L.E.
Hi, I'm new to this group. I don't really have any good suggestions for you but I wanted to let you know I could totally relate to you on the ADHD thing. I have 6 year old twin boys and one has officially been diagnosed with ADHD (through Schneider) and the other is exhibiting the same behavior (I'm positive he will be diagnosed this way too). I haven't started them on meds (I'd rather do it behaviorally if I can, but if not, I'm not totally against meds either). So...I guess I just wanted to reach out and give ya cyber hugs. ((HUGS)) Hang in there. I think the other ladies made great suggestions.
Can I just ask...have you tried any behavior modification with him? Or is it strictly medicinal? I've had a LOT of success with behavior charts with my boys. It might help if you haven't already tried it.