless him.
I myself wet the bed until I was about his age.
My parents took away liquids at 6 pm...they tried it all. It got to where I was left to sleep in the same soiled sheets for an entire week, they hoped this would stop me from wetting the bed :(
Have you tried waking him at around midnight or so to have him go to the bathroom? And maybe three hours after that, try to wake him again to go. It will mean a little less sleep, but it may train his mind to wake up to go.
I have a son with Aspergers Syndrom, and its alot like adhd in a way...Funny thing is, my son will have accidents during the day because he is unable to slow down or realize that he needs to "go", but during the night he never has wet the bed. Just during the day *sigh*.

Good luck with your son, but I'm sure he will outgrow it when he is able to :)

I would just try getting him up every 3 hours at night to get him to go. And just be patient with him--he can't help it.

I had the same problem growing up. The only thing that ever really helped while I was little was my mom used to get up and physically take me to the bathroom before she went to bed (around 11:00) and again when my dad got up for work (around 5:00). Of course, NO ONE wants to wake up like that on the week ends, so I would often wet the bed on Saturdays and Sundays. I will tell you, I was always ashamed when I wet the bed though. It probably didn’t help that my parents made sure to tell me how unacceptable it was every time I had an accident. For all sakes, PLEASE, NEVER, EVER, shame him. It will only scar him emotionally. It won’t change the problem, and in fact, MAY make it worse.

Actually, as embarrassing as it is to admit, I still wet the bed (occasionally) until I was almost 27 YEARS. I am usually a fairly light sleeper, but when I get exhausted, I don’t think a stampede of wild elephants running straight through my room would wake me. I would realize that I needed to pee, but I would write it into my dream sequence, and because I was dreaming that I was in the restroom, I would go. Some how, getting married fixed this problem! (Go figure!!!)

Hopefully your little one will grow out of it MUCH younger than I did. I suggest waking him up like my mom did for me, and either accept the accidents on the week end, or set the alarms for your-self anyway. My mom also made me go to bed an hour earlier than my siblings; to accommodate the waking up and putting me back to sleep. I also recommend using those “Big Kid Pull-Ups” for any sleep-overs he may attend. No one else has to know, and if he does have an “oopsy” he can either throw it any there, or put it in a zip-lock with his overnight bag and no one else will ever know.

Anyway, hope all goes well for you! – Janell

we just finished with this at my house. bathroom before bed, wake to go 3 hours later, then three hours after that, then as soon as morning routine normally starts. and heres the best part.....if you really commit yourself, and you are patient, it only takes around two to three weeks, because he will just get used to waking up at those times if you wake him fully each time, and of course, "good job", "I knew you could", so on and so forth. i know that two weeks can seem eternal, so get dad in on one of the wakings if he is in the picture, if not, well, that sucks, but you can still accomplish this together.

Dear N.,

Yes, my son did that too, eventually he stopped, I think that they have some new methods now for helping them. Go on the internet and see what you can find. Lots of children do this, and ususally they are deep sleepers. He is probably very tired from his adhd days. That disorder is very hard on the child, more so than it is for the family and teachers. Good Luck, C. N.

I wet the bed until I was a little older than your son. There was nothing wrong with me according to doctors, they told my parents that my bladder probly hadn't grown as fast as other parts of me. They said that it would eventually catch up, and it did. I was very close to puberty by the time I stopped wetting the bed (about 12 or 13). Yes, it was embarrassing as I got older, and there were a lot of times I didn't spend the night at friends houses because I was afraid I would wet myself. The best thing you can do is not get angry or frustrated, my parents were very understanding and never made me feel bad about it. You can try bed liners to save your mattress, and pull-ups too, although that would probly be embarrassing as well. Really, waiting it out is going to be your best bet. There are procedures that doctors can do, but I think that's drastic. If your really concerned talk to your doctor, but I think the bed wetting is a little more normal than you realize, good luck!

N.- Don't feel bad. My 11 year old still wets the bed. He is ADHD as well. Have you taken him to the Dr? He might have a problem known as enurisis, there is medication that will help. Let him know that it is not his fault.

With my son there are times that he uses pull ups the goodnight ones.

I hope this helps
Stacyr

My son is 9 and has ADHD and PDD-NOS (an autistic disorder) He still wets the bed, not everynight, we were given the alarm system that is attached to the pjs, with part in the underwear. He sometimes slept through the alarm, but I would hear it and could get him up and othertimes he disconnected it so we kept experimenting with the location of the sound box. It did help. It also gave him a sense of he is doing something to help with the problem. I never made a real big issue of him wetting the bed. Just had him help me take the wet things to the laundry room. I will admit when he would wake me up at 3 am and tell me he wet I may have gotten a little snippy but I would calm down and take care of the situation, and apologize for my behavior. He also needed to learn that Mom wasn't perfect and had bad times too.

Hi N., my friend's son had the same problem with her son about the same age also. She

Hi there,
I know this is a little late, but I don't get a chance to get on here very often. I just wanted to say my son is now almost 14. He wet the bed until he was almost 12. It sounds like puberty is the magic age. My son is also a heavy sleeper and ADD. He did get embarassed, but We just reassured him that it is O.K. and hereditary. His dad was a wetter also. My son sleeps through alarms to this day. My middle child never wet the bed. My daughter who is 6 is still wetting at night. For her I did things a little differently. I never got her out of pull ups. It is much easier this way. I still do the no drinking and going pee before bed. She just automatically wears a pull up at night. Since she is deaf we have to get her an alarm that shakes. Just remember he will grow out of it. Good Luck!

Hello N.,
I have a friend who's son has the same problem. His mother tried a alarm which seemed to work well. Wakeing her son every three hours to use the restroom delveloped a sleepy child the next day. Have you asked you Dr for advice? I was wondering how long this has been happening? Maybe there is a medical reason? Just a suggestion good luck!

I had a friend who wet his bed till he was well into grade school as well. I remember that at one point he had an alarm of sorts. It clipped onto his jammies and then another section with a wet sensitive tip (that was soft) clipped into his underwear, when he would start to wet it woke him up (and us, hehehe) but it was a good tool, since his body wan't waking him up the alarm did. I'm not sure if it was doctor prescribed or not, but I think it was. Other thenthat, like the other women have told you the best way is to just get him in the habit of waking several times a night to get up and go potty. Good luck, I know this can seem like a long road, but it too will come to pass just keep working on it!!!!!

H.

I feel for him. My 14 year daughter still has the occasional problem. I know that none of the myths work. Honestly, what we are doing now is setting an alarm. I think the lady that said to put the alarm acrossed the room is on to something. I will try that tomorrow night. The fact is these poor kids can't help it. So they just need to feel in control. They sleep way too deep and can't feel the urge. So they wet. They feel terrible shame. We do our best to support her and build her self-esteem.

Hi N.,

I also have a 10 year old (almost 11) who still wets the bed occasionally. It was a reoccuring event but it has improved. I don't know specifically what worked. I tried all the tricks no drinking late at night, going to the bathroom right before bed, and waking him up in the middle of the night. We even talked to the doctor about it. He said it is some what common, not to make a big deal out of it, and it will eventually correct itself. I spoke with my son about him feeling embrassed or ashamed and tried to reassure him that it was a pretty common thing especially in boys. I think that hepl him feel better about the situation and not worry about it so much. I don't know if this will help you but I hope it does.

have you talked to his pediatrician about it??? he might have a medical problem that can be easily treated by a dr...