Keeping Romance Alive

My guy travels a lot. I put corny little love notes in his pockets before he's packed. I also send him sexy emails (this sounds like I'm a fabulous wife, but let me tell ya, I can be a colossal b****!), and some raunchy texts. When he's home, I try (and I DO really have to TRY) to touch him as often as possible. You are right, as wonderful as he is, most of the time I am wrapped up in some silly thing and cannot stand the sight of him! I have to force myself to give him a little something something, poor guy.

I don't have anything to add, but I am SO glad you asked this question!!! These ladies are probably help inspire a lot of us! Good luck!

Have someone else pick up the kids and when he arrives home, be dressed in a nightie or his tie only. Trust me, it works. Or, if the kids will be there, put the nightie on under something presentable, wait till the kids go to bed or take their showers, and viola!

Have sex someplace OTHER THAN A BED. I used to read all the time about people being spontaneous and having sex in other rooms of the house, or even outside the house, and thought it was all a bunch of bull. I can tell you, it isn't! Try it! A quickie in the spare bathroom/office while your kids are in the bathtub in the other bathroom....your husband will be making googly eyes at you the rest of the night!

Go out on a date. A real date. With NO KIDS. You get dressed up and everything! It works. Wear your sexiest undies. (Insert out of house sex idea here if you'd like!) Even families on a budget (who isn't!) can afford date night once a month. Budget for it. It will be so worth it. Drink wine, laugh and flirt!

Buy a new bra and panties - matching ones! It will make you feel sexier, and he will love to see the new duds!

REALLY listen to him the next time he is telling you about work or golf or something his buddy did that made him laugh. It is so easy to be distracted. Give him your full, undivided attention for a good span of time. (Insert quickie later that night here!)

If you are a stay at home mom, it is likely tempting to remain in your PJ's or sweats or less-than-sexy clothes when hubby returns home after work. Some days, do your hair and makeup, dress in nicer clothes. Let him see the sexy you. It really does make a difference.

Get to the gym - if you don't already. Working out creates a mood booster, makes you feel sexier and is just simply good for you. Going to the gym together is even better.

Write him a letter and leave it somewhere where he will find it when you are not around. That way he won't be reading it in front of you and feel obligated to react a certain way or uncomfortable in any way. Tell him how sexy he makes you feel in this letter, what a turn on he is to you, or things like what a good provider he is, good father, etc.

Put notes in his briefcase, coat pocket, his car, his mirror he gets ready for work in. Put on lipstick, kiss it, and write "can't wait to see you tonight", or whatever you are feeling about him that day. It might sound cheesy, but men love it! He loves you and will be thrilled! (Insert nightie or tie idea here!)

Send him sexy texts or messages (not through work email!) during the day about what you want to do to him or want him to do to you when he gets home or later that night, or simply to tell him you miss/love him. This always works wonders!

Cook him dinner and give him a back rub. This may or may not lead to sex, but sexy isn't always just about sex.

Make it a point to say "yes" the next 10 (or any number) times he asks for sex, EVEN if you really don't want to! (obviously if you are sick or something, this does not apply!) I never realized how hard it must be for husbands who initiate sex most if not all of the time, only to get turned down some of the time, and we women rarely have to initiate and if we do, they ALWAYS say yes. I seriously cannot think of a time I initiated sex with my hubby and he said no! Initiate sex girl! Your hubby will love it!

Make little comments about how manly he is. Don't make it too obvious, but a man loves to hear how he takes care of his family and is a real man. Point these things out as you see them. He will revel in his glory!

Happy romancing!

My husband says the best thing I can do is to initiate sex. He says that no amount of planning or money or things could ever amount to the thrill he gets when I come on to him...instead of him having to "ask" for it. It satisfies him to no end to see how turned on I am by him just being him.

LOL. dont wear underwear and "flash" him. he will follow you like a puppy! I always try to remember that men are visual creatures, so what better way to 'romance" him than letting him sneek a peek of your "cookie" when he expects it the least?

We have always had date night. Our daughter is almost 16 and date night has been a priority from day 1. We only miss it if someone is sick.

We do a variety of things for date night. You don't always have to spend a lot of money. Typically our sitter was $60-$80 a week for date night. We enjoy great restaurants, fine wine, nice upscale bars, sporting events and concerts.

On another perspective, hubby plays golf, I sometimes just ride along with him, we walk through the malls, or just talk long walks. We keep ourselves in shape and it is nothing to head out and walk 8 miles, talk and be together.

I in turn, keep myself in good shape, since becoming mom, I don't wear sweats all the time (don't own any actually), I get up, get myself together daily, sometimes will meet him for lunch with a miniskirt or jeans and a hot top, some sexy heels (although I don't wear the heels too much anymore).

