Why Is This Time So Hard!?!?!

It took one cycle for me to get pregnant with #1 and #2 also.
With #3 we have been trying for 19 months.
I found out earlier this month that I have PCOS.
It was pretty much a miracle that I got pregnant on my own the first two times.

I would try for atleast 6 months and then talk to your OB/GYN if nothing has happened by then. I feel for you, I really do. Now that I know that it's slim to none that I will get pregnant without fertility drugs I have finally stopped being a poas addict. I swear I would pee on a stick every 2-3 days for a year. It will happen when the time is right!

You do have control over how you feel. Every time you're starting to feel impatient, tell yourself that you will patiently wait and think/do something else. It's not easy but over time you'll discover that you are waiting with less anxiety. The skill is called positive affirmations. The more you tell yourself that you are patient the more patient you become.

The same goes for impatience. The more you tell yourself you're impatient the more impatient you become.

With baby #1, I got prego without trying. Then baby #2, after SIX MONTHS I was still not pregnant. My baby was over three years old, and I'd had my cycle back for a while. I could not figure out what the deal was. I was even doing my temps and tracking when I was ovulating, etc. I could not manage to get pregnant, though.

In the end, a friend (herbalist) suggest I start drinking Red Raspberry Leaf Tea (it's herbal and great for all girlie things! It actually gets rid of PMS for me as well and lightens my period and takes away cramps as good as meds do). Anyway, so I was heart broken I wasn't pregnant yet. My husband was done trying, and this was my last chance.

After my period, I started drinking Red Raspberry Leaf Tea three times a day, every day. That's the time I ended up pregnant. If you're having any hormonal issues, RRL tea helps to balance hormones and increase fertility. So, if you're not pregnant, I HIGHLY recommend using this stuff. From seeing what this stuff does with my periods and then with fertility and even helping during pregnancy, I'm a huge believer in it now.

I don't know why sometimes it's harder to get pregnant than other times. I've since had three more pregnancies since then (we're prego with baby #5), and #3 & #4 were super easy to get prego. Then #5, we weren't even trying and got prego. So, it doesn't necessarily mean it'll be more difficult in the future should you want to try for more!

I feel the same as you - I HATE WAITING TO TAKE THE TEST!! And, I also feel bad feeling stressed over it when there are those that take YEARS to get pregnant. It doesn't lessen their grief or stress by you being stressed that it's taking you so long for YOU. You can't help how you feel...and my heart goes out to women who really, really struggle with getting pregnant.

I hope you're prego!!

EDIT: I just read the other comments. Relaxing is a good idea...but not always as easy as it is to say! You can be a stressed nut and still get prego. It's a rare case for stress to prevent a pregnancy. If you're like me, you'll start stressing over the fact you're feeling stressed and then feel more stressed! So, feel stressed if you feel it (allow yourself to without getting upset over it), try to calm yourself if you can, but if not, odds are it has nothing to do with your problem in getting prego. Are you nursing at all? Maybe your cycle isn't totally normal yet. Or maybe it'll just take a bit more time. It's normal for it to take a little while sometimes.

Relax! I know hard to say that but you have to let it go and have fun. Stop worrying. When we went for #3 I made sure that it was around ovulation time but that was it and put it out of my mind.

Try to keep your mind occupied with something else. I'd always try to just live my life, then I'd forget about it for a bit. It was easier to forget when I have other kids than when I was trying without any kids. Good luck!!

I don't know how old you are, but I do know that the older you get the harder it is to conceive. The biggest detriment to getting pregnant is worrying about it, which might be happening with you. As soon as you get worked up about being pregnant your body tends to put things on hold until you calm down. I just say go with the flow and let nature take its course.

I am not a patient person, so I have no advice on how to wait it out.
Sorry. = )

Good luck to you

Well my OB/GYN said, that if after trying for 6 months and nothing happens, to then tell him.

I assume, you are trying when you are ovulating??? Do you keep track of your cycles and ovulation symptoms, and KNOW when you are about to ovulate? This is important.

There are free 'ovulation calendars' online.
Maybe try that.
Just do a Google search for "free ovulation calendars.'

I luckily, got pregnant each time, within 6 months of trying. I simply knew when I was going to ovulate and knew the symptoms, then we'd have sex everyday for 1 week. And this was all when I was over 35 years old.
Got pregnant naturally each time.

It took 1 month to conceive our first two kids, and 10 months for #3! I am "older", at age 35 (just had #3). I finally bought an ovulation kit, and I was ovulating at a completely different time than I thought, even with regular cycles! In fact, because my doc went off of LMP for a due date, they had to move my due date almost 2 weeks later because I ovulated way later than "normal".
I think stress can totally affect this, even if you were stressed out before (I'm also a minister's wife :) I think stress affects us more as time goes by . . . and with 2 kids to manage, it's likely more intense now!
We actually made an appt. with the fertility doc at our OB office after 9+ months of trying, and little did I know that I was just barely pregnant at that appt.
And, I likely don't need to remind you, but this is in God's hands. We can't MAKE our bodies do something. Even though there is a biological reason for babies to be concieved, God's in charge of this, too (example being people who have miraculous babies, or surprise pregnancies that seem impossible!). Pray for patience. Pray for a baby. And pray for acceptance if this isn't part of His plan (I know that's a hard one, I was just at that point when I got preggers, which is good, because I was finally trusting in Him, rather than thinking having another baby was the most important thing).

#1 and #2 were conceived very easily...2-3 cycles. But #3 took nearly 9 months to conceive - it was so hard to wait and I would complusivly test all the time hoping. In the end, he came when he was suppose to be here. Now I am hoping for #4 and again it is hard to wait, but I know that he/she will come at their own time...in the mean time enjoy the baby making :)

Before you agree to Clomid, please consider learning Natural Family Planning (NFP) or Fertility Awareness Method (FAM). (You can find info online to help you find qualified NFP teachers.) These are scientifically-based methods that teach you how to recognize when you are ovulating. Every woman is different.You need to understand YOUR cycles. Most doctors know nothing about these natural methods, plus they don't make money off of them (like they do when they prescribe drugs), so I'm not surprised your doctor suggested Clomid rather than helping you work with your body's natural cycles. Also, stress can delay ovulation so keep that in mind when you are dealing with a lot of stress. Finally, try to relax and enjoy the "trying" part! :)

I know it's hard to wait when you are ready to have a baby, I have had a hard time concieving my children. Count your blessings, you have two healthy children and you know that you are pretty darn fertile. It took me almost two years of trying with fertility treatments to get pregannt with my third baby, I have poly cystic ovarian syndrome. Keep in mind that 3 months of trying is like nothing, basically no time at all! And don't let your baby hunger get in the way of enjoying the precious children that you have now. I don't think that you will need any fertility treatments at all, just chart your cycle and buy some ovulation tests to make sure that you are acctually ovulating. And keep sex with your husband fun and interesting, it can be easy when you're trying to get pregnant to make things too high pressure or obligitory rather than passionate. Best of luck!