Well, it is definitely tine for son to learn that there are consequences to unwanted behavior, because it seems that he is learning that the tantrums, screaming, climbing, and other poor behvaiors are being "rewarded," but your responses. Also, what activities are you pproviding during the day, besides TV, and the ability to climb? Are timeouts a method of reprimand, vice the rewards of sippy cups, and the attention given to him, when he miss behaves? Sorry, sometimes, as Moms we think that the coddling will elleviate the unwanted behaviors, when that is not the case. If my daughter had a tantrum, I would not respond to that behavior, if she fell out, I would get down to her level, and in a VERY CALM, AND UNEMOTIONAL, YET SERIOUS< BUT STERN VOICE, I would tell her: (the child's name, I can see that you are upset, because you did not get your way for (whatever the issue was), however, you will not get my attention, by having this tantrum, this is NOT the way, we obtain things that we would like or want. I am going to give you (the time is one minute for year of age), to get your crying/screaming under control. Then I want you to get up and come to me, where I will be waiting (in a short distance, with my back to her unwanted behaviors, I do not respond to anything, except dangerous activities; I warn all other "interested parties," to leave her alone, and come speak to me first, to apologize for misbehaving. I do not say anything else, I turn my back, so not to provide focus on the unwanted behavior. I only warn that their time is up. If they do not get up, then they move to the time out space or chair, where they now get two minutes, and no attention from me. I have used this in stores, by placing her in closed areas to continue her timeouts, and this has worked greatly... I only had one actual public tantrum, and timeout, she knew we were not playing, because when she got up, I porceeded to take us home... this shocked her, because she continued learning about what was acceptable public behavior, through my story telling... this allows her to express what she was feeling, and I would teach her empathy towards others, and not getting her way... Occassionally, I had her donate a toy to the children who did not have bin, that we made for her to learn that she had to learn consequences for poor behavior... the punishment fit the crime, sort of way... It seems your son has learned that screaming gives him entitlement and rewards, so if you want this to stop you need to change your ways... Instead of making him sit after 2 minutes (the limit for his age), I would allow him to clean with you, this is an exceelent method to teach responsibility... No the kitchen does not have to be perfect, especially if your children learn to become independent, clean, responsible, and capable... Many children I am seeing today, have a ill-gotten sense of entitlement, spoiled for poor behaviors, and alot of learned helplessness... The chores can be done Mom, but include the children to help, so they learn to care for themselves, as productive, accountable, responsible adults... you need that in your old age... At age two, my daughter could bring the room receptacles to the kitchen for me to dump into the big trash, she learned how to replace the trash bags, and return the bins to each room. She could match socks (a chore I hated), this teaches cooridination, sorting, sequencing, attention to detail. she could place the plastic cups on the table for dinner, and the utensils on the table. She could hang her washcloth, and push her chair into the table... she was great at sweeping under the cabinets where things had fallen that I could not get... all of the things are the "little chores," that I gave to her, so she could be a "big girl, and have a sense of herself, as her independency grew within her... As she mastered one step, I taught the next one, until I built the ultimate daughter, that now handles her business, or as she says, "Mom, I've got this!" Now, as she reaches the age of 25, it brings a small lump in my throat, because now, as she is a Mother, I recognize, how time as flown... But, I look at the way she moves through life, with the skills, she learn during that first little tantrum, and I realize she is gonna be OK... Because, I set her on the right path, though it was hard, and made my maternal heart twist into knots, but, I knew that my ultimate job, was to one day let her go... And as I watch her with her own 10 month old daughter, teaching her the "little things," I know I made the right choice... Because she will be able to defend for herself, when I am long gone and worm food... And I know that my legacy, will be great, because I did a great job as a Mother, because I let my little birds... take flight... Good luck, Mom... YOU CAN DO IT!!!
Oh, I forgot to add this would be a great time to add sorytime to explain, Why jumoing is not good... I used the books entitled, "no more jumping on the bed," and did a safety class of allowing her to brainstorm why jumping and climbing, and even screaming when not an emergency is not a good thing... Like the boy who cried wolf, story teaches why no one listened when he really needed to have someone hear him, when it was a real emergency... Use your imagination, I bet you can think of a way to teach him, to fit his persona... Plus, going to the library is a great way to teach personal control in public places... I called the librarian, and she had told her the "rules for that area." and as a reward chart item, we added that she could have one extra book to take home from the library, if the librarian approved her reward chart for good personal control behavior... She did really well... Plus, learned to read, quite fast! Librarian love teaching children with books! Good luck!