A lot of it is in your head and just flirting and teasing him revs him up.

Good luck. We've been together 25 yrs so something is working somewhere.

Having a bath together
Love letters
Telling him what a good husband and father he is
Walks on the beach
Date nights at home-dinner,candles etc
Surprise massages
Sexy underwear
Its great to see a lovely question up here,a little break from the usual Mommy stresses,
I say your hubby is loving you
x B.

1. Date night - even a picnic in the backyard with candles
2. Shower together - and finish him
3. Shut the Door - at night, if our bedroom door is closed, that is our sign to the other person that we really want sex.
4. Cards - with a note about what a great provider, father, etc he is
5. TV time - while sitting on the couch watching Tv, I'll put my head on his lap and then a minute or more later, I'll start stroking, playing, etc through his pants. This makes him anticipate it for a while if I put my head there. He'll wonder if I'm going to do anything.
6. Wear matching underwear and make sure he has the opportunity to see you get dressed, but don't make a big deal out of it.
7. Buy a new toy. ;) I recommend We-vibe.
8. He has a stack of old Playboys from college...that have been in a box forever, so I'm trying to make more room in our home and have him get rid of them, which he forgot he even had. We go through them together before throwing them in the recycle bin. LOL
9. Weekends away or even a night away at a hotel once a year makes it fun. Hotel sex is always good!
10. Sex in different places - on the stairs, washing machine, in the car in the garage, etc.

Good luck!

My husband and I text each other things like "I love you" "I'm missing you" "I can't wait to kiss you" "I'm so happy you're mine!" and every once in a while, something a little naughty too :) Leave a note for him in his car, in his lunch, send him an email, make his favorite dessert or main dish, treat HIM to dinner or dessert somewhere. I've found when my hubby and I escape for a date night for dinner, the romance kicks in because it's just ME AND HIM. Turn the cell phone off for an hour. Maybe an after hours picnic on the living room floor once the kids are in bed. Cheese/strawberries/crackers/wine and candlelight and soft music - just time for the two of you . We've been married 26 years and we're more in love now than we were before and it's AWESOME!

Get the book The husband project" We just did this book in a moms group I am in and everybody loved it and got great responses. The authors intent is to have you do projects, at your pace, and treat your husband like you did when you were dating. They are easy, very inexpensive projects. You do it secretly, so your husband doesnt know. It is amazing how when you change things just a little, your husband changes too.
Have Fun!

When he's in the shower, join him. Even if you don't have time to do anything but wash each other's backs, it's a great way to get him thinking for the rest of the day.

My husband is an "acts of service" kind of guy. Little things like picking up his favorite soft drink at the store, or making cookies for him to take to work mean a lot to him and make him feel loved. When I am making the grocery list I ask him what he would most like to eat and then I make sure I put those things on the list. It is a way of letting him know he is being taken care of that I can work into my chores for the day or week. I try to kiss him (like the real kind and not just a peck) at least once a day even if that's the only time we get together.

The Five Love Languages is a really great book for figuring out how to best show your partner they are loved. If you find out how he experiences and expresses love then you can come up with some things that are tailor made especially for him.

Hope this helps,

L.

breakfast in bed, a new "outfit", full body massage, naughty text message or picture,a special dinner, (placemats, cloth napkins in napkin rings, appetizers, candlelight, his favorite dish and dessert.) a baby sitter for the the rest of the evening.

men are pretty simple i think

food

sex

sleep

Send naughty text, they love it. Text and tell him ur wearing a thong, he'll love it. Not the most romantic thing, but they love it. Even though they say they don't care about cards. Buy a "mushy" one and a naughty one and put them under his pillow, on his sink to find in am, or in his car so he finds it when he gets in.

You don't have to do big romantic "gestures" for guys just little things like that. Especially if it has something to do with sex.

Write a love note on his bathroom mirror with overhead washable markers.
Send texts during the work day letting him know you're thinking of him/thinking of what you might do that night;)

make a candle light dinner...me and my SO are flirty all of the time..makes us want each other more and keeps things fun

also here are a few other suggestions i found on a site that might help

http://www.theskinnyscoop.com/search/romantic?utm_campaig...

Check out this clean website http://christiannymphos.org/

Copy and paste this site into your internet explorer....it's 101 romantic ideas...some are great, some silly, but no harm in trying them.
Good luck!

http://www.scribd.com/doc/22755/101-Romantic-Ideas

We try to do date night at home once a week. Instead of paying for a sitter, we feed the kids, put them to bed, and then cook dinner for us together. We get to eat grown up food, sip our wine, and enjoy each other's company. It doesn't break the bank, and it's something we both enjoy. We probably go out twice a month, but date night lets us do something we'd already do (eat) without spending more on a sitter or a restaurant.